Jimbo

Thanks everyone; I wish I'd looked for this forum sooner as it's a help just to be understood. We found a great chap in Kent that has specialised for years in alcohol abuse and now specialises in AS - unfortunately he's out of our NHS Trust area so they won't refer us to him. We paid for an initial consultation and he has said we're definitely looking at something on the spectrum but to do the full assessment would be about �600 so that's on hold for the moment. As far as the NHS in our area goes - I give up! Thanks again, I'll definitely be keeping in touch! Jimbo

Thankyou. Everything you say about socialising is so true of my husband; we just don't socialise anymore, although I'm beginning to have a social life of my own which he is fine with. I think life could improve with a diagnosis and some guidance - has anyone found that a diagnosis helps? The specialists don't seem to understand why it's important to us (me more than him) for this condition to have a name as they say there is no cure, only management. We've been trying to get a diagnosis for 3 years but just keep being told that although thery're sure that's what it is it's out of their field so we're refered on. Is a diagnosis a good thing for the person with the condition or is it just an unhelpful label? Sorry, I just have so many questions I need answers to. Jimbo

Hi, I'm married to someone with all the signs of Aspergers but he's not yet formally diagnosed. Life is VERY difficult with that and the alcoholism and we are currently living apart while I recover from a breakdown. All sounds a bit grim but I'm quite positive about the future so don't want to depress anyone.

Thanks for helping me get the ball rolling; I didn't think I'd get a response so quick - look forward to hearing what anyone thinks. Jimbo

Hi, I'm new to this so bear with me if I make a few muck-ups! I'm interested to see if anyone else has had experience of an adult with AS who is also an alcoholic - not an easy combination to live with - or be married to! Jimbo