duncansmum

thanks everyone, now i understand a lot more, and now i know what to do, also it seems a real shame that the social worker could not of told me this, i also emailed someone i know at my local C A B and she told me that my socail worker could of applied to the courts to make me a guardian, but guess its always best to get it done through a solicitor and then everything done properly. thanks again

hello everyone has anyone had the problem i got, my son's socail worker keeps on about power of attorney or guardianship, i know nothing about this, at all, is it something i need to be sorting out soon or does this only apply when my son does leave home. can anyone help. thanks in advance

thanks everyone you know we as mums are always the ones that always seem to fight for what we think is right for our kids, and very often are the ones in the front line that get all the anger and frustration taken out on, but we too have needs, and i think there is only a few specail people who take on board the whole package, with our kids good and bad, and i am finding there are very special people who can do it. i try to see my best as i can to see things from my sons point of view as he the one thats going to need the extra help through life, i suppose the best thing i can do for is encourage him to talk to me, and no matter what other people think or want, just let him know he can count on his mum and dad. thanks so much for listerning.

hello everyone my son has asd and is 15 going on 16, and as we all know life with them and for them is not easy, but when he feel cross frustrated or simply dont understand, how can i help him feel better, and deal with his feelings, we have very little comuncation with his school and so i just wondering if anything has gone apart from if someone is off sick and him worrying whats going on, as we all know our kids do like there routine and dont take kindly to change anyone got any ideas how i can help.

i asked the teacher and she is not aware of how it happened and said it must off happened when he was at aurrida house ( which is a place he goes to after school ) i mentioned to them and they was not aware of it either, so at this point i ought to mention we are in the process of sorting a few things out with the school as i feel they dont understand him and i not the only one hubby does too as well, we are only talking about this school issue that is me and hubby when son not about as you just never know when they are listerning do you lol

hello can i ask some advice, when my son at school he really quiet and at home he totally the opposite noisy but happy, but just lately he has been coming home with his trousers torn in the crutch area, 2 days running, when i ask him if he OK he just says fine, and if i ask how is day has gone, he says fine, but you know how you get a six sense about things, for example he was a typical bad tempered teenager last night when he got out of the car after arriving home he slammed the car door which is nothing like him, i spoke to him and explained why i did not like him behaving that way, and when i spoke to him about what had happened about his trousers he did not want to tell me and didn't know how it happened, anyway i feel that something had gone on when i picked him up as he wasn't his usual self don't know what been going on but I feel some thing has upset him, could it be a clash with someone at school or something else, i don't know but I do really feel something wrong, I cant mention this to his teacher as she always says he OK but its bugging me, how i see it as his mum regarding his torn trousers could it be that he don't or cant tell anyone as he don't feel comfortable with them and i am the one than he feels he can confide in, I feel so sorry for him being autistic and a teenager and having low muscle tone cant help and he must find it difficult, its really sad if he cant and feel comfortable to talk to someone other than his parents any thoughts sylvia

my sons school think that too, there wonding if my son sleeping ok, and also trying to interfer in his home life as well but we not giving them a chance i never thought of what mani said because i am having a lot of bother with my sons school and its got to a point it going to all hopefully be sorted out by using the mediation service.

hello my son has the same trouble i give him calpol 6+ meltlets you can buy them from boots or any pharmacy you can get them in strawberry flavour which is what my son likes, recently he had to take a lot as he had toothache and really loved them so thats that problem solved if only other things could be solved so easily lol

hello my son is on the autistic specrtum and also has hypotonia, we feel it would be usueful to get his diaganois re done by some who knows about spectrum kids, as he is now 14 and i feel i think it would be useful, is this poosble and how would i go about it. thanks

hi is there anywhere where you can find a socail story about having vacination/inoculations

hi my son on the autistic spectrum and he due to have a booster for diptheria tetanus and polio and i just decided that he not going to have them, if they want want him to stay in the clinic for 20 minutes afterwards then there must be a good reason for that so i not taking him after all its our choice not there's and if he had a reaction then it would me my fault so i not going to have it.

hi i think they dont understand our kids and sometimes i think they think they know better, i must amit i fed up with my son school not approchable at all

hi not a great day for our family today, my son was very restless last night i managed to find out what was bothering him he told me he was worried about someone that he had met in the past and had not forgoten how he felt at the time, and this had also got him worrying about other things and he could not get to sleep, we have always tryed to encourange him to talk to us about whats bothering him and it seems to be paying off, anyway also his group tutor and another person was off sick and this also had not helped, i will add that we have felt for awhile that all not well with my son's school and are trying to get it sorted via mediation, so we are not at our best but no matter what things will get sorted, but why havent people who work with our kids got any feeling or are unable to talk to the kids and see there side and support the kids in what they want, instead of what they think is best and to hell with how the kids feel.

hello just a thought would you be able to get the c.a.b to fill them in for you, i already asked if they will help when i need to do it, and they said no problem. i am so glad i havent got to do it myself anymore i dont like them at all i dont think there is anyone who does

so sorry to hear of your sad news ((( ))) my mum inlaw died in july we all think about her and we have comfort from the memories of her best wishes