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  1. Hi all My son was diagnosed as High Functioning Autism/ Aspergers around 7 months ago, he is currently waiting for results of tests for ADHD. He is in main stream primary school Year 4 and until recently we had great difficulty getting the school to admit that he had any special needs. He has a talent for Maths and we are told by the school he is classed as Specially Gifted/Talented in this respect although I'm not really sure what this means as he doesn't seem to get any extra help in relation to his maths and when given the Year 6 text books finished them within a couple of weeks. He does the normal year 4 maths during class time and he worked through the year 6 book in his own time for "fun" (I'm not sure what the school will be teaching him in Maths over the next 2 years as that's the highest book they have) He is well behaved at school other than he has a very poor concentration span in class as he sees everything as "Boring" Pre Diagnosis we had no idea what a "Meltdown" was although his behaviour at home was getting worse as time went on. Since Diagnosis the Meltdowns have increased greatly in frequency and ferocity to the point that recently he has given his sister a black eye and split lip as well as pulling a knife on me and threatened his mum with a screw driver! We are attending Parenting Classes with an ASD Nurse at the local CAMHS (just started) and have just finished an Autism awareness course with the local autistic society. My son has been complaining that he is consistently being bullied and we have been into the school on many occasions, sent emails which haven't been responded to etc. We have also discovered that the meltdowns basically are triggered by things that happen at school, it started off with the bullying and progressed to being told off at school for not paying attention, to something a classmate or teacher had said to him to a change in teacher or timetable. We have had meetings with the Teacher, SENCO, FSA and a outreach teacher/ consultant from a local S.N School provided by the local authority where we were first told he had an IEP (We had never seen it before) and secondly were told that he was on School Action Plus. The school were very keen to tell the consultant that since they had given our son his own desk at the front of the class that his attention had improved and his disruption almost disappeared. The school also agreed to tell us each day when we picked him up if their had been any upset or incidents that may lead to a meltdown, so that we could try and intervene before it happened, they did do this for the first 2 days but nothing since and we have had 4 meltdowns in the last week, each lasting for hours until he falls asleep through exhaustion. Last week we had a major meltdown where he told me he was going to get some scissors to make sure I couldn't see anymore, we later worked out that this had been triggered by his teacher removing "his desk" and telling him he didn't need it any more! She hadn't consulted us on this and when we questioned this she told us that she had forgot to tell us and had done it to "reintegrate" him into the class before he goes up to Year 5 (He can cope with group work as long as he has his own workspace for the majority or non group work time). She said in front of him "Because he wont be able to have his own desk then" Again I would have thought the school would have been grateful that we had found a way to stop him disrupting whole lessons! After we told the teacher about the meltdown he got his desk back.,1 week later he arrived home, burst into tears saying they have taken my desk away again, yet again nothing from the school. A joint "sort of CAF" was recently submitted, I say "sort of" as it was a CAF form that went to a panel of professionals, we weren't allowed to attend as they were discussing many cases, they replied that as we were attending the Autism Awareness Course there was nothing more they can do. I tried to get help from Social Services to be told that as my son wasn't being abused we couldn't even get help, I have since requested a statutory assessment of Needs for the Family but live in hope? The Senco suggested that we might want to look at applying for a statement (although the Head almost laughed at the idea) on Social Emotional and Behavioural Grounds, she asked an Ed Psych to meet with our son but we have been told he has refused as our son is above average educationally. I have found a letter requesting an assessment for SEN and started typing it up but would be grateful of any ideas of what I should say about why the school can't meet his SEN? His Latest Maths Grade has gone down and I am worried that he is just not bothering now! Are there any other things I can say to the school or at least ways that I can try to get them to work with us as to opposed to us by their ignorance of ASD. Our house is a complete battlefield at least 2 or 3 days a week all because of silly things the school do ignorant of the knock on effects as soon as we get him home. Phhewww Sorry for the length of my first post!!
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