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He is twelve , has been out of school through anxiety for the last year. He see a pyschiatrist for medication, pyschologist would do cbt but he is selective mute and can't talk to them. He sees a pead every few months. He has no SALT or OT. Thank you,

Hi, Could anyone tell me what I have to do to request a SA. I am going to apply in my own right but don't know what I should say or how to write ? I have seen some templates for letters but still not sure what I should add to it. Should I also include reports from professionals, iep's etc. Thanks in advance.

sorry about typing errors ,it is this tablet, well i will blame the tablet anyway as i don't blame myself anymore.

Thank you all, really appreciate and have taken your advice, will get sa snt off and ge camhs to write a letter and i will not say i am anxious anymore or show it if i a. wish i had spoken to you all before the meeting, will let you know how i get on.

Thank you all for your help, much appreciated, feel a bit better now and hope i haven't messed it up too much. Will see about a SA , will ring parent partnership up on Monday for some more info.

sorry last bit was meant to be if my son went to school happy then i wouldn't feel this way

They are setting up a caf which involv the high school and not the primary. I don't show my anxiety very much just some days it is horrendous getting him there. School have been awful and i haven't felt supported at all, if my son's needs were better met then he wouldn't be anxious and if he wasn't anxious then I wouldn't be also. I have asked for meetings with the senco and she was so rude to me ,that she was too busy,didn't feel there was a need for one that i backed down.Parent partership were going to come with me and couldn't believe what was said. There have been loads more things i could write but won't but i now feel under pressure from the school no t to be anxious but if my went to school happy then i would feel this way

He is ok once in for a bit and settles down,he does cry in some lessons ,says that he doesn't understand and he comes out angry a lot and hits me.They always say he is fine. on the way home yesterday he stopped in the middle of the road and sobbed his heart out saying he didn't want to go to high school. He says he is scared of everything to do with high school. If I am anxious I don't mind going to the doctors but I only feel anxious when at the school. His behaviour is good at school as he hates looking different so he tries to blend into the back ground as much as possible,he won't ask for help so he sits there not getting what he is meant to do. He hates certain lessons and certain teachers and says they scare him. He is also like this at dentist and hospitals, he is terrified of going in them. Do you think Camhs will insist I see a doctor because I will go next week if i have to ,would rather go on my own than be told.

He goes to a mainstream school and starts high school in September. He has no statement but is on school action plus..I said I do sometimes feel anxious when going getting at school as I have had to drag my son to school with him hitting and kicking me.Oh dear is that bad ! I said that I have been dragging him to school since sept and not sure if the school understand how hard it is for me. She asked me what he was scared of and I said there was a certain teacher who he is scared of but I think a lot has to do with going to high school. I think I spoke to quickly and said too much. It worries me what they think and now it looks like they will blame me , they will when they hear about what primary has to say as I know they are fed up with me. Senco just says be more firm, boundaries, he is playing games, she says I am anxious when i get to school,sometimes i am i admit but not all the time. Yesterday he had a visit to the high school and he really hit me in the playground. school will tell them i am anxious anyway . He says he is scared because he doesn't understand things that are said to him in lessons and he panicks that if he hasn't done enough work that he might go into detention. I am sitting here now worrying that camhs will think i am anxious,what do they do if they think you are,it makes me scared.

Forgot to add my son is very anxious about school and think i am anxious too.

I am a Mum with a 10 year old high functioning son. I have had a terrible time since september getting my son to school ,i usually have to drag him there. I have broken down and cried at school a few times when it has been particulay bad and the Head did say once that maybe I should a doctor who may be able to help me. I have had a camhs visit about my son and i cried in this meeting when talking about how bad it has been. I think i talked really fast as well, now i am really worried about how i came across. When i cried the camhs person also said have i been to the doctor. She is going to do a caf with me soon.

I had the swine flu jab and so has my 8 year old who has autism and asthma.We had no reactions at all apart from a bit of a sore arm. I wasn't sure either to let him have it but he gets so poorly when he is ill and I am glad now that I did have it done for him.

Hi VenusDoom, I wouldn't be too worried about nappies, my asd son was 7 when he was out of pull ups and he has only wet the bed twice in a year and my nearly 6 year old nt is still in pull ups,we tried a couple of nights ago again with him but he still wets the bed , so don't be too worried it will happen when he is ready.

The school my son goes to has a ban on chocalate bars, they can have choc biscuits but not solid choc bars. I have a terrible time trying to put thinngs in my sons lunch box.Today it was 2 breakaway bars( 2 because they have now got a new wrapper and a different pattern on the actual choc bar so didn't know which he would eat), 4 custard creams(have to make sure no bits are missing and that the cream filling has not gone onto the outside of the biscuit) and a yogurt.He used to have a pkt of crisps but now refuses to eat them.He will not eat sandwiches or fruit, in fact the only other things he will eat are ready brek and his baby jars that i mix with mashed potato. These schools should recognise that these kids are not just fussy but do have a geniune problem with food. If my son ate anything different or with lumps in it he would also gag and throw up.I would love him to eat healthier food at school but it just won't happen.

Thanks JsMum, I will look into SS, I would not feel at all embarressed to ask for help if I thought I needed it.I thought I would also phone the NAS to see about help on behavour techniques which is where some of the problems are. Thank you for helping.