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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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  1. There are lots of us out there. If you spot me it's probably because I've done something wrong - so I hope you don't. I'm in the first segment which starts just after after 9 and goes on for about 15 mins. Enjoy. Go London!!!! :first:
  2. ... but probably briefly. Apologies for being away for so long. Reasons: IT letting me down, busy with full time work, and for the last 3 months, rehearsals every weekend for the Olympics opening ceremony. Yes, I'm really in it, and it's going to be really really good. Do watch. K x
  3. Sorry to hear that. Going off on a trip is a big undertaking for most children his age - no shame to him that he couldn't manage it this time. Maybe one day he will. <'> K x
  4. And criticism has often been levelled at us for not reacting enough.... Probably means we have got it about right most of the time. Anyway, do I care? Nope. :whistle: K x
  5. Hi Julieanne, Good to see you back, and glad to hear that you have been able to move on - hope the college job is working out OK.. You have a lot of guts for standing up for this student and I'm sorry it hasn't worked out well for her. As I'm sure you're aware, her paents should never have allowed the statement to end and should have appealed the decision to cease to maintain. However, what's done is done. It will be a hard battle getting it back - perhaps worth a go if she's staying on another year - but even then, as she will have to go through the whole process again, statutory assessment etc, with the possibility of an appeal at every stage, she is unlikely to get anything before she leaves school. My be worth it just to get the LA off their backside and doing something for this young lady, but parents will really need to be up for it - if not - then she would need very good legal support to navigate through this. Interesting what you say about the college not supporting "non statemented" students - they simply cannot have such a blanket policy, it would surely fall foul of the Equality Act. It would be worth parents getting hold of their equality policy and possibly challenging them via judicial review for not following it. Again, good legal support essential. What the LA should do is a section 139A Learning Difficulty Assessment to determine what her needs are in further education, they don't have to do this for a pupil without a statement, but they can. As she has had a statement, a case could be made that she needs one, based on the criteria in the Code of Practice. In answer to your last question - there are many tricky issues regarding Academies and the law, but as far as this statementing issue is concerned, it doesn't make any difference - same duties apply. Check the Funding Agreement to be absolutely sure. K x
  6. Sounds like a great idea, Tally. K x
  7. As others have said, the incident is good evidence that school isn't working out for your son and he needs more help. However, in answer to your original question, the exclusion of a disabled child is not necessarily discrimination if the school can show justification. The head might exclude if s/he considers the pupil to be a risk to themselves or others- for exple if they are so wound up they might lash out at anybody- including the next child who upsets them. Having spent a long time advising on exclusions, I have to say that one day exclusion for a physical assault on an adult is very lenient indeed. Normally a much longer term would be imposed, and many schools would permanently exclude for this. It would appear that the school has already taken your son's disability into account in imposing the punishment, even if events leading up to it could have been handled better. K x
  8. Hi, I remember you. You've obviously been through a lot in the meantime- well done for coping with it all. Good to hear your health is better and that your family are more stable and settled now. Welcome back. K x
  9. Apology accepted LancsLad, and I'm sorry for diverting this discussion down a somewhat different path! K x.
  10. So true, as my daughter found. She hated facebook and decided to erase her account but when she went to uni she soon found that not being on facebook was a major disadvantage, not just socially but academically as well. She was forced to rejoin. I find as many have said, that the world of facebook is often banal and irritating and most of its offerings are instantly forgettable. However it has its moments. Through facebook I have made contact with an old and close friend I thought I had lost contact with forever. I would never have plucked up courage to ring her but found her on facebook and sent her a friend request and the friendship resumed from there. Through facebook I have also discovered that one of my most influential teachers from junior school , whom I assumed had long since passed on, is alive and well at 88 and I am composing an email to her. On balance, I think it's a good thing. K x
  11. Sorry to hear this - it's a difficult enough situation without the added confusion and uncertainty. Thinking of you tomorrow and over the coming week, Mandapanda, keep us posted as to what happens, K x
  12. Hi Lizziesfolks I hope you find what you are looking for. There are a couple of blog based sites recommended by my own daughter: Live Journal has many communities catering for all kinds of people so you might find something there. Dreamwidth is another similar site but smaller. The question of whether there should be a section of the forum for teens has come up before - see below for one such discussion: http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?/topic/19323-kids-forum-board/page__p__237298__hl__+forum%20+teenagers__fromsearch__1#entry237298 I would still hold the same view as I did back then. The problem is that such a forum is always going to have to be tightly and constantly moderated - by somebody - and that's going to require a huge commitment - from somebody. It's not surprising that no one has volunteered to do it. There have been teens on this forum, but not many stick around and there is no indication that many young people are desperate to post here - it's the adults who tend to think it's a good idea. There are probably more interesting places on the web for young people to be. K x
  13. This show isn't connected with a particular movement or organisation, there are a large number of exhibitors at the event representing a wide number of approaches. More here: http://www.autismshow.co.uk/ Probably most useful for parents of newly diagnosed children, but I wouldn't recommend that parents take their children. K x
  14. Thankyou Darkshine for responding to what I actually wrote and not attacking me for something I didn't say. I think the negative responses below illustrate very well what I was saying. We have the "NT view" and even the "NT parent view" and the "AS view" - is it possible on this forum any more just to have a view as an individual, I wonder? I still maintain the programme - or series- is designed to be a freakshow, and I'm looking at the whole of it, not just the part showing the autistic individual. That's how it was advertised - did anyone see the newspaper ads showing 6 people with various disfigurements? Can anyone be in any doubt that the hoped for public response would be "eeugh"! followed by curiosity? I may be wrong about the actual programme. I chose not to watch this, but that was an individual decision about what I choose to entertain me in the evenings, and I don't see why I should be attacked for it - I don't condemn anyone else for making a different choice and I don't see why this should become an NT vs AS issue . A few people with AS liked the programme - what does that prove? My daughter, who has an AS diagnosis, had a similar reaction to me and refused to watch it. And no, not all programmes with autistic people in them could be described as freakshows - there have been some wonderful and sensitively made programmes over the years, featuring individuals with autism. Happy to engage in debate but please don't ascribe views to me I haven't expressed. Before throwing a wobbly, Lyndalou, maybe you should have gone back and looked at what I actually said? Where did I say that this forum was mainly for "parents who believe themselves to be non autistics". ?? What I said was, as Darkshine pointed out, was that this forum was set up by a parent. That's a fact. It was never intended to be exclusively for parents, as the front page blurb, which has remained the same over the years, indicates, and it never has been. There was a time when most of the active posters appeared to be parents, that's just the way things were. However what everyone liked about the forum was the way adults with AS, and parents who may or may not have AS, joined in discussions and respected each others' very different perspectives. As a parent with a newly diagnosed teenager who had trouble expressing how things were for her, I valued the chance to learn from adults who had AS. We also had a lot of fun at one time - there were lots of wacky light hearted off topic threads. Now the balance seems to have shifted a bit and the majoriy of active posters appear to be adults with AS or seeking an AS diagnosis . Many of the general discussions I feel I can't contribute to because it appears that the poster is seeking contributions only from people with AS. In addition, some of the views expressed about "NT's" and "NT behaviour" are intolerant and even offensive and that never used to be the case. I am perhaps in a minority as I do not have AS and my child is now an adult, but I have been here 7 years and in the last few months I have begun to feel almost like an outsider when I read some of the threads. This is just an observation so please don't attack me for it. All forums change over time and maybe this one is evolving into something different to what it used to be. Would be interested to hear other people's views. K x
  15. I helped out on IPSEA's stand last year - think there is a thread about last year's event somewhere here. One of the members of this forum also spoke very well about being a univrrsity student with AS. It was an interesting event but I think a lot of people with autistic children found it a bit busy and noisy. Don't think I'll be there this year as there's too much going on for me around that time. K x