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Hi everyone - it's been ages since I've posted - I've missed you all!! Trying times here - far too long to go in to now - feel like I've lost myself in sorting out all the kids probs for so long (well trying to sort them out anyway ) not had any time or energy for much else, but we're getting there (again) I think now, so am hoping to be around more from now on - hope folks on here doing ok, will try and catch up a bit now . anyways - nice to be back, luv Witsend.

Hi - as you know haven't been around much lately, am missing reading the posts, and hope to get back to my more usual compulsive attedence soon! Been having a pretty rough time here lately but am begining to feel a bit more positive again and (slowly) sorting stuff out, am off work this week so am able to catch up a bit. So the little one got his ADHD dx last week, not a surprise but had a couple of tearful days but have recovered now . He is now being 'handed over' to the ADHD clinic to be 'mananged' by them (well good luck to them is all I can say!! ), seriously though it looks like the intention is to start him on medication so I'm having quite a lot of angst about that but am trying to keep open minded and positive and will just cross that bridge when I come to it. I know a fair bit about ADHD but am no expert, if anyone knows of any good websites/books about it please feel free to recommend them, all gratefully recieved. Am doing DLA forms this morning (afternoon and evening ) so that's fun (NOT). Little ones cons said I should apply for him and oldest son's is due for renewal. However don't actually know if I can face claiming for both feel like the DLA people will think I'm making it up or something applying for both kids, plus don't think older sons probs are as pronounced as they were when I first claimed for him. Anyway am just thinking aloud now, better get back to the form filling! Luv Witsend.

Thank you - all of you <'> . Luv Witsend.

Hi just wanted to post 'cos I've not been aorund much recently (and obviously you'll be msissing me!! ) I'm missing reading the posts and catching up with all your lives.....but things here aren't great. Little ones behaviour has been off the scale recently and I'm worn out coping with it, I'm also preparfing info etc and gearing up to try and get stuff more sorted for him (ie diagnosis, statement etc) it seems most likely he has ADHD which has long since been suspected but seems to be glaringly obvious now and all the associated problems are really evident now, maybe somewthing to do with his age - I don't know. Anyway that's what's taking up my time and energy really, plus course work and work work, plus school holidays (which have been hell so far!)..........feel a biut like I did when I first joined this forum years ago (ie at my witsend! ) but back then it was older son who was the major concern, just feels like de javu (sure I've spelt that wrong in a Derek trotter way ) . On a positive note older son is doing really well at the moment I'm very proud of him so I know there's light at the end of the tunnel with little 'un, just hard work at the mo! So if I'm a bit absent for a while that's why, but I'm sure I'll be back before too long once I've re charged . <'> To you all - Luv Witsend.

Hi all - sorry not been around much at all lately - have been feeling a bit low and like tons of things ganging up on me for my attention, haven't had much time or energy to post Did just want to ask is there a cut off date for re applying for DLA. Eldest sons will run out in July and re applying is one of the many things I can't face doing right now, but they have sent me 2 reminders already so I'm feeling a bit panicky about it, does any one know how far in advance you need to make the re application? Cheers Luv Witsend.

My son always says he feels sorry for all those old people who have to live in 'retirement zones'!! think he means 'homes' but I still like his version better. Luv Witsend.

Hi - just wanted to add that I feel quite reassured by reading this thread as my son sometimes says this sort of thing - not always directed at me but always to me, I think sometimes he thinks it's funny and sometimes he likes to shock a bit and sometimes it's an run on to his prediliction for gory and macarbre stuff! I have at times when he was younger been really worried about it, and find it's something I can't/don't really talk about with other people because I presume they will think he has violent/nasty tendencies which he doesn't. He actually is quite sentimental and soft hearted about a lot of things, he is protective of animals (rescues stray dogs ), regularly gives his pocket money to the 'tramps' in town and can get very enthusiastic about making a victoria sponge! I guess what I'm trying to say is that my son has lots of facets to his personality and character, but 'other people' especially school don't see that, they just focus in on what they perceive to be the 'negative' things such as his fascination with the macarbre and tbh they get their knickers in a twist about it . So again it's reassuring to me to read some of these posts in particular 'kindas'. Sorry went off on a bit of rant of my own their but Mel - I don't think you need to worry 'bout it <'> Luv Witsend.

Hi lisa - have to say I think it does come down to what the statement says, my son is in independant mainstream (I think we've conversed before) and they follow the statement very well but don't know what they would do (or not do ) if the statement wasn't in place - not as much I suspect - as you are only paying for what is there already rather than any extras IYSWIM. Take care Luv Witsend.

Good for you Lucas - bet they weren't expecting that!!! Luv Witsend.

Hi - yeah this is interesting, I don't often dwell on the 'causes' thing but have to say my son (and I) did have a 'difficult' birth, I remember them saying he was getting 'distressed' which I now think must mean he was short of O2! I bled (sorry can't spell heamorraging!! ) afterwards so was immediately dragged off to theatre, often wish I could remember more about the event or see the notes!! Having said that I also tend to believe in the genetic angle, and also I often wonder if there is a link with stressfull pregnancy (which I also had ) I always come back to thinking whatever the cause things are as they are and we get on with it but it is an interesting subject per se! Luv Witsend.

Hi and welcome - it's great here Luv Witsend.

I'll miss you - Fran take care <'> Luv Witsend.

Hi Annea - I'm in the same boat at the moment, cons paed can't/won't dx little un with ADHD until school send forms (which they were supposed to months ago and haven't! ) and also wants him to see school ed psych for another report school looked at me like I was asking for a miracle when I mentioned that Have been so busy have let it slide a bit so know I feel bad, but am planning a surprise ambush on them all next week!! Doesn't it make you Have you rung the school again? How did you get on? Luv Witsend.

Good news about the DLA - got to reapply for Ds's soon - at the moment - I just have it hidden in a draw so I don't have to look at it!! Luv Witsend.

Hi Diane - welcome to the forum <'> Luv Witsend.