jenny1969 Report post Posted June 19, 2005 hi everyone at the moment i dont know whats up with me everythings getting to me little things are making me cry i feel so stressed at the moment i am snapping at everyone all the kids my hubby im so tired as well i dont think that helps it upsets me when i know my little girl who has a dx of asd asks for me all the time at school i know she does this when she is somewhere she doesnt want to be also the other children dont play with her at playtime i am driving myself insane thinking about it i have took everthing in my stride since her dx at 3 but all of a sudden i feel like im falling apart my hubby wants me to go to the gp and sometimes i think yes i need to go then i bottle out and dont make the appointment i dont want to be fobbed off with tablets but i have been thinking maybe herbal would help any ideas sorry for going on a bit jenny Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KarenT Report post Posted June 19, 2005 Jenny, please don't assume that being prescribed medication is being 'fobbed off'. If they work for you they can change your life and help you get through the tough times, so it's definitely worth a go. Please phone your gp tomorrow and make the appointment. I personally can't take a-ds but I'd strongly advise anyone to at least try them because they can make such a difference. It might also be worth asking your gp about specialist counselling, which might also give you the opportunity to offload. Hope tomorrow's a better day for you. Karen x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest flutter Report post Posted June 19, 2005 You must go and see gp!! you have a lot on your plate, anti'd's need not be a fobbing off, try seeing them more as a crutch in a bad time. As for your daughter at school: how bout a badge with a photo of you on it? or another one we have done is a long piece of ribbon cut into as many pieces for all the family. you all keep a wee bit and then you are all "joined" together at all times. alternativly the school could be told why she asks for you and they could try and support her there? take care thinkin of you C x <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jenny1969 Report post Posted June 19, 2005 thanks for your support and ideas i will phone the gp in the morning and the photo idea is great i am going to look for a photo its great getting ideas from mums who just know how to help its much needed thanks jenny x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted June 19, 2005 Jenny, I agree, grab whatever help is going to see you through this difficult time. Just sending <'> <'> K Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
call me jaded Report post Posted June 19, 2005 The needs of the carer are often overlooked, often by themselves. There is an airline analogy which goes something like this: When the oxygen masks come down, fix your own mask first before going to the aid of others. So. Time to look after yourself. I reckon I have never actually needed ADs because of my long term intake of omegas due to my arthritic hip. If you look up depression and fish oil you will see a connection with serotonin uptake, which is what some ADs do in a different form. No side effects that I can ascertain. I would strongly advocate going to your GP to ask for counselling. The other thing I have done is take up a hobby which is entirely unrelated to my children. This is my sanity. I schedule time to do it and my family understand that this is golden time for me. Although sceptical at first, Mr Jaded is now a strong advocate. Just my two penn-orth Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Elanor Report post Posted June 20, 2005 Hi Jenny You are under a lot of pressure, and have been for a long time - you'll not be the first to find that the strain can get too much. I hope your GP will help - mine surprised me, I didn't expect him to be so nice about it all. I did take anti-depressants for a while (about 6 months) - and they really helped, and it wasn't hard to stop taking them. I have also taken St John's Wort (but not at the same time as anti-ds - it can be a dangerous combination) - it is a useful herbal remedy, and I found it worked well as a short-term support. I'd take it again any time I felt that things were looking too bleak - you know, when you just can't shake yourself out of feeling low, and it's been going on for weeks. The other great thing is exercise - even just a brisk 20 min walk. It gives you an excuse to get out, and really helps as a pick-me-up. Elanor Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Corcaigh Report post Posted June 20, 2005 The needs of the carer are often overlooked, often by themselves. There is an airline analogy which goes something like this: When the oxygen masks come down, fix your own mask first before going to the aid of others. So. Time to look after yourself. Very good analogy. Four years ago I was in your same situation. Therapy and medications helped and now I am fully myself. I learnt my lesson: if I am not well, my children will not be either. Don't be afraid of AD, and consider also a good therapist, maybe for the whole family. Believe me: it helps. Keep your chin up, you're going to make it. In the meanwhile <'> <'> <'> Martina Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baileyj Report post Posted June 21, 2005 Hi Jenny, go to your GP. I was like you before XMas, I went to my GP and she signed me off work for a month, and offered to send the surgery counsellor round. I didn't have the counsellor, but just going to the GP saved my sanity, just to be told it was OK to feel that way really helped. Please give it a try. Jo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jenny1969 Report post Posted June 22, 2005 thanks to everyone phoned the gp feels nice to have so much support from you all thanks again jenny x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites