Sa Skimrande Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Enjoy; http://laughingthroughtears.com/2011/10/21/top-five-reasons-you-should-never--off-an-autism-mom/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suze Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Gosh ...........never felt like that or dealt with that.For me autism is part of my son and makes him who he is.I never felt anger and rage ......there were times when depression struck me but that was usually due to dealing with the experts not dealing with my son. The link is very Americanised .........and it leaves me feeling uncomfortable to me ranting at somebody else makes me no better than them.They are the person with the problem, not the parent or the child with autism... ............only my view I know all kids are different and all parents face different challenges as do their kids xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shnoing Report post Posted January 19, 2013 It seems that the problems mentioned there don't arise from autism, but from a combination with a mental handicap (= LFA?). Normally (?), it would be easy to explain rules to autistic children (re. that broken-ankle-post by RaqOsaid/ December 26, 2012 at 5:21 PM) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sa Skimrande Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Gosh ...........never felt like that or dealt with that.For me autism is part of my son and makes him who he is.I never felt anger and rage ......there were times when depression struck me but that was usually due to dealing with the experts not dealing with my son. The link is very Americanised .........and it leaves me feeling uncomfortable to me ranting at somebody else makes me no better than them.They are the person with the problem, not the parent or the child with autism... ............only my view I know all kids are different and all parents face different challenges as do their kids xx So, you haven't had the situation where you are getting the icy stares and nasty comments in public for the way your child behaved ? Because someone on here did and they posted a thread about it not so long ago and when I saw this article, that thread popped into my mind and so thought it might be of use here for those that experience other members of the public and their often unkind attitudes towards ASD children. Something about Americans I have discovered, they are not scared to say their piece and invariable they will, now that might be because they live in the land of the free, but I have noticed on the net the vast majority of anything positive about ASD is American, Britain appears strangely quiet. But ref. Shnoing ; What was picked up there could also be linked to a thread started on here entitled; Is ASD and Excuse to Misbehave In that out of sight is out of mind and behaviours learned at home often transfer to the outside world and if sitting on people and kicking and all that is accepted at home through the belief that it is an ASD component, then it will transfer to outside and others. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lyndalou Report post Posted January 19, 2013 I'm sorry Sa Skimrande but I find this piece and the accompanying postings extremely uncomfortable to read. It is full of anger and vitriol and to my mind is the reason people can stop listening to sensible dialogue about autism. If I came across these parents I'd give them a very wide berth. If this is how they live their lives, on the defensive and on the attack then it's pretty clear that this will transfer to their children in turn and it's little wonder that they would 'play up' in public ahich may be more about their parent's attitudes and the examples they are being set than their autism in some cases. Horrible horrible. Yes, as a parent of a child with autism it can be a lonely place to be, especially being on the spectrum myself. People don't understand - that is very true - I've had the 'looks' and I speak to the people who think they know what it's all about when they don't. Yes, it makes me angry and upset and at times it makes me pretty depressed because I feel like I'm banging my head repeatedly off a wall but it wouldn't help my 'cause' one little bit to bawl people out in the street or scream at them that it's because my child has autism. I love my children but they drive me mental as all children can. It is hard work being a parent but the only way we can teach our children with ASD is to try to set them as good an example as possible of how to treat others with respect even if it's not necessarily a two-way thing. I'd rather ignore the ignorant than mudsling in the dirt with them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shnoing Report post Posted January 20, 2013 One more thought: it seems that fathers get much less criticism re. their children than mothers do. Whatever the reason for this is. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mannify Report post Posted January 20, 2013 My mum annoys me, Lyndalou. For example, she was out with the children and another family was apparently disdainful of my sons' behaviour. She related proudly later that she said loudly, 'We're an autism family'. I was most unimpressed! We're a family. That's the reason not to stare; whether ASDs are present or not, it's not polite to stare, and like you, Lyndalou' I prefer to simply ignore it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sa Skimrande Report post Posted January 21, 2013 One more thought: it seems that fathers get much less criticism re. their children than mothers do. Whatever the reason for this is. Fathers of children erstwhile males tend to get ignored in most other things to do with families unless it is something bad, so why not continue the trend with this, as might have been noticed a father commented on the article to ask to remember fathers, and brush weeds blew by. But really, the posting of this article on here was supposed to be a bit of humour that perhaps some parents might be able to relate to but it seems viewers have got the complete wrong end of the stick. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites