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cutie

I am an adult with AS

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Please can you tell me if this forums is for adults as well as children? Are there any other adults on here with AS?

 

I am a law post-grad student aged 24 with ADHD, AS, Dyslexia and i sometimes get depressed.

 

I like keeping track of the weather especially extreme types like hurricanes in the USA. I find them interesting.

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Yes we do have some adults here with AS. Most post on a regular basis.

 

Nice to see you here

 

Carole (parent)

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Hi Cutie -

we have quite a few diagnosed adults here on the forum, and a number of highly suspect parents who haven't actually got a diagnosis but suspect their children's diagnosis might be genetic in origin!

Several of our members who are diagnosed log on to other forums too; If you search posts by Lucas and Amy you'll find all sorts of links. Don't pass us over, though - a fair exchange of knowledge and perspectives is a good thing all round, and in general we're a lovely lot around here! (OK, I admit, I can get quite annoying sometimes but the rest of them are OK ;) )

Hope to be posting with you again soon

L&P

BD :D

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Hi cutie,

 

Gordie is an adult with AS and is very helpful. B)

 

Welcome to the forum, I look forward to some helpful advice from your perspective and I'm sure there are many people who can give you advice or suport or just somewhere to come for a chat. Everyone is very nice here we are like one big happy family. >:D<<'>

 

Viper.

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Hi Cutie and welcome to the forum :)

 

You've clearly done extremely well academically...do you mind my asking how you found dealing with school and university?

 

My son is 16, and has AS, ADHD and Dyspraxia. He started at a residential special school for AS in November, after a very traumatic time in mainstream. We're hoping he will go on to a special FE college for AS, and he has recently expressed an interest in going to university to do computer animation.

 

Did/do you have any specialist support at university?

 

Thanks for listening!

 

Bid :)

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Wow thankyou so much for making me feel so welcome to this place already. I got some happy feelings from reading what you have said.

 

I will be sure to keep an eye out for other adults with AS, but I like the idea of giving my perspective and advice (if i can) on things for parents with AS kids and even those parents with un-diagnosed AS.

 

My AS sadly has only just been diagnosed. Infact it was dianosed just under 2 months ago!

 

I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 17 (and like I said im now 24).

 

I was diagnosed with dyslexia during the first year of my law degree (at the age of 21).

 

Bid, sadly school was awful for me as far back as I can remember in primary school I was always in trouble for doing naughty things. I was never agressive towards others in my primary school years, I just used to be very insecure because no one wanted to play with me and most never liked me apart from the odd person. They (peers) used to take advantage of me and i used to get the blame for things i sometimes did not do. Teachers used to think I had hearing problems because they said that I did not repond to them and made my mum take me for testing which came back normal. I just wanted people to like me and so would do anything for them pr if i was asked to do something then i would.

 

I was the best reader in my primary years and advanced in that respect. I just found it hard to get my peers to like me or treat me as an equal. My mum, to this day never fully understood how hard it was for me at primary school. I never knew it would get worse at secondary school!

 

I do not know if this is AS or ADHD but I would have unnatural attachments to my teachers and want to hug them and hold there hands and get one to one time with them. I was 8 and I would have to hug my yr 3 teacher everyday after school (and even kiss her!). I guess the word is loving child but the fact that I would just do that is a worry when i look back.

 

As for secondary school well this is when I just fell to pieces. I produced very odd behaviour throughout my time there (not giving eye contact, hiding my head in my school bag throughout some lessons, being shouted at made me run away and out of class etc etc). I was almost statmented and think we got up to a stage 3 or 4 but i got sent to a day unit at the local child psycharity department and was never allowed to return. It is sad that throughout my school years not once did anyone diagnois me with ADHD, AS etc when all the issues that they were facing with me were pretty much textbook diagnosis :(

 

 

My parents went through hell with me and my secondary school and tohers wrote me of for suceeding in anything in life.

 

I did not start 6th form until I was 17 but after one year of doing a a foundation course they said i was bright enough to jump straight to advanced level BTEC. I came out of that with majority distictions! It was hard going for me but i did it.

 

Then I started my law degree and it was only in the first year that I finally discovered how I needed extra help and that is what I got. I was/am entitled to 50% extra time in exams, use of a latop in class, use of a dictaphone in class.

 

I also get an hour a weeks of disabilty support.

 

I am now about to start my post grad diploma in legal practice (which starts in sept and ends in june) and after that I will be able to get a job as a trainnee solictor (hopefully).

 

It will be harder for me to get the job than most because I am not so good with spontainious interaction.

 

If you want to know any more specfic questions then please do ask.

 

I am pleased that your 16 year old is wanting to go to university. He will enjoy it and depending on which uni he goes to he will be entitled to help from a disability worker that works just with Aspergers.

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Hi,

Can I ask you how you discovered at uni that you needed extra help,was it your tutor that recognised this ?

I remember mine saying in the first term that if we had any personal problems not to bother coming to him !

I spent 4 unhappy years being terrified that I would be asked anything in tutorials, lectures were ok, a bit of anonymity there.

I found your story extremely interesting, and as parent it's nice to know that uni is possible with the right support.

Will you specialise in a particular area of law ? I can imagine one of my kids being really good with exact details of civil/corporate law but at a loss in a criminal court !

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Please can you tell me if this forums is for adults as well as children? Are there any other adults on here with AS?

 

I am a law post-grad student aged 24 with ADHD, AS, Dyslexia and i sometimes get depressed.

 

I like keeping track of the weather especially extreme types like hurricanes in the USA. I find them interesting.

I am also in my 20s,with AS+ADHD to. :D

 

 

 

What did you think of the Birmingham tornado?

Tornados are quite discriminatory - I saw a photo of the houses torn apart,and just across the road from those,the houses didn't have one slate blown off.

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Thanks for your reply, Cutie, and well done for struggling through without any help until recently :thumbs:

 

Bid :)

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Hi I am new to,

I have mild aspergers and diagnosed with a schiziod type personalty disorder?

My husband has autism, I have two children, one with high functioning autism and the other aspergers. My house is very complicated. I to have a degree, and enjoyed the work but found it difficult there.

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Hi Cutie. Welcome glad to hear degree went well and that youre on the way to law school. Admum ( also adders)

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Again to the others that have welcomed me aboard thanks B)

 

waccoe

Can I ask you how you discovered at uni that you needed extra help,was it your tutor that recognised this ?

 

I just decided about 2 months into my course that maybe I could ask for some extra time in my exams because of my ADHD (AS was not diagnosed at that point amd nor was dyslexia). I felt so uncomfortable and akward trying to explain what ADHD was and how it affected my studys at times (like being able to concentrate etc). I then had to go through internal assessments via the educational psychologist at uni and it was there that they also diagnosed my dyslexia (i finally had an excuse all these years for my spelling being as poor as it was!) and said that my IQ was above average and i was on the 91st centile (whatever that means).

 

So waccoe the answe i guess is no it was me that made the move and i am pleased that i did it (although at times it has not mean as smooth going as i would of liked). I agree that it is very much so possible with the right help for people with AS to get through uni. I just hope that it is alot easier for your kids than it was for me. But hey universitys are getting better and better these days! Finally!

 

I also find it real tough right now to decide what area of law I wish to work in. However I have it in my head (subject to change of course..lol) that family law would be a good one to choose. I say this because the cases in family law do not involve an over whelming amout of people because matters in family law tend to be dealt with in confined rooms or small court rooms. Also if a case was to go to the crown court then it would be ok because i would not need to talk because that will be the job of the barrister. I also like the idea of education law, however since I have not touched upon this area in my course then i would need to read more into it. Education law sounds interesting because it will involve kids and dults that are suffering discrimination because of their special needs. I just wish that I had of been more educated as a child because my schools could of been in alot of trouble.

 

TuX

 

 

What did you think of the Birmingham tornado?

 

I did not get to see much on that because but it would of been alot better if there was an actual footage shot of it in action. I just love to track hurricances more than anything though. I go to a website call wunder and that is where i get all my fun. There is curently no tropical cyclones at the moment though so it is pretty quite.

 

Nice to know that you also have AS and adhd like me. What age did you get diagnosed with both then?

 

 

Also Admum small world huh :D Thanks for the kind words. Im just dreading the LPC!

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hi cutie, thanx for the insight, it was interesting to hear how hard it was for you as my brother (asd/adhd/dyspraxia) had an extremly hard time at school, he is only recently diagnosed (he is 27) but has never been able to explain how difficult school was for him. so thank you very much.

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I am a 27 year old man with aspergers and a susceptibility to depression. I have passed quite a few OU courses initially in Maths and last year in History. I am doing another History course this year, which if I were to pass it would take me 90% of the way to a degree.

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Hi Cutie and a very warm welcome to you :)

 

I see you have already discovered how great these people are. :thumbs:

 

I look forward to 'chatting' with you.

 

Nellie xx

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Hi.

 

I am also an adult with AS. I don't actually post a huge amount, but I read the forums a lot and find the people here very helpful and knowledgeable.

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Hi thanks agin everyone for the warm welcome and im pleased that i have been able to give some people insight into how life has been during my school years (although the stuff i mentioned it literally only about 1% of the way school was for me, i could of gone on forever but there is just to much).

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I was born in October 1962 with congenital rubella syndrome caused by prenatal rubella. Congenital rubella syndrome led to Asperger syndrome from which I as well suffer.

 

I am socially very clumsy. :)

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