Hi, should have introduced myself before posting, but anyway, here I am.
Diagnosed with Aspergers just over 3 months ago at 53 yrs old. Bit late, but I am accepting of it and it explains alot.
Been working in social care for around 28 yrs before that.
Diagnosis came as result of problems caused by a company take over.
The new management group were (are) underhand, nasty, self obsessed sociopaths and lied, bullied and harassed me in order to get rid of me.
They did not like my accuracy and confident honesty. Though it resulted in a lot of serious personal problems to overcome and loss of longstanding employment they taught me alot about their techniques of dishonesty and corruption used in social care extending to chief executive level.
Social care is not the industry it used to be. Having a caring nature used to be a vital prerequisite.
Not alot of caring anymore, just cost cutting, misleading the public and tick boxes. The vulnerable have just become a financial commodity / meal ticket for some unscrupulous companies (some masquerading as charities).
The most important thing I learned was that policies and procedures (something I understood very well and adhered to) are there for the benefit of controlling more junior staff and used as spin/public relations. They are just guidelines, not law. Managers and seniors are blatantly and routinely exempt at their own discretion. There is alot of complicity in the industry.
Its also dawning on me that when people used to say 'say it like it is' they were not complimenting my ability to 'hit the nail on the head' but telling me I had been too honest / gone too far.
Anyway, didn't want to mention all that that really as I'm trying to leave it behind / move on, get positive and find employment where forthright honesty is not a problem.
Dipping into the forum over the last couple of weeks I note a lot of negativity. Having lived without diagnosis for so long my aim is to be realistically positive as thats the only thing thats worked well for me historically. Aspegers may provide some behavioural insights but we need building up, not knocking down. Aspergers is maybe an order rather than disorder ...