Separate bedroom for asd children?
Posted 08 July 2006 - 04:23 PM
We have a tiny 2-bed and ds#1 really really needs some space of his own to chill out in. It wouldn't have to be a bedroom, even a dining room would do (probably be better as ds#1 is afraid to be alone) where we could make a corner for him. We have a front door, a 1m sq hall, into a small sitting room which leads into a small kitchen - there's simply no room. I'm getting worried for ds#2 because of the size and number of meltdowns we were having today. I ended up putting a playtent in the sitting room, putting cushions and some lights in and trying to get ds#1 to stay in there and calm down - ds#2 being 2 was desperate to be in too and things were being escalated.
Anyway I'm waffling at a tangent - but basically does anyone know of any help available to families of those with autism to be rehoused (or they can come and build a nice extension ). The boys are 6 and 2 atm and I have a feeling things will get worse - even ds#2 is going to need his own space to get away from all the shouting. He's developed a new habit or asking 'are you happy Mammy?' and 'Is George happy?'
Sorry for the sudden influx of posts after being mostly a lurker but we're not having a good spell atm!
Posted 08 July 2006 - 05:54 PM
We own our own home but were told there was a possibility of rehousing into a council house or having a grant for a new bedroom. A friend who is applying at the moment has said that the council will now give you a grant move to a bigger house as another option.
To get the ball rolling we had to have an assessment and referral done by the occupational therapist.
Here is a link to a government site on it:
Posted 09 July 2006 - 04:33 AM
Coming up to teens they really need their own room, most ASD kids go through a difficult time coping with Puberty they need there own safe place.
Posted 09 July 2006 - 08:21 AM
Posted 09 July 2006 - 09:51 AM
Posted 09 July 2006 - 11:12 AM
We haven't any involvement with social services - do you think it would be worth contacting them and if so which department? I might ask the GP and HV to write a supporting letter too.
Thank you to all those who've replied.
Posted 09 July 2006 - 12:18 PM
Posted 09 July 2006 - 08:14 PM
im now in a council 3 bedroomed
i have 2 boys -one is 5 other is 3 .
i dont know about there being a law but wrote letters saying how it was a danger for them to be sharing a room ect......,help of ss,health visitor and dr.
which moved me up the list ect......
i know u need to state all the real negative facts in order to get your point across so dont be shy about telling it like it is ...............
im so glad they have seperate rooms -its a god send really-ive no idea how i would cope with them sharing -it just dont work .
keep at it
Posted 09 July 2006 - 08:48 PM
Your SS department should have a Disabled Children's Team. You can refer yourself to them, or you could ask your GP or Health Visitor to do it.
They can then put you on the waiting list for the Occupational Therapist, who can doa home assessment.
I have been down that route and i'm currently waiting for the OT to come and do an assessment of my house. I also live in a tiny 2 bedroom house, but i only have 1 child. All i want is a BIGGER 2 bed house, because my son's room is only 7' by 9' and the rest of the house is tiny. It's affecting his behaviour and making me depressed. We got medical pionts and i keep getting phone calls from Housing Associations offering me houses that are even SMALLER than mine . Once i get it in writing from the OT, i think the council will have to act.
Posted 09 July 2006 - 10:18 PM
This did the trick points-wise, and we were given a 4 bed housing association house.
Mind you, they left it until the last minute which was horrendous as we had about 4 weeks before we had to leave our houise, and the area is the roughest in our town (although the house is lovely).
We also rang every week to 'see how things were going'!
Good luck, I know how worrying housing problems can be
Posted 10 July 2006 - 07:44 AM
Posted 10 July 2006 - 10:50 AM
Gosh, that's REALLY small. It must be a nightmare . Kai's room has a great big airing cupboard in it, which makes it like a boiler room. I can't wait to get out of here (the area is rough too!).
PS Just found this on a housing website, relating to room sizes:
But the floor area of a room also determines how many people can sleep in it:
* floor area 110 sq feet (10.2 sq metres approx) = 2 people
* floor area 90 - 109 sq ft (8.4 - 10.2 sq m approx) = 1.5 people
* floor area 70 - 89 sq ft (6.5 - 8.4 sq m approx) = 1 person
* floor area 50 - 69 sq ft (4.6 - 6.5 sq m approx) = 0.5 people
Edited by loulou, 10 July 2006 - 10:54 AM.
Posted 10 July 2006 - 12:44 PM
its looking more like thats what il be doing,meet a lovely landlord whom owes over 50 houses and is currentyly looking for a 4bed for me in the area i want to stay in as the two he showed me just wont big enough.so i have to call him in a month to see how he got on.i have two boys in the big room but no room for my other son who sleeps with me at mo cause of the room size and the way my ds2 is.its a nightmare.the girls room i have just enough room for bunkbeds and thats it.chest of draws wont fit or a decent size wardrobe.you literally open door and have about a foot to move about in.
ideally i would like to put ds2 in his own small room ,the girls in another and ds1 and ds3 in another room,even if i had a dining room i could make into a bedroom for me.i still need a big kitchen to put an seven seater table and chairs in.just a nightmare at mo that will only get worse as the kids grown unless i can find another house.
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