stressed out mum

Hi Everyone Haven't been on for months. We moved house and it's taken a long time for the internet to be connected. My son is just about to take his options and the school are going to offer guided options to the SEN students. This is new to the school and it sounds perfect for my son (more practical and hands on approach, less written coursework). Does anyone have experience of this? If it works out I am reluctant to change schools. Have typed it up below. Any advice welcome. OPTION 1 - NVQ, Work related Learning, Understanding the Laws of Sport OPTION 2 - Leadership and Officiating (sports), ASDAN OPTION 3 - Employability Skills, Key Skills, Life Skills

Hi Paula How old is your son? My son had a video in year 6 which the parents were invited to see first. Apparently it hadn't been used before. Unfortunately I couldn't go but some of the other parents were shocked and said that it covered things that children of that age don't need to know. The senior school have just done the same thing and they coped much better with it at that age.

Bless him <'> excellent must try that one

Wow all these people with Dyson's I must be the only person to not get on with one, had to take it back! We all thought it was too noisy! Cool photo Jonathan

Hi Millymay "hello, what does it look like im doing?" Oh do I know that one well! My son went through this phase, come to think of it I haven't heard it lately. Maybe it is something they pick up from school? I was told by my older h/t brother to stay calm, sit down and talk to him (even if he will be late for school) and explain why it is not nice to speak to you like that. Must have worked then without me noticing. When you think about it we are all in too much of a hurry in today's society. We all have days when we feel useless it's hard being a parent, Do you know anyone who ALWAYS gets it right ALL of the time?

<'> He sounds a lovely guy and knows that you are all sad about something <'> If I am upset or annoyed may son always says to me 'oh come on mum let's have a cuddle'. Keep in touch I wish I knew how to help

Thank you Paula I haven't heard of the numbing cream. My dentist was okay with him last time and said to let him see how it went before panicing. Unfortunately my son will not let me leave the room and gets out of the chair if I go. It's the thought of the drill going round and him trying to get out of the chair and being hurt that worries me. He had a test for epilepsy years ago in which they had to scratch his head to attach wires, I had to leave the room because it involved flashing lights to stimulate his brain and he went mad. I felt awful

Hi Everyone I brushed my son's teeth last night as I do every so often cos he doesn't do it properly. It looks like he will need a filling He had a filling in his milk teeth in year six which went okay-ish, but now of course he has adult teeth and that will involve an injection. I don't think I want to get it done, he kicked and screamed when he had his last injection at doctors and hates needles, I don't want to think about what it would be like injecting his gum Not sure what I expect anyone to say really I just thought I would see if anyone had any feelings on the subject. Who thought of fillings anyway?

Hi lorryw Just wondered how everyone is? Is your son coping okay?

To Tyler's-mum and Paula

Yes Kirstie My 14 year old daughter (NT) used to get this all the time before school usually, although it was minus the shakes. She still gets stomach ache if she is nervous about something like an exam. I thought it was really strange when the doctor said this, I think she was about six but not really sure. She doesn't travel well either and also will go all day without eating if she has something on her mind

Hi Jonathan Don't be put off by this person. I often say good morning to people as I walk to the shops early in the morning, even if I don't know them. Yes I get some strange looks but it is their fault if they are unsociable. You have nothing to feel bad about. You are a friendly person and I for one hope that you do not change just because of someone making a stupid comment. <'> Just to add I have had some people look absolutely amazed and then say good morning back with a huge smile on their face!

Hi Tylers-mum Don't be sorry it's because I am so indecisive At least it did make me take stock! If we ever sell our house he will be moving to a different school which he is really looking forward to just hope it doesn't all go pear shaped! <'>

Hi Tylers-mum My son is now in year 8 and has always been in mainstream. It has been difficult all of the time really. In the infants the h/t and some of the teachers bullied him and said that he was the worst behaved child in the school and did nothing for special needs children. In the juniors he got on slightly better as there were a couple of teachers who took a shine to my son and knew that if they pushed him too much he would just shutdown and do nothing for them. The move to Secondary went quite smoothly with help from the two teachers from the junior school and lots of meetings with special needs dept at senior school. He has now been integrated into 'normal' lessons but it has not been without problems. Although I do think that the help we have had at this school has been the best so far until open evening (you may have read other thread on science) each of his teachers we met said that they were unaware that he had aspergers Having said that I received a note, via my son, from his form tutor saying that she is now working closely with him to try to make the rest of the term happier for him. I don't know really what to say I know that my son was happy there when he first started but he now seems to be finding it tough going, it is a big school though 1600 students. Haven't really helped really have I? I've spent the last three hours deciding what to write aswell

That's great Daisy I am sure that there is something out there of interest for my son, haven't found it yet It's been interesting to speak to you and as Kathryn says it gives us hope for our own children. I am sure you will continue to florish in whatever you do.