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Flora

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  1. Well as my kids have gone to their dad's this year (it's his turn) I'm not doing the whole thing... I'm having christmas dinner...ala..'It's not just food... It's m&s food' For those of you who might be feeling frazzled... think how empty Christmas is without them That's my christmas. Very decadent, but horribly, horribly quiet and empty. Thank goodness I have a few local friends who don't have kids and are coming over to spend their afternoon and evening with me otherwise I'd be a right old saddo. Flora
  2. Happy Birthday Kathryn Flo' XXXXXXXXXX
  3. That is a really tragic thing to happen Poor little guy and his family. Flo'
  4. Yay, congratulations to you Kellyanne and all your family <'> See you on the forum in about 3 months I expect (when you begin to emerge again) <'> Flo' XXXXX
  5. I wonder where lumps of coal (instead of presents for those who haven't been good) fits in with global warming? Oooh, and how hard is santa's job since most people have central heating and no chimney??? Floz X
  6. That's lovely Pookie I read one the other week which explained the reason why we put fairies on top of the tree.... Santa had had a really bad day. Everything had gone wrong that could go wrong, and more. Just as he was on the verge of a nervous breakdown a small fairy knocked on the door with a christmas tree and asked him 'Where would you like me to stick this?' Flo'
  7. Thank you baddad for another Christmas special Floz X
  8. Yay, tomorrow morning (or rather middle of the night) me and Ben are heading off with some friends for our annual EuroDisney trip. I'm sooo excited. I've got my thermal longjohns packed (very stylish ) and my pathetic amount of euros because the exchange rate is so dire! I am determined this year to get Eeyore's autograph... the last two times we've been he's ran away from me So I have a cunning plan to make sure he doesn't escape me this year! Flo'
  9. One thing I feel very isolated in and that is my fear for the future. I'm sure it's a common fear but it is sometimes very frightening. I tend to veneer over it and try to live life as normally as possible, but I also wonder if I was less debilated by AS personally then I would be more able to prepare for my childrens' future. Sometimes I feel completely useless and that I should be doing more of 'something' to prepare for 'something' in the future... unfortunately I don't know what either of those 'somethings' are! Flora
  10. My own experiences are very mixed. When my kids were all at the same school and Bill was very little I made a couple of parent friends though was never part of the general group. I keep in touch with one of these and she's become a very good friend. I also have friends who I've known since school and we are very close (more like family). When we moved and my boys were at a different school to my dd, then it was a different story. I didn't ever really get to know anyone and stood outside the school feeling like a bit of a twit next to all the gaggle of other women. I'm not sure whether that's anything to do with ASD or if the other parents were just bit a cliquey (we live in a village!). Having said that I always manage to get to know people and make friends in other ways other than school, usually those who are a bit different too (different in a good way of course...ie a bit eccentric and off the beaten track). I do think though that in comparison to other more mainstream families (for want of a better way of putting it) we are quite isolated but then again having moved around a lot it's hardly surprising. Flora
  11. We track santa on Norad every year and have done for ages. When we lived in america, there was always a news announcement on Christmas eve that reports of a flying object had been spotted, believed to be santa. It caused huge excitement and was done very well as a serious news report My youngest son is adamant santa exists because he met the 'real' santa when we went to Lappland for christmas a few years ago! Flora
  12. Certainly what Tally has described would seem to suggest so. However, while it can be disregarded as insecure/juvenille/childish/petty... people like that can cause one hell of a lot of problems and that part of it shouldn't be underestimated. You find people like that in many work places and they can cause all sorts of problems and make people absolutely miserable. When I was in nursing many years ago you met them all the time and while it's always best to ignore the behaviour, for these people the whole point is to get attention and so ignoring it oftem means they step up the levels. Some people buy into their 'victim' status and another then immediately is seen as the aggressor simply because they didn't agree with them! It's really nasty. Flora
  13. This was one of my favourites as a littleun Flo'
  14. edited- this shoulda been in the pinguins thread... silly me...
  15. I was thinking the same thing! Although not from me I hasten to add.... last time I tried to knit something was a baby jumper for when Bill was born and it ended up about 2 foot wide! I have no idea why. Flora
  16. Line managers are just as likely to be manipulated as anyone else; I suppose it depends on how obvious it is to onlookers Tally. If you react to her directly she'll continue trying to either get you on board or will start on you too, so the best thing is to go in and continue to do your job and completely ignore any attempts to draw you in. Hope this is resolved soon Tally; this sort of disruption in the work place is very common but best ignored if you possibly can. Flora
  17. Yummy.... that close up of his lips
  18. Tally, I can't comment on the work situation because I don't know the people involved, but I really feel for you in the way you have been on the receiving end of this girl's manipulative drive to recruit people to go for this guy. Obviously he is in the wrong too, but it certainly does sound like she would not have been happy at him just being asked to stop the bad language and was gunning for more punitive action from the start. She had no right to drag you into her vendetta; it's a horrible form of manipulation and you have done well to resist it. Just keep your head down and get on with your job with a clear conscience. There will always be those who aren't satisfied to keep their gripes to themselves and will strithe to manipulate others into some sort ganging up type behaviour. It's hideous but sadly happens everywhere. Flora
  19. When my son was in nursery and then reception to year 1, he used to have tantrums at school. The teachers he had were great with him; he often fell asleep after an episode and they would just let him sleep. Many a time the teacher would actually bring him out asleep in her arms at the end of the school day. He never slept during the day at home so looking back I think this was his confusion and stress causing the tantrums and then the sleeping. When he moved up into juniors he started having panic attacks that would lead to tantrums, both at home and at school. With a lot of hard work and strategies we managed to stop the tantrums at school but they continued at home and gradually got worse over the years. By the time he reached the last year or so of primary and went into secondary school he was having constant fits of crying about school at home, with rages and melt-downs. He became depressed, suicidal and eventually stopped functioning and regressed. Through this time this manifested at school as extreme withdrawal. He'd just switch off, shut down and hardly opened his mouth at school for the whole time he was there. The teachers interepreted this as a shy and extremely well behaved boy. It was massively frustrating. He's 15 now and is in a residential special school for AS and has been since May. I am now starting to see his confidence and self esteem gradually creep up. He's gone from being mute and totally 'broken', to becoming quite chatty again and is just starting to enjoy his life again. Every person with AS is different and every person will show stress differently, and again differently depending on where they are and who they are with. Flora
  20. Flora

    In denial

    Hi, I don't view this as a negative thing. Many people live with AS without it being totally disabling to their life, and it certainly sounds like your son is (so far) one of those people. You give him support at home, but most 15 yo's need some level of support from their parents to help them organise their life and understand things. I think the best thing to do here would be to respect your son's wish for things to be extremely low key and to continue with the support you give him at home. There may be a day when he does need more help than he's getting now, but meanwhile I think he sounds marvellous. He lives with AS in a way that is comfortable to him and it would be a shame for him to be forced to make an issue of it. I went through school and most of my life totally unaware that I have AS until a few years ago, and like your son I got a lot of support from home and had (still have) a close group of friends who thought I was a bit odd (my two best friends from school are still in my life and are like family). I'm not saying for one minute that it's been easy, but for the most part I have been, and am, able to cope. School and all it brings was a very confusing time quite often, but I managed it and would have hated to have been seen or labelled as different from my peers (even though I felt different, I managed to find a relatively comfortable niche and it sounds like your son has done this) The picture you've painted of your son is that of a very strong minded young man who is determined to get on with his life without allowing AS to be a big issue. There may be an element of denial, but at this point it doesn't sound as if it's doing him any harm. (sorry if this is badly worded, I'm only on my first cup of tea!). Flora XX
  21. Flora

    WE WON!

    You already know how delighted I am... but it can't be said loudly enough: SOOOOOOOO DELIGHTED FOR YOU ALL AND VERY VERY WELL DONE YOU You really have worked so hard for this . We will get together and get very very drunk (in the name of celebration) very soon. Love and best wishes Flora
  22. Thank you Suze .... that is exactly what I need... to be laughed out of it. I've spent some time on the phone to one of my friends oop north and she has said I've got to make time, teeth or no teeth...( ie..copious dental appointments)... for a trip up there before Christmas... so I've already more or less got that planned... I've lit the fire and have a pile of goodies (sod the diet for today) for me and the kids to eat while we're watching the telly tonight... and I've already got my jamas on Sometimes you just need to indulge yourself in the right way. Thanks to all who responded to this whinge! Flora XX
  23. Thanks mumble I've just read my post back and realise it's a bit (or a lot!) self indulgent I think I need to give myself a mental shake up! Flo'
  24. I'm really really grateful that I have dependents who rely on me being able to put one foot in front of another and string a sentence together otherwise I don't know where I would be. I am suffering a real crisis of confidence just now. Or at least I think I am because I also wonder if it's becaues I'm thinking too much. I often see people on here with AS telling of their struggles to cope with things and I think to myself that I don't have it so bad. However, I've come to think this morning that I am totally and utterly dysfuntional and the only reason why I'm sitting here fully dressed and writing a weekend list, is because I've got 3 people who rely on me for everything. What I'd actually like to do is just go somewhere on my own and stay there. This is a horrible post, and I'm not looking for answers or sympathy or any of those things, I would just like to know if there's anyone else who feels like this all of the time. I've felt like this all my adult life but have always written it off as depression but if I'm honest with myself this is how I am all the time but it depends very much on how much sleep I've had, what else is going on, etc whether I give into those feelings or not. The times I'm really on top of everything are very very rare and for once I do believe that this is basically the horrible side of AS. I never blame anything on my life on AS, but today I am. It's horrible, and I just don't know what to do. I feel like my big 'normal act' is something even I believed still but today I think I've stopped believing it and just don't have the energy to pretend to be normal anymore. I think I've lost my mind!!! Flora
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