Emma

Yes thats the one the packing, summer stuff and winter woolies for four Weather up there in unpredictable, but its abosultely beautiful there and the girls love it!

Sounds a busy weekend Mrs Q, don't envy the housebuilding We are going to the scottish highlands for a week in a cottage Can't wait, but soo much to do before we go Have a good one everyone

Ohh what heartfelt beautiful words for your beautiful son! Off to get a hankie x

Thank you Margot My daughter sounds very similar to yours, infact I have just spent the evening trying to chat to her about friends and she got upset saying she has none She has a little friend in our close, but its a difficult friendship, the other little girl is very confident indeed and M will come in crying at the slightest thing Interestingly, she gets on quite well with a little boy who is autistic Rabbit, sorry I may have mislead you with my post, my daughter speaks absolutely fine and has excellent language skills, shes very conversant at home and with people she knows and loves. Its just in the classroom that she won't speak and to family members that she only sees every couple of months. So no she has had no help from a SALT, she had improved at the end of term and had starting speaking to the teacher (think I said in my op) that this was a massive step, I am a bit worried though that after such a long holiday, she may have gone backwards again when shes goes back in September. I don't know why I suspect Aspergers I don't really know that much about it which is why I am trying to learn all I can from this board! I guess I have heard somewhere along the line that an aspergers child has difficulty in social situations and thats probably what has led me here I do feel its much more than just shyness with her, its so very hard to explain.

Thank you all so very much for your kind words and advice, I will be researching all I can and hopefully can get to help my little girl. I will no doubt be picking your brains somemore, thanks again x

Thank you for the replies so far, yes I do suspect something, but not sure what. The sensitivity thing is a definate with her, she is very sensitive to noise, one of the reasons she hates parties, if other children are shouting or clapping or cheering like recently at school sports day, she starts crying because of the noise, sometimes she even shakes Although saying that, she can be very noisey herself She can dress herself fine and has no real problem with food, will try anything but she is constantly hungry, she can eat her brekkie and want something 20 mins later, infact she goes through the whole day, saying shes hungry, even after eating, shes not overweight though, I give her mostly fruit between the meals, she can get quite cranky, if she doesn't eat for an hour I will have a godd read through the posts and see what I can find, I appreciate all children are different, but there is just something with Maddie, its hard for me to pinpoint. Thanks again <'>

Firstly, hello to everyone, what a wonderfull forum for people to help one another! My name is Emma and I am mum to two beautiful girls aged 9 and 6 I'm not sure where to start really or if any of this will make any sense as its quite hard to put into words I will start right at the beginning although not sure of the relevance of it, M(6) has always been a crier, even when she was born the midwife commented on her constant crying, this carried on all through babyhood and as a toddler which I guess is perfectly normal. However, shes 6 now and is still crying at the slightest thing, be it frustartion that she can't do something or sulking, she sulks a lot She refused to go to any birthday parties too, for some reason she just didn't like them! When she started school, we attended a parents evening, the teacher told us that M is very very shy in school and doesn't talk atall. She told us it could be that she is taking longer to settle in than the other children and not to be too concerned just yet, which although worried we went along with. M moved up to year 1 and again we went to parents evening, where we were to be told that she was still not talking and would just nod or shake her head accordingly, we also were told that her work was below average, she struggled reading and writing and was extremely quiet in class even answering the register she wouldn't say yes, she would just nod to the teacher The teacher was wonderfull and when I told her that my father has dyslexia she thought perhaps this could be the reason behind it all, she agreed to watch her closely and we would meet again in 3 months time to discuss her progress, she said if there had been no breakthroughs, then she thought perhaps M has a learning disability and would call in the Educational Physcologist to assess her. I tried and tried with her at home to read with her and to get her to do her homework, she wouldn't do it she would just cry. Anyway the three months passed and we went in, she had started to make small progress and after watching her closely the teacher was happy that she does not have dyslexia, however, shes stilll to young to know for sure. She had begun to make a little progress with her communicating in class too and had started talking to her friends in class, but still just a nod at the teacher, infact the day I went to see the teacher M was with me and the teacher was almost in tears as M actually spoke to her At the last parents evening, we found out that M now talks to the teachers and is gaining a confidence with them, her work is still below average though, but the teacher said she has made outstanding progress over the last 6 months In fact she got an end of year certificate for "talking" Which of course I was delighted with. This all is a step in the right direction and I really thought things would improve from now on. However, things are still difficult at home, we live in a small close and there are a handfull of children all around the same age and a bit older M and her sister play with, you can guarantee, that when playing out M will come in crying at least half a doxen times, some of it is justified and some is purely when she sulks. This has become a problem as now the children have realised that M cries alot they have started to tease her, which is making things very difficult for her and worrying for me as I don't want her confidence knocked back again. Shes been very tearful over the holidays and has mentioned that the children at school are teasing her as she gets easier work than they do and that she thinks shes stupid and rubbish which absolutely breaks my heart to hear My sister has just been to stay as he was emigrating to USA and she also mentioned about M behaviour, about how she completely ignores people in social situations, she won't sit in a corner or anything but she will just ignore people when they are speaking to her, just turns her back, I can't really explain it. This has brought me to a cross roads really I don't know where I go from here, or what I do, should I worry about her, my mum often says that M seems "different" to other children, she has little quirks, that I can't really explain very well. For istance, she won't take any praise of any kind, she hates it, we have to be very carefull, if we say for example aww brill M what a clever girl riding your bike, she will say no i'm not i'm stupid and start crying Just to add too, if its any relevance that my nephew has been diagnosed with Autism, I think its quite severe as I know they recieve a special payment for him because of it. I don't think M has autism, but I know there is something thats holding her back and I just need your input and your stories to help me pursue a diagnosis for her, I just want my liitle girl to be happy and I want the best for her, it breaks my heart to see her being teased and I trully don't know what to do next?? Please help me, to help her. I fgorgot to mention, that at times she goes very hyper, I do watch her diet carefully, shes not allowed sweets, but has chocolate so it can't be down to E numbers. Thanks xxx Ps: sorry if none of this makes sense and please feel free to ask any questions, like I said, her behaviour is hard to explain, it sounds like i'm being silly when I type it out, but you have to witness it to understand A worried mummy