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at school always found languages of french and german so damn challenging/difficult annoying subject to learn i tried SO HARD but couldn't grasp understand any of it in the end i used get so frustrated end up acting out attention wise as struggling so bad much and get send out the class room for interupting and disruptive others! XKLX

i have been waking up early hours struggling get back proper sleep rest relax give my head break everything keeps going round i feel so tired worn out fed up with myself and sleep patterns is anyway my doctor if told him situation would prescribe melatonin (i'm 21) 22 soon?! got do something driving me mad crazy? XKLX

doesn't feel like christmas not in christmas mood/spirit had alot gone on this yr with our family in and hosp ( Dad & uncle) dad pneumonia n uncle parathyriods disease uncle back in hosp due 2 having PD symptoms dyhedration he got surgeo coming down hopefully havin surgery b4 xmas comes we got 80 family friend really poorly in hosp atm think lost xmas spirit even though helped parents bring down xmas decs from the loft don't feel excited or like it xmas at all! XKLX

panic attacks are scary frightening and do make feel 'out of control' strange weird! more try stop it worst it becomes with me if try slow breathing down or heart beat so annoying! XKLX

i used suffer with them ( panic attacks) bad in my early teens feel sweaty dizzy disorientated confused shaky heart beating too fast i now am experiencing them back again of a night time as i worry about things in my head and so toss and turn of a night due to this so my sleep is disturbed! gr! so can empathise with your son not nice to experience at all really! i been on anti-depressant worked well with anxiety aswell seemed to take real 'edge' off it to be honest! XKLX

kathryn - i apologise if came across rude or insulting! XKLX

YOU NEED make steps yourself! can expect everyone else to do running around for you! stop making pathetic excuses for EVERYTHING everyone has suggested!!! and stop blaming EVERYONE ELSE! you NEED take adult responsibility it may be scary anxious at times but have try make steps to overcome it! XKLX

gut cruncher - people like you make me SO ANNOYED ANGRY!!! every post is about you JUST seem to whinge moan about EVERYTHING and DON'T seem to want ANYONE OR ANYTHING! sounds like you want world to come to you and you just sit and wait for it fall into the lap sounds like you hostile angry bitter over EVERYTHING too and when someone suggests something you push it back to them and say tried it! so everyone running out of ideas as falling on deaf ears sounds like you DON'T really want any real help /support! sounds like you give up and just want sympathy pity and that get you no where yes you CAN work when you have AS and yes a WORKPLACE does accept AS i'm a PROOF of this statement it CAN work if you WANT IT TOO and seems like you DON'T want it that bad to go out and get it! the world ain't going to wrap you up in cotton wool or change work or anything just for you! i started off volunteering now work part time so CAN be done with hard work/effort/determation something seems you're lacking or low on it! XKLX

i think one person on here described her sister and how it affected her and i could so personally relate to what was written in the post it was like it was written specifically about me i have dyspraxia so don't know if it is JUST this or something more to it than that! but feel both co-morbids conditions 'fit' me well as struggle with understanding maths concepts of any kind trying get my head around figures leaves me head spinning around literally gives me major headache leads to frustration and confusion figures have no meaning to me at all! i struggle to grasp anything maths wise! maybe this is why! could i have both together? what is possibility /chance? i give you an example the other day i thought my brother had more savings than me he had £1,000 and i had £1500 and i said to my parents he had more than me in savings my mum said to my dad she doesn't understand money is mind field and know this is an issue /difficulty working it out in anyway with both conditions is there any free online test that isn't PDF format where can see if i actually have dyscalculia? no-one ever mentioned this to me! i used to dread /fear coming home with maths homework to do just get in such state panic and because my dad is red hot at maths he can calculate sums numbers in his head he couldn't see understand why i just couldn't grasp it i try make him get it but so hard! i used end up resulting in tears or anger my dad used have to explain it in practical way of showing me with an object visual interuption of what he meant but even then sometimes didn't get it! i also feel i could have SPD ( sensory Processing disorder)

what about ESA? if you mean do i get it no i don't get this benefit! XKLX

my parents don't get either benefits incapicity or income support so doesn't affect us as a family! XKLX

i only get DLA

doing 13 hrs one wk and other wk 9 hrs so all UNDER 16 hrs! i ALWAYS make sure i'm ALWAYS UNDER 16 HRS my dad even added it up to make sure i was right! XKLX

boss can be overtime aswell as normal contract hours so i'm pleased chuffed! some extra hours! great! and break up from work on 19th december XKLX

some autistics do find intimacy too much physically due to sensory issues can make it 'painful' could this be the cause? XKLX

has your son got low muscle tone? i used struggle to put thoughts /ideas from my head onto paper such hard /difficult thing to do like mind fog /block so frustrating more you try and do it more it won't happen! gr! so can personally understand how your son feels! have you tried triangle pencil grips ( rubber) around pens/pencils so supports better so don't give wrist/arm ache does he seem hold pen too tight? does he struggle with PE tasks catching a ball? XKLX

heya again! did you ask why your son swallowed a toilet block and then stuck his fingers down his throat made himself sick? is this first time he ever done something this serious and harmful/dangerous before? did he have to seek medical advice e.g. hospital? what did you do following that situation? has your son explain why he did it? sounds like may be connected/linked closely with his depression have you discussed an action plan with school concerning the bullying and negative impact his having on your son's life mental /emotional well-being being deeply affected? has your son got an IEP at all? so your son so far hasn't been officially assessed or diagnosed with anything at the moment am i right in that?! are you seeing any sucess in your son's sleep pattern/cycle with him taking kalms? i tried them for awhile as best friend suggested them to me but didn't go anything for me! your son not wanting to do 'anything' will be his depression making him this way i would go back to doctors and demand to see another doctor and say it getting worse out of control situation and urgent need something being done now! asap! before more harm danger comes round corner which could be soon if not stepped on! i would explain that maternity doc suggested meds for both his sleeping/depression? if they give him medication for depression this may sort/control even his sleeping out a bit better as some take at night make feel drowsy help you drift off to sleep! i was bullied for years so can empathise/sympathise with what your son going through it makes feel trapped,miserable SO ALONE scared etc i would say some of list overlaps with eachother could be either ASD or dyspraxia but i would say combination of the two conditions as so similar! co-morbid XKLX

when you describe and explain his handwriting as 'slow' what do you exactly mean by this statement? XKLX

i have dyspraxia found out in childhood the woman that saw your son to for 15 minutes i would ask GP about what the outcome result of seeing this lady was whether you have an official diagnosis of dyspraxia or not! but doubt 15 minutes leaves you long enough to assess and diagnose anyone to be honest!i know waiting lists and awfully long winded process/system has an ASD been mentioned? do you feel that ADHD/ADD fit your son? does behaviours fit? as lack of concentration /attention could just be dyspraxia i fit all of dyspraxia but can overlap with so many other related spectrum conditions! like OCD depression etc i have been on and off self harmer since my early teens and went to docs where he referred me general counsellor she wasn't 'happy' and felt like 'something else' was there but didn't know what so again i was referred to her work colleagues on different team complex difficulties clinic where i was assessed and officially diagnosed with A.S along with social anxiety disorder and secondary depression!) how long would you say your son been depressed for? weeks months or more years? has it been gradual progression with depression or something come on all of sudden quick development of feeling depressed? who caught your son self harming 3 weeks ago? what kind of self-harm was it? did g.p discuss medication for sleep or depression? as this may make him feel 'brighter' in himself 'better' more balanced stable to face things everyday! his sleep maybe worse due to depression as can really impact sleep pattern /cycle even more than normally does anyway! did you tell G.P about self -harming behaviour and crying? has he expressed any depressive thoughts or suicidal ones to yourselves? sounds like he really struggling to manage/cope with life! XKLX

if you don't mind me asking how did his primary school let me down ,fail him? i had lovely infant school just not junior's school for me this where i had major issues struggled difficulties where igorned alot to be honest shunned not believed! didn't have understanding support there is that what your son went through?! i was bullied ( Physically) and i don't think ersonally helped my low self-esteem and has also not helped my mental health issues either i find hard to trust professionals as had so many long list let me down ,break promises made. i used to eat loads when was depressed i would sit of a night when everyone gone bed and just comfort/emotional eat as was empty food helped me cope emotionally i made connection/link chemically made me feel 'happy' inside seemed to 'fix' things for abit! he probably is also eating because he bored. your lucky to have such positive response/experience with CAMHS many people like me haven't been let down and haven't been properly supported how we should have makes you angry i discharged myself from Adult Mental Health Team and all i felt our local CAMHS given me is a name of a condition and gave my mum load of booklet of information on ASD/AS to read up on and felt like sent us away just put me in endless therapies ( CBT,family) and didn't really feel had 'a voice' wasn't asked what i thought! and endless medications which basically didn't work for me just made me put on weight and increased my appetite made me more hungry so ate more! CAMHS made me feel worse felt like treated like number on piece of paper not like actual person! i'm better off without them! you been in touch/contact with LEA? and told them of situation they maybe able to suggest give ideas where to go education wise? or NAS ? i didn't sleep very well when i was a baby used to scream all time when nothing wrong i still toss and turn of a night can't properly settle down and when do feel 'groggy' when wake up real weird/strange but know connected to AS takes me a long while to wake up come to always feel tired like i've had no sleep! hope sleep meds work for him! melatonin is suppose to be really successful in us as we lack it to have natural sleep pattern/cycle! how does your son feel about whole situation ... his depression, his sleep issues and eating issues are going to be linked to his depression to they may get worse or change switch to and from alot! XKLX

to give you 'some hope' for his future depression is on -going power struggle/battle everyday but what i had really benefitted from is exercise this helps relieve depression and stress your son just gone through difficult period of transition going onto secondary school all the changes this brings up causing anxiety stress worry like he juggling everything do CAMHS seem to be 'active role' useful helpful towards you and your son/ do you feel anti-depressants would help 'lift' stablise his depression so you can work with him on little steps to bring him back to where he was school etc good positive thing he has supportive school which understands which half the battle to begin with i think pushing him may send him 'over the edge' into panic etc push further into himself his life depression but at same time maintaining outside world of school etc is important for him as losing touch with everyday routine /structure can be nightmare get back into but this will be his depression affecting his motavation of him not wanting to go to school aswell as changes just happened is shock to system takes awhile to adjust sink in! letting him stay at home may let him sink even lower into his depression but then staying off from school give him break time to chill/relax hard core just to recover from depression and work out to go next what to do next is difficult decision if he did stay off school what would he do with himself? on his computer? watch tv? as need plan of action how help and support him which i know hard is CAMHS in touch with his school updating them on his depression situation? when did his depression become an issue noticable? how long he been struggling with it? maybe you need a three way meeting between you,CAMHS and school to see where you do next to help him? how does his depression affect him? eating ,sleeping ??? xKLX

glyn - so can personally relate to your son - i didn't want to leave the house socially withdrawn,panic attacks mum took me to the family GP and was referred to general counsellor and from there she noticed 'something didn't fit wasn't right' i was referred onto C.A.M.H.S ( Child,Adolescent,Mental,Health,Service) where i was recognised as having Asperger's Syndrome and secondary depression you feel so trapped ,so empty ,so alone ,scared afraid feel so lost and confused! i was put on anti-depressants at 14 years old ... but hard /difficult when unanswered questions - but you feel you don't know who you 'really are' you can't understand the world or yourself! i needed reassurance everything was going to be o.k but everything felt out of reach ,out of control ... couldn't explain how i felt inside my head my life emotionally a mess /wreck didn't know how fix it make it alright ,better! with A.S i also had official diagnosis of social anxiety disorder which can affect you leaving the house fear/panic of being 'attacked'/hurt etc XKLX

i got a nice flower vest top from new look size 18 i haven't got receit as i brought ages ago but is not right size anymore need size 12-14 now really really like same replacement just smaller size as be shame to just chuck it away and be gutted not to have that top anymore! anyone have any ideas? XKLX

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now i've lost 6 stone in weight thinking of whole new image revamping style in all ways clothes hair style been thinking on hair style got quite think long hair want it short shoulder length instead of back length as someone just had their hair styled nice at work thinking may help confidence self-image wise? want hair style similar to kerry katona what you think to new hair style idea?! XKLX