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No that wasnt the right way to handle things - i would have a word with this teacher. At my daughters Nursery they use a sad catepiller and if a child is naughty their name is put on sad caterpillar for a day - not that my daughter is bothered she's quite often on sad caterpillar Clare

Where i am there is a social services run nursery(there might be where you are) both my kids went there 2 full days a week free (but only if your on some kind of benefit e.g. family tax credit etc.). you could look into it Clare

Oi Whats wrong with Sunderland (mackem and proud of it) I can do Newcastle but dont know my way round very well Clare

But if you dont know anything about asd's/aspergers you think your childs just quirky, i did and as i said i lived with him 24/7 and he never cried when i left him with other poeple but when he was in my company he was, still is very clingy and if he hurts himself he runs away not to me - he never cuddled me - i cuddled him or pointed to anything and i didnt notice that until it was pointed out. dont feel giulty <'> i bet most of us on here didnt see it coming, if you dont know what your looking for you just think thats the way your child is. Clare <'>

<'> Dont beat yourself up over it - even when your living with that child 24/7 you cant always notice things until they are pointed out to you, to you he's just your quirky little boy, thats how i felt anyway sorry i cant really help with the behaviours - my sons severe asd so his behaviours are different but from what you have said they all sound like typical aspergers to me. Clare

Ewwwwwww Thats Gross

Quick someone get the men in white coats for Baddad

I know Kathryn, they always pick things that are either unsiutable (hoovers, washing machines etc) or hard to replace or easily broken Saying that i dont think anything is H proof Clare

Ugggghhh Baddad - thats gross Warts and Verucca's are a sore point with us - H has them all over his feet and the GP just gave us cream to put on them - says it'll take about 3 months for them to go - in the meantime his shoes are rubbing the warts on the side of his big toes

I e-mailed Elc and they sent me the name of the manufacturer Red Toy Box Factory - but i cant find them anywhere on the net, so i e-mailed them again asking for their contact details ans she said she hasnt got them So i'm stuck and H's "light bulb" is starting to break Clare

I ordered my copy about a month ago from HMV Clare

awwww i'm sure you wont have to wait that long <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Clare

Thanks CMiur, I'll try ebay - but there isnt a discount shopping centre near me and i cant drive

AWW thats soooo funny i'd have been laughing too H went through a phase of saying crapped - he would say "H Crapped" whenever he pood - i know it's not as bad but i was still mortified when he said it That's all i need H saying he's crapped in public Clare

Thanks Baddad, thats a great idea - i 'll give them a try - half a dozen would be even better as he has a habit of putting things in hidey places and we have to search everywhere Clare

I bought My daughter a ELC Medical case ( dr set) for her birthday and there's a solid plastic bandage thing that fits on your finger in it - H has taken to this thinking it's a light bulb - he sleeps with it, bathes with it and all hell breaks loose if he cant find it. I was wondering if anyone has this bandage thing going spare - maybe your kids have grown out of the medical case or dont bother with it - obviously i will pay for it. Just so i have a spare cos if anything happens to this one he has he'll take it really badly - he loves it more than us Clare

MERRY XMAS & A HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE Clare

Like i've said Paula - I'm sorry for offending you and other parents - i know it's no excuse but i'm really going through it at the mo and do tend to lash out when upset which i suppose many of us do <'> I do know what strategies the class uses and they have never worked on him at home - to do time out with him i have to pin him down - which is not easy as he's a big lad for his age and very strong, also my daughter was starved of oxygen at birth and has developed problems of her own so it's not easy dealing with 2 of them and i'm not very well so i'm very frustrated at not being able to do things like i used to. I will contact his teacher when he goes back and try to sort something out. Maybe if I'd had someone who knows the school to talk to it would be a bit easier. I am very sorry <'> i really didnt mean it just lashing out <'> Clare

Sorry if i offended anyone, i am just angry with the school which never has taken any of my complaints seriously - because he doesnt show his emotions at school and waits until he gets home, which many of our children do. Maybe the class your children are in is better but i have had this for the past 3 year of complaining and not getting anywhere, and frankly i'm at the end of my tether, they dont let me know of any changes at school which affect him & all i get in the school diary is he's been fine, but when he gets home he's sobbing and trashing the house and up screeching and crying at 2am and when i phone to ask if something has changed they say oh yes such & such happened As for the other parents at the meeting, i'm sorry but the comments that were made dont help anyone - no school is perfect and can be improved on, just because maybe their child is happy there doesnt say everyone elses is and yes maybe it was a bit strong my use of words but as i have said, i'm at the end of my tether and close to breaking point - i havent had a decent nights sleep in god knows how long and going through a hell of alot of stress with my daughter.

Hi, I've only just calmed down enough to talk about this I went to H's xmas play on tuesday and it was horrific - There was a young girl there who had CP aswell as ASD she was helped up on the stage held while she cried with her hands over her ears while saying her lines H was sitiing in the corner waiting to go on stage, a teacher had him trapped cos he was giggling and trying to escape - he then bit this teachers arm - when H gets stressed he giggles. Never Again - he's not doing it next year - and if i give in and agree to let him do it, please slap me! Clare

I put in H's school diary this morning that he was sobbing and saying "bye bye school" over the weekend and this is the response i got back ( bearing in mind this is a asd school and H is 5yrs severe asd and wouldnt stop in bed unless i chopped his arms and legs off ) "H seems fine coming into school and is his usual self in the classroom. We all have a cold hanging around us so perhaps he's feeling a bit blocked and would rather be in bed, i know were all feeling a little like that." If it wasnt so shocking i'd laugh Clare

Exactly, i'm so sick of telling them H isn't coping and they just turn a blind eye - At the last ofsted report at the school i went in to tell the inspectors what i thought was wrong but alot of other parents were saying things like "how can you improve on perfection" These parents must have cottonwool for brains either that or theyve been brainwashed I cant make the school change when other parents are acting like this Clare

I was giving The kids their bath and H was putting his head under the water and coming up spluttering and repeating this over and over - it's getting me worried - he's really stressed. I hate the *insert rude word here* school for putting him through this.

Hi Bagpuss, The only explanation i get is - well he'll have to get used to it But i'm the one coping with the fallout and a very unhappy boy I mean why does he have to get used to going to see santa at a busy shopping centre Clare

HI All, H isnt coping well at all with xmas - at school they are rehersing the play to be held on tuesday, having xmas dinners, party's etc. (this is a school for asd's) and he is coming home sobbing his heart out, going for his sister and now nipping and scratching me and his dad- he's up 5am every morning and not going to sleep intil 10pm - he has dark circles under his eyes and last night when i stroked his back he flinched I'm sick of telling his teacher he's not coping well and last week i got aletter saying they are taking the kids to a very busy shopping centre to see santa I said no so he was put in another class - lesser of 2 evils i suppose but still not ideal. Why when this is a school for asd's do they put our kids through this? The first time i went to see H's play he was 3 and had just started the school- he was a sheep. Most of the kids in the hall were covering their ears and rocking and screeching and i said to my hubby never again- it was so cruel so i kept H off during the play last year but i cant do that every year Sorry just wanted to vent Clare