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  • Birthday 09/02/1969

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    Hampshire
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    Doctor Who, Earth Final Conflict, Bear Grylls Born Survivor, playing my musical instruments, science, video games and aircraft
  1. When I tried following the instructions I get: Server Error 500 - Internal server error. There is a problem with the resource you are looking for, and it cannot be displayed. Looking at the email address listed in my profile it looks like it has been changed but is that changed properly or is that just temporarily to give me a chance to validate it? I am not sure if the validating worked.
  2. The worst was when my now ex-husband's behaviour got the children put on the At Risk Register. Not only did social services assume I was neglecting the kids because I was suspected of having Aspergers Syndrome (that was soon after I had found out about AS and before my diagnosis), Social Services even though it was children's disabilities we were dealing with knew nothing about AS even in 2002 (they had to start finding out about it), and the number of misunderstandings was endless (and every one risked the kids being taken into care for no good reason- once the kids are on the At Risk Register your kids are considered fair game by Social Services anyway (they nearly got taken into care because I had to take both twins to a speech and language group only one was enrolled in because their dad didn't babysit as Social Services wanted, in spite of him abusing them which actually meant the children were safer than if my ex had done what Social Services wanted- the fact the kids came close to being taken into care because of that actually came from the Social Worker). Basically anything not done their (Social Services) way and the kids go in care even if they actually are being well looked after and loved. I needed the skills and talents of the most talented lawyer but I was having to manage with the abilities and social and communication skills of an undiagnosed aspie and at the same time I was having to cope with being abused by my ex and he was blaming his treatment of me on my AS and his family verbally attacking me for not finding some lie to tell Social Services when the Social Worker brought up that my ex hadn't babysat but instead said he hadn't turned up so I had had to take both toddlers with me to the group (which was the truth- in my ex's family's eyes telling Social Services the truth is a crime). I also had so many professionals to deal with it exhausted me- professionals are so much harder to communicate with. I had no right to protect my kids from their dad- I was required to give him free access so long as the kids were awake. Yet Social Services kept on about my lack of ability to protect them. I was supposed to spot and divert my ex's anger even though he admitted he blew up without warning (so what was I to spot?) which even if possible would require excellent social and communication skills and a talent for manipulating another adult (to manipulate him into not getting annoyed and angry and to keep him happy without it being at the expense of the kids in order to protect them). I had ever worsening depression. Since then motherhood has had its challenges but not as bad as that. My AS perhaps makes it harder to cope with when I am required to be in 3 or 4 places at once and all are as urgent as each other and it does mean that I totally lack any friends but I am not living in what felt like a war that required perfect social skills to win and losing would emotionally destroy my children.
  3. I have never had regular periods except when they were being controlled by the combined pill (which I cannot take now). I would not be able to tell if my cycle changed its length.
  4. I have very heavy and irregular periods but unfortunately I am not allowed to use the pill or any other hormonal methods of controlling it. I have mild high blood pressure. At least my PMT gives me some warning of my nest period.
  5. I am 40 and recently started getting PMT. For me it is helpful to get it as it is the only warning I get of a period being due to start. I get mega heavy, irregular periods I used to control with the pill but as I got mild Hypertension (possibly hereditary in my case) I have been taken off of that- the only help my doctor will give me for my periods is Tranexamic Acid which almost does nothing ). I can't wait to go through the menopause and be rid of periods for ever. As I need my PMT untreated so it can warn me of my period so I can prepare for it (my periods make a lot of things difficult so I have to be ready) I haven't tried treating it. Vanessa
  6. I have been trying to change my Personal Photo in My Control Panel but it does not give me the option of uploading one no matter what I click on- including update photo. Is this bit of the site not working or am I doing something wrong?
  7. He doesn't write on walls now but did for a long while. His twin brother was more of a chewer. His twin brother is waiting for testing for ASDs and is diagnosed with ADHD and we're not sure at present if he (the twin) has merely characteristics but not enough for a diagnosis or if he has an ASD. The one who's doing the ripping up is diagnosed with Autism and is high functioning but due to his lack of cooperation with that bit of the testing it isn't in his diagnosis. The ripping up is causing real problems for the twin brother and big brother because he sneaks shared books into his room when we are not looking and rips them up- stuff like strategy guides which they use for their games and need to be able to access and even if they didn't I can't fit them all in my wardrobe and we haven't enough high shelves. I'm a single mum so I cannot watch him every second.
  8. Luke doesn't chew them. He plays with them in his imaginary stories. They represent characters. We've tried to replace the paper with toys like plastic people but unfortunately that didn't help. I haven't seen the book the Out of Sync Child. Do you know where it is sold?
  9. I can't put everything out of his reach because he has a twin brother and an 11 year old brother who need to be able to access shared books and their stuff.
  10. All ready tried that. Didn't make a difference for longer than about 12 hours.
  11. My twin diagnosed with Autism is ripping up paper, books (even though he loves reading books), etc, in fact if it can be ripped up he will). I am trying punishments, rewards, taking away stuff to prevent it being ripped (although due to having other kids I can't take everything out of shared areas such as the lounge) but nothing seems to work. He is 8 years old. Any advice?
  12. London is too far for me to travel with my 3 special needs kids in the car.
  13. You can potentially learn to appear normal when out and about if you're mildly affected but it can be very tiring keeping it up. I wouldn't want to do it all day even at home. Although I'm mildly affected I never quite manage it.
  14. I'd known for as long as I can remember that I was different but it wasn't until after we moved to Hastings the day after coming out of hospital after giving birth to my twins we came into contact with the special needs section of Sure Start (my oldest had speech difficulties at the time) and they spotted I was very like a boy with Aspergers Syndrome that was one of the children they were working with at some point after that. They told me about Aspergers Syndrome about the same time as people were begiining to supect the boys had an Autistic Spectrum Disorder. The twins must have been about 1 year old to 1 1/2 years old and their big brother about 4 years of age. I was diagnosed at Maudesly Hospital and I had 2 visits there: one in late 2002 and one in early 2003. When my twins were 2 1/2 and my oldest 5 1/2 we moved to Romsey (at Christmas 2002). My oldest lost virtually all his autisticness/aspieness with the exception of hand flapping (shortly before we moved to Hastings he was diagnosed with Global Developmental Delay and with that one exception that was all that was left except his development was uneven not globally delayed). One of the twins was diagnosed with Autism probably when he was in Nursery (his special needs Nursery takes children from 2 1/2 until they start Reception Class). The other twin is presently on the list for diagnostic testing for Autistic Spectrum Disorders and has been recently diagnosed with ADHD. The twin diagnosed with Autism is also diagnosed overactive.
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