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    you could go to the cinema in advance and pick up a pair of the glasses for your son to try. our cinema (cineworld) makes you buy them seperately from the ticket to encourage you to keep them and reuse them so i'm sure they'd let you just get a pair of glasses if you explained. i have about 5 pairs now where i kept forgetting to pack a pair i also keep having to wrestle them back of K who thinks theyre sunglasses and to be played with
  2. i would certainly query it. if not for you own benefit, these records are incredibly important to children at risk of harm. we cared for some children a little while ago whose files had been mislaid. when they finally tracked down the information (after the children were in care) they admitted that had they had all the information in one place the children would have been taken into care 4 years earlier, which would have protected them from some truly terrible things. there were over 40 calls recorded from people concerned advising the children were at risk, but they had been put in different places so there wasn't enough in any one place to tip the balance and start the ball rolling. exposing the error with regards to you son may well cause them to look at their system, and in turn help other children.
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    i dont know if this is universal but the glasses for 3D at our cinema are completely different to the traditional red/blue lens ones you used to get. i think they should be fine if you can see out of the eye a little. i have one bad eye and one good eye, have to sit on a particular side of the cinema or i go cross-eyed trying to focus and can't see properly. i'm currently on a significantly reduced lens prescription too, cos they couldnt get the angles right so gave up and resorted to the last good lens i had used. everything is fuzzy to me all the time! i didn't have any problems with the glasses (except getting them to stay up in the right place over my regular glasses) i also spent some time during the film watching without the glasses, and it wasn't too bad, although i think it would be a waste of the film to watch it that way, with everything in the background very blurry. you can generally see the main focus just fine without the glasses though.
  4. tis my mothers birthday (yes, she was born on friday 13th!) so i've escaped once more! maybe next time if i've had a confidence transplant
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    i saw it in 3d today, and was very impressed, not least that they completely resisted the urge to have shrapnel flying out at my head during the fights! it was so much better in 3D, made you really notice the graphics
  6. i think the two year award is pretty standard for adult first claims. its what i got too. i only finished appealing the decision a couple of months ago, and this week i got my renewal forms. i haven't looked at them properly but it looks like its the same as the original forms. so you do have to start again it seems. good for me as i was never happy with the decision but i would imagine very annoying when you get the award you deserve
  7. i'm torn between just writing off the cinema or getting her some ear defenders and trying again. she'll happily wear sunglasses which should help with the lights, and a set of pink kids ear defenders will deal with the sound hopefully. i just dont want her to miss out on something that other kids dont think twice about. especially as theres a pretty big chance that she'll be invited to birthday parties that involve cinema trips or other noisy places.
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    i thought it was great. as to the length, i normally get up and walk outside part-way through a standard film. i didn't move once during avatar, and only 2 other people in the room got up! i'm thinking of going back tomorrow to watch it again possibly in 3D, but i'm not too sure as i dont like things flying out at me
  9. have you tried giving him quorn rather than meat? it has a much more uniform texture and taste but is still very high in protein. when i was vegetarian i loved it because no matter what recipe it was, it always felt the same in my mouth.
  10. today i took K (4) to saturday morning pictures at the cinema. its the first time she'd been, and she was very excited. she'd been talking about the cinema for weeks after seeing something about it on tv and when i realised we actually had a free saturday morning i offered to take her. all was going as well as can be expected. she'd only kicked one person in the ticket line, and was entertaining the people in the popcorn queue by wearing HUGE sunglasses and singing so seemed to be in a perfectly good mood. 2 minutes after the film started i carried her out sobbing after we realised there weren't enough hands to hold her tight and cover her ears and eyes. thoughout the adverts she'd been asking to go home, so i pulled her onto my lap, and noticed that everytime there was a change in light from the screen, or any speech or sound she jumped and was constantly shaking. i knew she didn't really like loud noises, but assumed that like everyone else she would get used to it. she was interested in the storyline, and between jumps was chattering about what was happening, so it wasn't that she just didn't like any of it. is this normal in an ASD child and just one more thing to list when they get round to assessing her? i'd certainly not anticipated such a strong reaction
  11. i had a smiliar problem in my last residential year at uni, the person in the next room was permanently high and dealing out of his room. he would become very violent, attacking another person in our house with a frying pan, trying to smash in my door on the first day when i asked if he could turn his music down (at 11pm!). i took the route you described, complaining to management repeatedly, who went and talked to him, and seemed to think that would resolve it. even after the frying pan incident (because she had used bleach in the kitchen and he didn't like the smell) they did nothing but hold a meeting with us and ask him if he wanted to move. no real advice except to contact your academic department, who are ultimately resposible for your wellbeing at uni. they should be able to get on to the accomodation people. if not, then the only other thing is to contact the police, as he is in posession of illegal things. when i told the management that my neighbour was dealing out of his room they made a big fuss about me not telling them earlier... then did nothing about it!
  12. my one issue with Ks new nursery is that they insist she can only take water to drink. k wont drink water (and shes a stubborn thing and will choose to drink nothing at all over drink water). when i asked if that rule was absolute the response was 'some other kids might be allergic to squash, so we only allow water'. she said that she noticed k wasn't drinking from her beaker, but that she'd drank half a carton of milk so it was ok... she'd been there 5 hours!! if it carries on i'll have to have words about harming the health of one child for the benefit of another. i'm all for the no nuts rule because another child is allergic but i can't quite understand why k can't have squash and the mystery squash allergy sufferer can't just not drink from ks clearly marked beaker.
  13. i used doves rice flour from the orange supermarket but have to admit i didn't even look at the price. ive made a mashed potato cake before that was nice but slightly heavy if i remember right (i think from delia?). i think next up for us is beetroot chocolate cake. K will be off to nursery tomorrow with one of the cupcakes, they're made with butternut squash so my evil plan to get her eating vegetables has begun!
  14. i've just had my first stab at moving towards going gluten free (for other medical reasons). i made orange squash cupcakes with rice flour, and theyre great! they'd be dairy free too if i left off the icing. i'm thinking of making an orange 'drizzle' next time so that theyre gf/df. the cakes are really light and fluffy, even more so than the best 'normal' cake so thats one thing i can rely on when i do take the plunge (or get shoved over the edge by my consultant) the recipe is from 'red velvet and chocolate heartache' by harry eastwood. the book itself isn't a gf book, i got it for my mum for christmas because it uses vegetables in all the recipes, but when i looked through it uses spelt or rice flour rather than normal flour. (i'm currently avoiding the spelt because i think i might have a major intolerance to it as last time i ate it my digestive system stopped dead for days and i was very very sick!)
  15. you probably know this but having read the comments just wanted to say dont give paracetamol and ibuprofen at the same time. give one and then 2 hours later give the other and keep cycling like that. that way everything stays much more even and you dont get that horrible dip while the medication is running out and you have no pain relief before you can get the next dose in. if hes having trouble breathing then something like a karvol plug in might help, as that really gets to grips with the bunged up, and seems to be very soothing particularly at night. i hope things improve for you and Glen
  16. NobbyNobbs

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    if you want it to sleep 6 people then best bet is an 8 man. they say they sleep 6 or whatever, but thats a myth based on you sleeping 1 inch from the people either side! so unless you want to get really friendly, get a bigger one! one you can stand up inside is a great idea, as is one with space to put things like smelly boots, so that they're in out of the rain, but not in your main sleeping/living area. other than that it doesn't really matter what tent you get, its the 'extras' which will be important - good sleeping bags, mini airbeds if you're carrying equipment (a full size single will take up 2 people sleeping space and be longer than the bedroom sometimes), lots of spare socks etc.
  17. you may also find that you can help out at his beavers, would that give him more confidence (at first at least). i got involved with cubs because i had to go to supervise some very challenging children we had in placement. they were more than happy to have me help as it took the strain off them to deal with the more difficult behaviours, but i actually spent more time helping other kids or standing in the kitching just keeping an eye on things. you should also find that different beavers are run in very different ways. our local one is absolute chaos (which drives the parents nuts) but others in the area are far calmer. it might be worth calling round any other groups in the area and asking them about their noise/behaviours.
  18. you could also try to establish if he would be happier going to a beavers where he knows noone. in my experience (i was a cubs helper) you should be able to find another group far enough away that it isn't 'local' without it being too far to travel (unless you live in the middle of nowhere). then he could have the beavers experience without the social stress of people in the wrong places. i have the same issue. it says a lot for my social skills that when i started brownies i didn't know/recognise anyone in my group... except that actually over half of them went to my school and 8 were in my class!
  19. i really struggle with accents too. when someone speaks to me with a different accent it is like they are speaking in a foreign language and i really cannot understand a word they say. eventually i can work it out but obviously its a big issue on the telephone because they dont know why i am either not replying or saying '...what?!' this even comes down to 'hello is mrs/mrs X there?'. a nightmare with student loans and banks because they are all based in scotland. as to confusing words i dont think i do that as such. i just have to spend a longer time than average working out what someone has said in general. and if i wasn't paying complete attention to what they were saying it has to be repeated because i'll have missed parts of the sentence while working out the other bits!
  20. K also eats it, but we haven't taken it away so far (not sure if we should, no idea how toxic play-doh is!). she has poor motor control and it was recommended by the child development team to help her with her fine motor in her hands but mostly she rolls it into snakes then licks it
  21. i'm somewhat confused but just to clarify... i used the examples of painting and cookery as treats because in our house they are. K at 4 is out of the house anywhere up to 8 hours a day and there simply isn't the time to get all the painting stuff out regularly when she goes to bed before 6 (plus K has a tendency to throw paintbrushes and paint her hair so it involves covering the whole room in plastic). i was not suggesting that it is in any way wrong to use these as therapeutic tools, or that it was wrong to use any method that works for any other child. i'm sorry if you felt i was commenting on your parenting skills Jsmum, but i didn't see any mention of either painting or cooking in your post so had no way to know that you used these. i was simply tying to illustrate to Justine1 that we used activities that were not part of Ks everyday life as rewards rather than adding to things that she did regularly. i do not intentionally restrict Ks access to either painting or cooking, it is simply down to the constraints of a child who sleeps 13 hours and is out of the house another 8. it leaves very little time for anything.
  22. being a completely mean person i would take the attitude that if he cannot deal with coming off the computer it is best he doesn't get on it in the first place. i would explain it to him, and tell him he can have another go at getting the behaviour right in a week. if he then still went nuts i'd move it to 10 days and try again, then 2 weeks and then give up and ban it for a considerable time until he is older (6 months probably) and begin the trial again. in a more moderate mood i would agree with BD that the boundaries need to stay consistant. i think perhaps the flexibility of good behaviour rewards etc is confusing the issue and i would move those onto something completely seperate. we place rewards onto things that are not part of the daily routine so that it is clear that it is a one-off reward for the correct behaviour. we use things like painting/cooking that are rare treats rather than regular activites.
  23. very sweet. i anticipate similar coments next week when K starts nursery with 9am-2pm sessions! poor girl was desperate for a nap after the 9-12 sessions last term so goodness knows how she'll manage all day this term.
  24. we keep having to recue the chickens from the garden. they come out of their house, take about 10 steps then realise how cold it is and stand there shaking until i go and carry them back indoors. then they repeat it 5 minutes later when they've forgotten about the snow although Elsie has discovered a new way of keeping her feet warm cold chicken
  25. which sussex are you in? the Sussex Autistic Society run social events, support meetings etc across sussex. if you go on their website it has details of what they do and how to contact them. i'm in West sussex and have AS. we also have a 4 year old foster child who is almost certainly on the spectrum although it'll be a while before she is assessed we think. K has moaned constantly about the snow finishing up with the biggest tantrum ever this afternoon - full on screaming, sobbing, throwing things, more screaming... all over the fact that the bathroom door was shut and she didn't want to open it to get some dry trousers!
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