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Hi Justine, thanks for your reply, i really really dont want to move Cameron as im due to have a baby in 3 weeks and then his dad is heading out to afghanistan early next year which is going to unsettle him enough! Other than the blow ups with Fred he enjoys school im just worried for his future and worried about the damage we cant see!

Hi all, i will fill yous in with a brief history of my sons problem! Cameron was diagnosed with ASD at age 4 he is now 8, he goes to a small school which has 2 year groups in each class, he has a statement of 20 hours per week. The problem i have is another boy in his class! lets call him Fred! Fred is also 8 years old and has a diagnosis of ADD, he has a statement of 5 hours per week. Fred and Cameron have been at the same school since reception, they have always had a stormy relationship! but as they are getting older its getting worse! Cameron thankfully is generally a gentle boy (which im thankfull for as he is a full head above most of his year group) but there is going to come the time when it all gets too much for him and he will snap! Fred is a small boy for his age, very clever and manipulative! Fred seems to be attracted to Cameron like a magnet so myself and his mum have tried to socialise them outwith school to try and calm things down at school but to no avail! it almost always ends up as a nightmare! Recently at home Cameron has been unsettled and not been himself i just put it down to the fact that im pregnant, but last week when i went to school to pick him up his teacher came out to me and asked for my help in removing Cameron from the class as he was sitting on the floor sobbing about an incident which had happened earlier in the day with Fred. It took me 30 mins to get Cam off the floor and to get a rough explanation of what had gone on! basicy what i could gather from what Cameron and his teachers said was - Fred had spent most of the morning annoying Cameron and wouldnt leave him alone, it then got messy during morning break and Cameron bit Fred on the leg and Fred scratched Cameron on the face! Now both teachers told me that its really wasnt Camerons fault and that it was totally out of charactor for him to do that! (he is not completley innocent) thay both agreed that he had been goaded into reacting by Fred Cameron told me that Fred had spent the morning calling him his bi£*h! now something else which is bothering me is the face that Cameron is refusing to wear certain pants and sox as Fred has told him they are gay! Ive phoned the school and i have a meeting tomorrow with the senco/headteacher and Camerons 1 to 1, i just dont know what i want the outcome to be! ive enquired about another school for him, but i really dont want to have to move him! i just dont want the rest of his school days fogged by Fred! realisticly is there anything the school can do? sorry if ive rambled on

Thanks for your replies, we are trying the reverse psychology route (thanks Baddad) and if we have no luck with that we will just leave him in the wee room, i understand life's not about bedroom size, but i honestly feel he would benefit from being in the bigger room, but small changes for me are massive changes for him so i wont push it. sonj

Hi all, ive not posted for a while as things have been quite calm around here BUT i now have an issue! Im expecting my second child at the start of november, Cam will be almost 9 when he/she is born! at present Cams room is the wee bedroom and the spare room is at least 3 times bigger! ideally we would like Cam to move into the bigger room as he is getting older and will need the extra space! we are trying to sort this out with him asap as we don't want him to think the baby has pinched his room! we would like him settled before he/she is born, BUT he is resisting! ive bought a memory foam mattress for the spare room as he has always wanted one and we have said he can help pick colours (as its pink and lilac at the mo) and we have said we will put i tv up on the wall for him, BUT he is still not interested! i've let it go for now as i dont want to make it too much of an issue and stress him out but i just dont know what to try next! Can anyone suggest anything i could try? sonj x

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thanks for that emmasmum, ive not looked at any help sheets, i will do an online search

hi all, ive spent most of today struggling to fill in cams dla renewal forms , ive got as far as part 24 which i just cant get my head around! HELP THE CHILD NEEDS WHEN THEY GO OUT DURING THE DAY OR IN THE EVENING................... i understand the question but when you read through the boxes that you have to fill in its not clear if this other person is a parent/carer or an additional person with the parent/carer. sorry i know im not being very clear but im confused.

Camerons big fear is dogs, this started about 3 years ago and has got worse and worse, it has started getting in the way of walks etc because if he sees a dog he will run! its just like a blind panic he has no sense of where he is running to and on some occasions he has run on to the road! we got a referal to CAHMs and we have got his first counselling session on wed morning, we are really hoping this will help! it might be worth talking to your doc of paed about a referal. I will let yous know how we get on on wed

Hi Jaffacakes, i usually try and dress smartly for meetings just to give myself a bit of confidence, i also get very very emotional when having to speak about cams problems so i alwayss have tissues and a drink to hand, fortunatly we deal with the same people most of the time and they have all seen me in tears

Hi Zen, welcome to the forum

Thanks Nicky, i have just changed it over! thanks for the tip on the enterance Stella it will be great not to be stuck in a long queue!

gorgeous dress! i might have to get one for myself enjoy the party

AHHH thanks for that folks

We are planning a trip to london during the easter hols and want to take cam to a museum, we wanted to take him to the one with the big dinosaur skeletons but i cant figure out which one that is is it the natural history museum or the museum of london? i have looked on the web but to be honest the sites are pants and i dont want to take him the the WRONG one help please xx

also i thought it should not have been a 12a it should have been higher.