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Jeanne do you think he may be being more insistant about 'home' as you have been up and seen him two weekends in a row? He does seem quite perceptive, bless him.I am sure he will settle down again soon and now at least you know that visiting him there is not a good idea. Try not to worry , easier said than done i know, i worry all the time, this worry never seems to leave us! Do be kind to yourself and us know how it goes xx

Hi Jeanne, sorry to hear that. Guess you live and learn and seeing him when he comes home for weekend visits does sound the best thing to do. I hope you're ok <'>

Well i suppose that it takes a good few hours, maybe days? for him to adjust again , i know it does with my boy, it is like he has to work it all out his mind somehow, then become happy/acceptable of it, and then he will manage ok, even smile! i think once he has been out (wherever) he then accepts whats at home and sort of settles. I too wish my lad would ride a bike, (but then i have never ridden one so never encouraged it) they have tried it at school and college but he seems happier if someone else is peddling and he can sit to the side or back!, rather someone else does the work! Hope the weekend goes well x

i hope it goes well for both of you, it must be so hard not having your lads living with you, heres to a great weekend xx

Thinking about it, it does make sense what oxgirl is saying. To change what you've been doing from the beginning, now, could lead to problems in the future, as of course, you are going to want to visit him there in the future. So maybe getting the home to work with him regarding 'you visit-you leave'could be the way forward.It is a hard one as you dont like seeing him anxious, yet regular visits from you are going to be his reality. Big love xx

Hi Jeanne,maybe visiting him in the home confuses him, so maybe just having the home visits , for now anyway, might be a better solution. Aw bless him, x

Id get them to make sure they take the needle out of his arm before he awakes. I remember my son at 7 waking up from a GA and being hysterical and determined to pull it out. He had another GA around 15 yrs old and the same happened when I stupidly forgot to tell them to take it out. He may be fine, but just to warn you if he is one that doesnt understand

Yes, her and her husband probably had been brewing since about 7pm. With the dog thing surely there is nothing anyone can do if they are not neglecting it and its not barking outside after 9pm? Thinking about it, I dont want any contact with her. I am going to let son carry on as he is and let her call the council or the police, its not a problem. Thanks people <'>

Yes maybe, they've been there about 6 months so time will tell. I am waiting to see what happens tonight but son is less vocal today ( probably because he let it all out yesterday!)

Hi Mumble, I think she took offence to 'noise' regardless. It can be irritating and I am sure if I didnt live with autism I would find it irritating too.He doesnt do it regularly, he goes in cycles where he will have days of quietness then a day or two of yelling. It isnt every day. Unfortunatley when in this 'mood/phase' it hits him hard and he cant trampoline without yelling, it is all part of releasing 'stuff' I guess

I hope you have a great day Jeanne and fingers crossed for that smile

The literature may be good. Does anyone know of any useful leaflets? I got the impression though that the only thing she was interested in was her kids going to sleep. Her and her husband are bankers. For what its worth, I strongly suspected she would complain as I had seen her shouting at someone who had parked for 5 mins next to her dropped kerb which makes it hard to get her 4x4 out. Thanks

He was yelling very loudly and full of energy (managed to snap two springs on the trampoline). Her kids are about 2 and 5. To be fair it was was a Friday night and the school holidays. She was very annoyed so maybe it came out as complaining rather than a polite request, dunno. He had been very loud all afternoon. I wasnt stunned by the knock at the door as I saw her marching through the gate and up the path from the upstairs window. I cant stop him as he has to release energy some how, when it suits him, but should I stop him after say 7 or 8 pm, I dont want to, he is a 24 yr old man and I think 9pm is about right? thanks.

Just wondered if any of you had any thoughts. Was my new neighbour right to knock on the door tonight and complain about my 24 yr old autistic son on his trampoline bouncing and yelling loudly at 8pm? She said he was keeping her children awake. I told her he had autism and I always have him in by 9pm. I suspect she will be ringing the local council now. Any ideas of what to do ? thank you

It must be very hard for you Jeanne, I know I would struggle dreadfully with it.I think you are very brave. Roll on Saturday eh ! xx

Hi jeanne, good to hear it is going well, have just got back from a holiday like this, it worked because of the choice of things to do, beach, walking, pool, entertainment, all at your own pace, if you wish. It is better out of season as not so many people but a good choice of holiday/break really. Plenty of stimulation.I am impressed at the home for taking them, they sound very committed which is what you want, you must be so pleased x

Hi Jeanne, maybe he has just outgrown living at home and your ways/whats wanted or expected of him by the family ? Or he could just want to be left alone. I am sure the happy look will re-appear x

probably a woman with no empathy whatsover

We went yesterday. It was very busy and quite a small floor space, wish there had been more room inside the exhibition area. The quiet area and the sensory room were good when they werent full of people. We went out and had a walk by the river and over the old victoria dock bridge and was pleased to see the excel centre itself, it is a massive space.

Good for you mark, im chuffed for you :)

Warms the heart to hear from people that care

Just to add , when my son does this, it is not a sexual behaviour, it is just another behaviour, and serves a purpose for him, like kicking his shoes off at every opportunity indoors and outdoors.

MelowMeldrew, can you try getting him to wear trousers with a belt ? Then at least you will have some warning when he goes to do it. This is what i do when my son has a phase of pulling down his trousers, other than that, giving no reaction at all and ignoring it is what i do, until he moves on to the next behaviour. Best of luck

YAY! I admire Mark Neary for his guts and determination. So pleased for them both , x

Sally thats what I was told too . I was told that if the person has never had the capacity they can not have a POA