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  1. Blp

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    I feel the same Denise, my 12 year old son has had learning difficulties since the age of 4, we are under the 'care' of CAMHS. He was assessed for Autism back last year and during our appointment in Nov last year I was asked 'do you know he has Aspergers? - here are some useful websites, we will see you again in 6 months', and that was that. This site has given me lots of support in the short time I have been a member and recomendations of books to read. Without all this I felt very alone and let down.
  2. Hi My 12yr old son laughs when he gets told off and if he does something that he knows is wrong! As the replies have said I also think it is a lack of understanding/social skills and in our case it seems to be a nervous reaction. It is very frustrating though when something goes wrong or I've just given him a row and he laughs in my face!
  3. Seems very nice, genuine person who is willing to help and support others despite having difficulties of her own.

  4. Hi there, Thanks for all your replies. <'> I will go to the local library to see what books they have on Aspergers and will try some of the ones that have been mentioned in your replies. Even though my son is 12 he has difficulty reading although his reading age is 6-7yrs. Obviously I will read them with him and hopefully the younger aged books will suit. Also I'm hoping to find a book for his sister to help her understand why he acts the way he does. What I think I need to do is deal with 1 thing at a time - at the moment so many things are coming to my mind to chat about I'm a bit overwhelmed! I'm going to deal with explaining Aspergers to him and my daughter first and go from there.
  5. I was advised a few years ago to try for DLA before my DS was diagnosed with Asperers. I didn't think we would be successful but we were. The form was very difficult to fill in and brought out a lot of emotions for me as it hit home exactly how difficult things were for him. I had help off a friend who had previous experience in filling one in. Could your health visitor help you? It's worth trying.
  6. Blp

    Behaviour

    Sorry Joanne <'> Feel I'm taking over your thread so I have started another topic on 'Help and advice'. Edith, thanks for that advice. I have asked for behaviour therapy via CAMHS but just keep being told to 'stick to a timetable'! Will start trawling the internet.
  7. My son is 12 (13 this year) but academically he is about 7. He was diagnosed with Aspergers at the end of last year but has had difficulties since he was 4yrs old! He has expressive and receptive language delays and behaviour problems associated with frustration. I have learned a lot off this forum including to say things in short easy sentences such as instead of saying 'how many times have I got to tell you - no shouting' I would now say 'no shouting' and I have found he responds better to it. The frustrating part is the fact that he finds it difficult understanding the correct behaviour expected of him and regularly gets frustrated to the point he storms off banging doors etc. Social skills are very immature. He's never spoken in a quiet voice it's always been shouting or shouting, nothing in between!! His poor sister puts up with a lot with him (she's 8- NT) but she is very understanding. He has been told he has Aspergers by myself, but I am now finding it hard to explain exactly what it is without frightening him. He worries and gets scared about the slightest thing which results in him picking the skin on his fingers until they bleed - the lastest being the way his body is changing (he's going through the first stage of puberty!). The good thing about this forum is that after reading other posts I don't feel so alone as I tend to bottle things up, my partner is not my 12 & 8 yr olds dad so don't feel I want to burden him with my worries although he is fantastic with them. His dad is still on the scene but is as much use as a chocolate teapot! I've got loads to talk about and I am jumping about a lot with what I've got to say sorry (heads in a bit of a mess at the minute!) , anyone know if/where I could self refer for counselling for my son and myself without going to my GP? CAMHS not very helpful for us and how I go about getting an outreach worker involved as they sound helpful? Better come up for air now!! lol
  8. Blp

    Behaviour

    My son is 12 (13 this year) but academically he is about 7. I have learned off this forum to say things in short easy sentences such as instead of saying 'how many times have I got to tell you - no shouting' I would now say 'no shouting' and I have found he responds better to it. The frustrating part is the fact that he finds it difficult understanding the correct behaviour expected of him and often gets frustrated to the point he storms off banging doors etc. He's never spoken in a quiet voice it's always been shouting or shouting!! His poor sister puts up with a lot with him (she's 8) but she is very understanding. He also worries and gets scared about the slightest thing which results in him picking the skin on his fingers until they bleed - the lastest being the way his body is changing!! The good thing about this forum is that after reading other posts I don't feel so alone as I tend to bottle things up, my partner is not my 12 & 8 yr olds dad so don't feel I want to burden him with my worries although he is fantastic with them. His dad is still on the scene but is as much use as a chocolate teapot! I've got loads to talk about - anyone know how I could self refer for counselling for my son? CAMHS not very helpfull for us.
  9. Blp

    AUTISM BILL

    Done here too and passed onto friends to email also. Fingers crossed
  10. Blp

    Behaviour

    I frequently feel the same as you Joanne. I don\'t like the way my DS behaves and I feel I am constantly having a go at him and shouting at him. I then end up feeling guilty and often end up crying! Positive praise works well with him initially but it seems he gets to the point of thinking \'well I\'ve been good all day, can\'t be bothered anymore\' and misbehaves before he goes to bed! He is a very loving boy but has very immature social skills and doesn\'t understand that some behaviours are innapropriate. I find I am inconsistent with my discipline which is an issue I need to look at. I have not found the Psychologist at CAMHS very good, as the only thing he keeps saying is \'he needs a timetable\'!I am going to contact NAS to see if there is a local Help program running in my area, also I was wondering how do I get an outreach worker involved? The only support we\'ve had is with CAMHS.
  11. Blp

    Hello

    Thanks Bid I will try to get a DVD like that to try. I have tried using lavender essential oil on some tissue in the bedroom which does work for a few nights then he gets immune to it!! He is a real nightmare the following morning if he doesn't get enough sleep.
  12. Blp

    Behaviour

    Hi Joanne I'm new on here and have similar problems to you. My son is 12 and has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers yet has had learning difficulties since 4! He gets into trouble a lot at school, finds it dificult to stay focused on a task and lacks confidence in himself. He doesn't understand the implications of his behaviour towards other classmates or teachers. I try to discipline him but I think I do more harm than good and I frequently end up crying! You are not alone, I'm looking for guidance too.
  13. Blp

    Hello

    Hi all, I'm new to this forum and already feel, after reading lots and lots of information, that you provide so much help and support it's wonderfull! A quick note about my circumstances - I'm a mum of 3, a new baby daughter 5mths old, an 8yr old daughter with no problems at all and a 12yr old son who has Asperers. My son has had 'learning difficulties' since he was 4yrs old and was then diagnosed with 'moderate to severe expressive and receptive language delays'. He struggled in mainstream school until he was 7 then was assessed and statemented after being accused of not supporting him at home by the teachers in the school!! He now attends a learning resource base within a mainstream comprehensive school and has settled in better than I thought. He has many difficulties which cause problems with his day-to-day life but 2 things are foremost at the moment. He cannot relax to go to sleep at night but when he eventually drops off he sleeps all night. We are also having difficulties with him and my partner (who is not his dad) he just ignores him at times and laughs at him when he asks him to do something! We are under the care of CAHMS which I personally find a waste of time and have recently joined a local support gruop for parents of children with Autism which Ihope is going to be beneficial. I could go on and on but won't, just struggling emotionally at present and need some counselling for my son, daughter and myself and partner to cope.
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