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dapperma

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  1. My son also loves club penguin. We have even started a reward system where if he can go rage free and being physical free (includes ppl and objects - eg.. kicking the walls, throwing himself down on floor when mad, etc..) for 7 days in a row, he earns one month membership on club penguin. I love that site because you can get a membership on monthly basis and not locked into a year. I can also suspend his membership by locking him out. He feels so special since becoming an agent. For now this helps with him being social - it's a start!
  2. Bringing groceries in from the car and a new tenant is moving into our apartment unit carrying his boxes to the door. Matt being the caring person runs ahead and holds open the door for all of us. We all meet up at the door. I say hi and introduce myself: Hi, I'm Marti and welcome, if we can do anything for you let us know. The new neighbor replies: Hi, I'm Rich. My lil' polite boy returns saying: Oh My mom likes rich men. Imagine my embarrassment!
  3. I read online how so many asd children are obsessed with a specific topic - airplanes, train schedules, etc. I was just curious if you wanted to share what your child has a strong love for. For me, my asd son (11) has been obsessed with frogs since he was at least 7 or 8. He has had other interest such as weather, anything factual (actually kept a facts book about anything and everything and divided the notebook into sections). He can give you whatever information you want to know about any species of frog - from its length, location, color, etc. It is so amazing to hear him give all the details. His love for frogs started just out of the blue. Everything is frogs -- his dear sister even gave him a real tree frog for a pet this past Christmas holiday. I am not kidding you he must have 30 or more stuff frogs (of course i am to blame for that). I was just viewing a video of Matt when he was 8 and when asked what he wanted to be when he grows up -- and after much thought -- he comes out with "I want to be a frog catcher when i grow up'". Anyone want to share?
  4. Walking on egg shells -- everyday is this. My ds (11) can go from sweet to raging for any reason -- and half the time it doesn't make sense. Something caught my eye on this post though in the beginning about carbs. If I allowed him, my ds would live on bread and potatoes. I can remember in preschool (it was a private preschool) and they served lunch family style -- Matt would always go for the breads -- almost like he needed it. This is before a diagnosis at this time -- and they had to limit his intake. And now that I read it above, my ds attitude can take a 360 degree turn after any meal that involves carbs. Tonight is a perfect example. He was getting very frustrated he couldn't complete this challenge on his playstation game and I had to take the game away because his mood was becoming physical. He had his potatoes for dinner with other stuff -- and he is a totally changed boy. Like night and day. I never put the two together but I will be keeping track of it. Matt can also become very apologetic after a tantrum and it is very sincere. I have also heard in the past from him that he is sorry but he 'couldn't control his brain with getting mad'. Has anyone else heard of this before when the child claims he couldn't stop himself?
  5. Remember, how can I remember when I forgot I was suppose to be going to ..... remember -- we are going backwards (Q is next)
  6. I am new here and this is my first post. I am a single mom who has 2 older children who are in college and out on their own (21 and 22) and raising the twins 11 yrs old with one being diagnosed with Asperger's (their father has had no contact with them since they were two) I wanted to share what has helped with the twins when they are playing. Yes the nt twin had much difficulty when his Aspie twin wants to place the rules to all games and prior to implementing the following almost any interaction the two had while playing a game turned into a duel match. This was recommended by a therapist and although it took a while it DOES work. In the very beginning of this method: The boys would initiate a game to play their choice and had to be agreed with both. I would allow them to play for about 10 minutes (usually this amount of time was always good in the past - it is after that amount of time HIS RULES would be applied by the asd twin and fights would break out). I would stop the game after the 10 minutes and praise them both for playing so nice together and move onto another activity or had them go their own ways with reading/playing etc.. (prior to initiating this method the nt twin would hesitate playing b/c he would say "I am not playing with him because we always end up fighting). I instilled in both that they can play games together without fighting. (Before going to the next step -- I had to be sure that this initial one was continuing to work). They continued to play for 10 minutes without any drama and i was able to move on to the next step. This method was later increased by the following: I would sit with my ds with asd and explain to him that he can change the rules one time but his brother could also change one rule. They had to comprise with each other. Again - this method was carried on for a while until both could understand each other. I admit during this time it was rough as it was hard to get the ASD son to realize that others are capable of changing rules also. (This could be playing WAR with the cards, matchboxes on their car mat - games that really didn't have any set rules for playing). The next step was teaching that some games have set rules and no changing of rules were allowed. Again, they were to continue to play for only a set time. The goal was to show that they can play and work out together their differences - and have fun with it. Eventually time was increased as long as I continued seeing the goals being met. Now fast forward a few months and the two can really play much nicer together without set time limits. They actually are sharing a game on their Playstation 2 and working with each other to increase their points. They will comprise with each other -- if you get this for me I will finish this mission for you. Just last night the two decided to play a game that involved one being a puppy trainer and the other was a puppy and even switch roles with each. They set up their own bowls of food and water -- it was so cute. I know a month has gone by since any activity was placed with this post, but just wanted to share. Thanks for the reading. I know I will be back for help with my boys. Have a great day.
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