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I have a neutral English accent normally and yet I am Scottish, I think that may come from growing up disliking most slang apart from "aye" and "ken" not that I outright hated slang but it felt confusing a little. When say I am drunk or in a rare moment of pure peace and serenity my natural Scots accent comes out. But other times I seem to unintentonally speak in accents I hear around me, I always remember at school when a Liverpool girl argued with me my voice changed so she thought I was mocking her and even at the time my brain was sore as I was trying to speak normally, I know a few Irish people and if they speak to me I am slightly aware of myself so make a effort not to try and sound Irish but over time it softens and I sound more Irish for example. Or local accents like I went to Edinburgh and sounded like a local, or when I was in Newcastle I sounded local(except not using slang) or when in London etc. The less aware of it the more I sound local, most of the time I can be aware so speak as close to my normal accent as possible but it does slip a little so people cant tell where am I from or assume I am from a little up North etc.

Not sure what to say but if it did affect your tenancy the management can get in deep trouble for discrimination.

I notice only this year that online a lot of people say something like someone is autistic as a insult to mean stupid or not normal Or variations on words that can are even double insults like aspietard or autard, I mean I have even seen people on videogames having words like that as their username. Now words like spastic have gone out of regular use but often censored on many websites so why isnt terms where its insulting a person who cannot help being a way be allowed? just like words that refer to someones race or sexuality are banned they think ones related to things like autism are ok.

I am one of the few that has no support, sure I have loving parents but no friends, social work tells me I do not qualify for support(and even when I had it for a year it was useless treating me like a invalid unable to do anything than nuture my skills) All I do is ring my parents a few times a week and have a hour talk on phone and if I dont ring for 2 or 3 days they ring me as they get worried. Apart from that I basically rot away, my issue being that I am just on the spectrum and no more according to the doctors so I basically have the wants and needs of a non autistic but the "flaws" like getting confused easily, hating physical contact(but craving it at same time) having a vivid imagination but my brain gets rooted in reality so it makes me depressed. I wouldnt say I was naive in the general sense its that I cant pick up on intention much so often go with the easiest option, if a beautiful girl chats me up I cant tell if she is being nice or fancies me, if I meet a rough person I cant tell if I should give them a chance or not(which is why I was burgled by junkies aged 20 despite benefits only being £15 a week at time as I was sanctioned again due to disability) burged for 3 years by drug dealing neighbour(it was my post, identity fraud, stolen giros etc) Also it means I am friendly to everyone so males and females assume I am chatting them up so I cant make friends and the few autistic people I know I am uncomfortable around as they are more on the spectrum.

Interesting, when I was younger when I was happy before a family member died that dulled my emotions(or at least the good ones) I used to have a base happy feeling but if someone like my mum moaned at me I would thump my head against a table or punch my head, not hard enough to cause huge damage, barely hard enough to hurt(hurt as in like when you bump your head rather than just a touch) or if I was upset lets say I met a girl and someone butted in and flirted with her (often talking down to me in the process) I would go home and not cry but get damp eyes and punch walls again not with huge force but enough to feel or I grew to punch pillows or a sofa a lot(knowing I could use more force) I have mild aspergers so I suppose like mentioned its partly control based, not in the traditional sense but if I have had a busy day and lived with parents(I dont though) and my dad told me that I had to get changed and wash before getting dinner I would argue that I am too tired and I will do it later, even if arguing was harder than doing the task I didnt want the stress of doing something so arguing and backing down means I dont have to use that energy moving about its the same reason I could be excited for weeks or months about something such as a party(or freshers at college) then when it came round I would be too tired to move, if I was forced to move I would get angry so its a no win situation But as I say I have mild aspergers so I am aware of all my actions(though may blank out right and wrong)

I dont like telling people where I post because I get a little paranoid even if people stand up for me, but this person has been a member many years and is well liked on the website, it seems they have the attitude of they have been there a long time and are popular therefore right(as many of the other people on the website seemed to be to a slight lesser level) it reminds me of real life when bullies say things like "I have many friends therefore I must be a good person and correct"

I am borderline autistic/aspergers(as in I just fall into the category and no more) despite that I have a lot of similar problems as yourself but also quite a lot of "normal" needs and fascinations such as I want to socialise but I get uncomfortable in the same way as you do and relationships are off the cards so I dont even try as I cannot get it up so to speak as I am either too nervous, or too relaxed! When I go out I have a plan in my head to flirt with girls and chat to friends but when it comes down to it I either get nervous or just cant be bothered(and as I get older more towards cant be bothered/cant think of anything than shy) I have a few habits but I think most people do autistic or not such as I need complete blackout when sleeping and heavy light when awake(otherwise I get sleepy so of the same I need pitch black to sleep as even a standby light on tv keeps me awake) but also a lot of that goes back to when I was a kid as my brother used to try and scare me such as saying ghosts come through gaps in curtains(so now I pin them back and use clothes pegs in the middle if they are short) I am a little bit of a hoarder in the sense I have stuff I buy and never use but at same time there is actual good reasons for this, one is that either if I sell them they will be worth nothing, or they will be hard to find such as non mainstream film and tv boxsets or imported video games(as I like a lot of games never released in Europe) and yes I know I can pirate them but theres a good feeling with collecting them. I always think if I could sell a lot of what I had bar the most rare stuff I wouldnt mind getting rid of it and that would mean I can downsize from a 2 bedroom flat to a bedsit or something. I also have the signs of depression its linked to facts I like to socialise but I have not got the skills too plus even if someone invites me to a party or something I get bored as its just standing about drinking for hours and I want the whole package i.e have a few drinks a chat, then maybe a walk around, maybe even to bar then on days off meet friends just to go around shops I never used to think about sex much till a few years ago now I have it on my mind most of the time unless I am having a good day, and on a good day I only think about it when its bedtime and I am half asleep(so its a energy thing in my mind) now I have a almost permanent tingly feeling in my entire body which i cant do anything about as I dont like touching myself and unable to perform with a woman(though thats a vicious cycle because if I knew I could perform I would just have a one night stand which would boost my confidence and also prove I can actually perform so it wouldnt be on my mind!) When it comes to touch its strange, like many autistics I cant let anyone anywhere near my neck as I freak out, but also if anyone tries to touch my ribs it physically hurts me and I have a conflicting idea of sensuality, I love the idea of touching hands and face and the girls i have been with have ALL told me I am the most romantic guy they have met as I like to touch everywhere such as eyes, ears, lips, hands, feet, arms, legs but after being intimate I feel uncomfortable and want to curl up, even worse after sex I feel very dirty of myself and also find the other person disgusting(even if I like them a lot)

So, I went back on the website after being away from it for 3 days as still ill(though pretty much better now) to find missed messages and from 1 troll in particular(which makes no sense as they have about 7000 posts and as many thumbs up) again calling me a egomaniac and/or a troll. I response saying they were a troll(and replying to other posters one last time rewording my situation since one said I have a high opinion of myself when in fact its the opposite) The troll comes on again and says to ME "dont feed me(as in a troll) or he will come back whinging me.me.me and saying I have teenage strops(many people accuse me of acting like a teenager on the thread)

that reminds me of about 5 years ago, my flatmates from when I was 18(15 years ago now 10 years from then) added me on facebook and started attacking me calling me freak and weirdo and accusing me of things they thought I did when living with them. I went through their chat history and found they were actually boasting online about finding me on facebook and making fun on me and how I was CLINGY with them(I hated them but I was polite and tried to become friends and they saw it as clingy) Put it this way when I lived with them they stole from me including a 1 week old phone with £50 credit, walked on the balcony to get into room through window and stole money and dvds(back when they were like £15 each) stole my wallet with £100 in and threw my coat out window into river below, one of them set fire to the cooker as he used a chip pan and they all blamed me so I was fined for it, one time they called me from flat upstairs and when I looked out window threw a bucket of urine over me, stole my 18th birthday presents(including a cupboard of alcohol) took my food out of fridge(and ignored theirs) and threw it over the walls and over me(and my brand new clothes and the stains never came out) So 10 years later they still acted the same, and the girl was a single mum working a minimum wage job boasting how fantastic her life is(the job she has now I had when I was 21 and it was easy to get into then) she boasts about how she is a strong woman as she is single when I know some of her exes and all call her names of a female dog!(and looking on their facebook even her recent exes say that)

Another person on the same website has attacked me now saying I am blaming other people for my own faults and that I am arrogant, egocentric, Narcissitic, argumentative troublemaker etc. They cannot understand that they have been giving worst case scenarios to me such as saying that if I did not get on its more likely the lecturer was right and I was just not good enough, and when I defend myself get called high maintenance, so I defend myself more and get accused of rants and attacking THEM. So like I said in my original post no matter what I say they see me as a bad person!

I filled in their form and got an email asking about my disability and contacted them as went to same college in past and they said they would pass the information on and to be fair its more likely the lecturer just didnt pay attention as they seemed to rush me out in under 5 minutes and blank everything I said and grumbled all the way through. They just seemed unprofessional but I remember last time I was there the same lecturer was rude to me and has a reputation of just getting into arguments.

I was rejected for a college course as the lecturer at interview misread my tone of voice and facial expressions as lack of interest(also I had a heavy cold and could barely breahe) and gave us 15 minutes to write something with 2 paragraphs, and concusion and i got confused and said it wasnt good enough, this is despite me going to university before, working in radio and tv, having articles posted in local papers and photos and winning awards. That and the lecturer was so disorganised they did not realise my experience, my disabilities etc. I asked for advice about complaining online and explained the situatiion and most people called me nasty things like narciassist and I expect preferential treatment due to disabilty(and using that as a way to talk down about disability) when I meant reasonable adjustment, people accusing me of trolling, or saying I was acting like a immature child not getting my way as I was getting irate at the nasty comments Every time I tried describing my disability they accused me of whinging, I had the token person come on and mention how they have kids with autism who are sucessful and therefore I was blaming my failure on my disability. Or that when people said I must of had a bad portfolio I mentioned it was good enough to win awards and good enough for uni to then be accused of thinking I was better than others! and that I expected to just walk onto course. I just cant win, whatever I say will be broken down into some sort of way to insult me and say I am not good enough which they really believed was them giving me advice and me not listening. Just upset and want some discussion here.

I was assessed 3 years ago for aspergers and told I had it, had to wait till DLA claim was sorted but social worker got me carers though they were useless not turning up or just being lazy or even turning up for 2 minutes but being paid for 2 hours. The reason they were there was part motivation and part to help me with tasks as I am scatterbrained or just struggle to understand i.e I will eat takeaways as though I can cook I either lack motivation or I feel tired or cant get in frame of mind, also especially at old house I may not of left house for days at a time(or just went to corner shop) so it was to help me get into a routine and to make simple tasks like cooking feel natural to me rather than stressful or me put them off. Moved June last year but didnt get a social worker till September due to old social worker not passing on my file, I had a visit then and discussed needs and mentioned carers/helpers was told I was get them but it may take 2 or 3 months, Heard nothing so rang 2 weeks ago and social worker said she would see me yesterday, when she came round she was friendly but said based on what I said to her such as I physically can get out of bed, can leave the house, can wash myself or cook and can clean up(though she didnt mention the clutter) that meant I didnt need carers but she would get someone to help me get back into work because she thinks that will mean I get more self esteem and make friends, I did bite my lip as have worked before and been to college but I can honestly say since I left home 15 years ago I made 3 good friends and fell out with one about 5 years ago and other 2 live in different parts of the UK(and one is a bit annoying and I think has signs of autism himself and feels like a little brother who annoys me) so getting a job wont mean I have friends, it may mean I have people to talk to and maybe a pint now and again but from past experience(and that was before I had severe depression) I had no friends at work or college just some I had shared intrests with that I may speak to in staff room but dont know their phone number or go drinking with them Just a little annoyed that I havent got carers because they judged need on what I can do no matter how difficult it may be to do it.

What do you think about this sort of thing as for me it can go either way because I for example have a aunt and cousin who over the years have always had a chip on their shoulder and not sure if its related always act like they are the victim in some way, for example my other cousin was arrested for manslaughter about 15 years ago because he injected heroin into someone who died, my aunt rang my mum about 6am and was on almost constantly to about 3am next day talking about her darling son and how hes innocent and wanted sympathy, then a few years later brothers fiance died and police always arrest the partner before releasing them(even if its not suspicious) and when this happened they turned into angry women who attacked my family for no reason, the same aunt who wanted sympathy from my family when her son was arrested(AND convicted of the crime) said my brother murdered his fiance, since we were on benefits as dad was seriously ill after a botched operation in the 80;s she called us benefit scum and accused us of phoning her and her daughter and breathing on the phone to intimidate them, then spread rumours around her friends and family talking about how we were intimidating her and harassing her. About a year later my mum went to visit my grandparents and my grandfather hid my aunt and cousin there and told them to make up BUT made my mum apologise since she was in the wrong he thought(because my aunt and cousin had told him lies) and since then it hasnt changed much, the amount of times they have found the smallest thing to call my father especially scum of the earth such as even 10 years on claiming my brother killed his fiance, her family is perfect(her son is now in his 40s and still a junkie and steals from family like credit card from my grandad and my aunt is in denial since she had dealers at her door demanding like £1000 her son owes them) any time we mention her dysfunctional family we are lying and stirring things and it just proves what scum we are etc. Most recent one was my dad was in supermarket and noticed a bra with the same name as a food product and made a joke "I wonder if I am dyslexic" my aunt and cousin said my dad was disgusting and taking the mickey out of learning difficulties(despite me and mum both being dyslexic) and swore at him, spread more rumours about him, told my grandparents total lies about what he said and again wanted my father and mother to seperately apologise to them and AGREE what he said was offensive etc. The other mad thing about that is my mum worked with kids with learning difficulties for years, and they have friends who are teachers who thought it was fine and some friends with kids with dyslexia and they thought it was fine. Would you think its fine for one, or would you think that not just in this case but my aunt and cousin are just angry at the smallest things and what about people in general do you think they have chips on their shoulder.

I have known some girls in past that I am friends with that all have boyfriends, they all really agreed that I was the sweetest kindest most caring guy they ever met to the point of saying I shouldnt be single as I am someones perfect partner, I suppose its similar to when I work I get bosses praise me of being the best employee they have but when I leave I cant find another job as for both things I cannot sell myself. For years I was more the sort who would blank a girl or even other guys if spoken to and never make a move then after a family death and a few years of starting and leaving college courses I went the opposite way of basically being chatty as I was a little lonely so I noticed if I ever went to a bar and spoke to someone be it male or female they thought I was chatting them up rather than just being chatty(and I can talk for ages and ages and need to be told to shut up) Anyway one I find it impossible to sell myself and secondly the obvious social problems of having aspergers (i am the sort of person who will either have a long silence as I dont know anything to say and if someone started a conversation I would take control of it and make it about me for ages Finally there is the actual uncomfortable bits that when I have had a girlfriend before(1 real one, one I met online who slept in same bed but we didnt do anything) and also from when I had a few one night stands in my life in bed I want to be alone but at same time a little lonely(though even when awake I have a similar thing where I may like cuddling and affection one minute then its suddenly out of my system and I dont want anyone near me) so in bed I just want to have a double bed to myself and large covers so I can lie on side one moment or spread out another without being cramped by another person and sharing covers also each time I have slept in bed with someone its too sweaty for me as I have a clammy body, even in winter I need to sleep in underwear and if neighbours have heating on below me I need to open window so its impossible to sleep with someone. So various issues, and they all fit together since I may think its too stressful to deal with affection one time, another I may think I want a mix of being with someone one minute and to have time by myself the next because to me my bedroom is my sanctuary I want to sleep and no one be there so I can snore or toss and turn or go to bathroom without having someone near me and once I awake I then crave company.

I assume there is since people on the spectrum have brains that seem to process patterns different to regular people, I am slow to learn something as I get confused but once I have a little experience I am fine and with a little more than that I become very efficent and good at a task to the point I surpass regular people, worked well when I was in a call centre position since I not only reached targets(often reached a months targets in less than a week) I remember that up till about a year ago I was bad at repairing laptops despite taking apart pcs since 2004(mostly just adding a graphics card or new ram though) and in 2006 building first once from scratch that took me a few hours now I can build one in about 20 minutes if not less and I took apart one laptop and it was a disaster, then waited 3 years and tried another that was the same and this time found it simple though I think the problem with the first one was I didnt take a photo or write down where cables went or which way round parts of case went, shame laptop was dead though. I also remember when I was a few years old, which was the late 80s at school I did a computer course in about 30 minutes that was supposed to take 5 days! I did intentionally rush it though, but got all answers right and so the teachers made me help the other kids and I beat other kids at games I was experienced at and even if it was a game I wasnt used to as soon as I learned my opponents pattern I used to give them no chance.

He is 26 never really had any friends, his younger and older siblings are all married or in long term relationships and all in good jobs I met him 4 years ago at uni as shared a flat with him, he used to have an awful temper as he had a lot of hard work to do and would just snap at me, since he left uni he never gets angry and his bad habits arent as extreme i,e when I moved in he already lived there 2 years and never once took bins out, living room table was coated in coffee stains and tobacco, his bedroom you could not see the floor, I remember spending hours cleaning up and then coming through living room to see it coated in tobacco as he just made roll ups by pouring it on the table and picking it up, The kitchen he made coffee by just picking up the jar and randomly aiming at cup, same for sugar, afterhe left uni he calmed down and despite being a little untidy not as extreme i.e would make dinner and leave plates on side, or visit me and unload his backpack onto the floor, have dirty shoes etc. So far it could just be hes a slob, but his personality shows signs of similar to me i.e he lacks understanding of anyones feelings, when I lived with him I bought reduced food for example like meat reduced from £5 to 20p and he would eat it then say "its only 20p" or if I asked for a replacement he said all I am entitled to is 20p as thats what it cost, he didnt take into account I walked like 45 minutes with loads of shopping bags to just have it eaten by him and again he would just say all I am entitled to is what I paid. If I ever loaned him cash, not directly but lets say he was short bus fare and I paid, then he had no food and I bought some he would get confused and say the amount sounds too high and want me to explain everything I bought, even then he says that he doesnt think he bought certain things but eventually huffs and puffs and pays, I invited him on holiday and after making dinner I said he should wash up but he said it made no sense to wash dishes if they were being used like 3 hours later so to only wash them then as its extra effort, also anytime he comes to vist me he generally waits to confirm to last minute as before that he keeps changing mind, what annoys me about that is if he doenst tell me the night before he then also doesnt text or ring to come down, just randomly comes onto internet and I have to ask him. He has no other friends as says people dont understand him, I did tell him 2 years ago to get an assessment and he spoke to doctor about it who agreed and said he should get more but my friend moved then didnt chase it up as he said its too much effort. He just blanks out anything hard to do or that he doesnt understand.

Had an interesting discussion yesterday online too, someone was asking for advice on part time study and claiming benefits and seeing I have been to uni twice whilst on benefits, had parents go part time on benefits, had their friends go part time on benefits etc I have done the research into the subject, someone who wasnt the original poster said I was totally incorrect and the DWP says this(and we all know how contradictory the DWP are) the basics of the argument was they were claiming that they did not understand my replies therefore that meant I was wrong, that I had no structure to my replies therefore I was wrong, providing no evidence what they said was correct but told me since I said my response was right I had to prove I was right they do not need to prove I am wrong.

This is the same government that when the NAS put me on a list for people with autism to do a training course in IT with a well paid job at the end which was permanent(the employer actually looked for people with autism as they see them as harder workers) That cut ALL funding INSTANTLY so I ended up being unemployed since then costing them money.

Interesting it just happened to me again on the same website but so far its just 1 person calling me vile and disgusting and to get my facts right, and another which mentioned that what I said was wrong and reasons why. My crime? They were talking about a potential new law in which pregnant mothers can get arrested, I mentioned how a certain celebrity who has had about 4 children so far has drunk almost daily with every child and her first child was severely disabled and I remember THINKING that the constant partying affected the baby, what I meant was AT THE TIME I WAS THINKING. People assumed that I have no knowledge of disabilities and just judged this person for no reason(despite their attitude over the years just backing up the assumptions) so then judged me on what I DIDNT say since the few lines I did say can be interpreted in any way. This seems to be a huge problem really, write down in detail your feelings so it cant be misinterpreted and people refuse to read it as its too long, write simple replies and people judge you as they misinterpret it.

I actually didnt like her that much, didnt hate her but she was always winding me up(not in a nasty way) such as me being single, that I was shy etc plus she had a habit of sob stories to "borrow" money and not pay it back despite being better off than me, if anything it was more the fallout than it as everyone blamed the family and accused us of murder and covering it up, one minute we were evil geniuses for covering our tracks, the next we were stupid and leaving tracks etc, didnt help I come from a benefit claiming family so in peoples minds that meant we were greedy, lazy, thieves any negative stereotypes. Music can be nice but overall it just knocks me out even a few songs. It was more that added to that I took a few years out before uni so I was 25 mixed with loud 18 year olds which made me very anxious and destroyed my self esteem. I see it as just a bad cycle, I have a bad nights sleep so I feel bad during day so I cannot relax so then I go to bed stressed then cant get a good nights sleep, on the rare chance I feel somewhat relaxed I decide to chill out which means I dnt leave the house which then makes me groggy as if I dont go out even for a few minutes I feel rought. So the first step is good night sleep, then basics like going out, then to play video games or watch a movie

Up till a family death 10 years ago I was always bright but had somewhat low self esteem, but in part that was because whilst other 21 year olds(I am 31 now) were out clubbing id rather watch a dvd or play video games though did start drinking once a week but only for a few hours i.e 10pm to 3am once a week and spend under £20. After the family death I suffered from depression but I think my social issues intensified it Here is where it gets a little stranger though, at same time of family death I started changing my pattern of living i.e instead of watching a movie or playing a game I had a pc on from waking up to bed time so my concentration was divided between 2 things at once, in the past it was more like I read a book whilst having tv on but apart from the random glance at tv I would read a book. About 6 years ago it got to the point where I can never focus so am depressed, now and again I will have the tv turned off and play a video game on pc and love it, or have computer turned off and love watching tv but 2 at once I feel spaced out. Anyway a few days ago I asked for sleeping tablets as this sort of feelings extend into my sleep i.e I wake a lot and no matter if 8 hours or 18 hours I feel spaced out as my mind races with a huge amount of information. The sleeping pills havent made me sleep less, and I still wake up but I dont toss and turn in bed, and my mind doesnt race when I wake up in middle of night and when I get up I am relaxed. I am thinking that the reason for feeling bad all the time is the huge amount of information rushing through my brain all the time so the pills just filtered it out so I can get a good night sleep(I have always been one for a good night sleep even when younger and invited to all night parties or a 24 hour games night. So if I can take something that filters out everything I can recover from years of depression, tried anti depressants and they did nothing I have never been one to drink or take illegal drugs(or legal highs) because they seem too extreme, if I drink it may relax me a little but then the poison effect numbs my eyes and head and just makes me want to sleep(I get a good nights sleep with drink too) I have tried cannabis but it just chills me out and doesnt actually relax me in that sense and with both drink and non OTC/prescribed drugs I get bad come downs, even a energy drink makes me crash a lot. Also when I am clear headed I never want to eat very often, but when I am crashing even if taking nothing I eat to stay awake which is why I gained about 7 stone in 7 years and yet at times like when I have had a relaxing day I basically starve as I dont feel like I need to eat as I am not crashing.

Funnily enough having it even worse today! I went on a message board somwhere aimed at a certain tv show and mentioned that they seemed to have too many etnhic people nowadays(I realised after I worded it wrong but didnt want to mention skin colour or individual races) I tried explaining it felt they were shoved in and only there because of race and ended up currently a 3 and a half hour discussion with people calling me disgusing vile racist etc and each time I try to defend myself I get accused ot digging myself deeper, lying to cover my own back, or contradicting myself in any post. That has mostly calmed down but one person seemed to take offense and mention how if a UK show has 80% white actors that is racist to ethnic minorities! so I had to show proof of why it was bad to show people when the cast ius mostly white! Then someone came on and said I was a vile bully, racist, anti ethnic propaganda etc when all my reponses said I had zero problem with anyone regardless of race, gender etc just if they are token and I would rather see say a ethnic Scottish person than a white Londoner and somehow that was racist too! It basically came an attack on how I was wrong and racist, some people calmed down and said they didnt agree with my views(implying in many ways I was still racist) but understood it was just a opinion or that I have had some sort of bad experience in the past, I did explain my autism and some said too that because of that they understood I wasnt that good at explaining things but that didnt justify my opnion etc. Just a litte upsetting as I never meant to offend anyone and quite angry people were quick to attack me and even the ones who calmed down still assumed I was in the wrong! I dont think its racist to think theres token characters on tv(especially since I never said they shouldnt be on tv, and also mentioned there should be more but in the corrext context)

I was on another forum and wanting advice on housing problem, I mentioned jokingly to me that the neighbour was out a lot as they had a free car and people replied with me being judgemental of benefit claimaints which I partly expected but replied for reasons why(on the sick but out of the house as much as 12 hours a day, goes on a lot of holidays" but even then tried to keep it civil(I was joking but know it can be easily misunderstood) After that it became a attack on me for being nasty about benefit claimants, judgemental, that the person could have family or friends giving them cash, may be working etc and each time I tried defending myself I was basically called nasty and vile! Then told I wasnt following "advice" to change my writing to remove the parts about my neighbour(which means I did nothing wrong but they think I did so I have to do what they say) One person even said I lacked common sense because I didnt write what I did before asking the question (not understanding me being autistic but I never put I was because I know from past experience if I do that people assume I am giving a sob story or expecting sympathy) and then twisting each thing I say to whatever they want and basically anything I dont say they read into it saying I meant something else(because I didnt say what I meant) If I instead wrote what I meant first time I was told it was unimportant and changing the subject!!!!) Just a little upset.