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  1. Really upset as can barely afford bills at the moment yet my ex neighbour who was stealing letters and parcels when living next door has done identity theft in my name, if thats not bad enough he already has a history of growing and selling drugs, subletting a 1 bedroom flat to 4 people, claiming benefit under 4 names AND working full time etc. And he knows I have aspergers and am a vulnerable person on anti depressants. Went to police who dont care apart from the giro he stole(signed under his own name, and forged a rent book and letter from me) saying they dont deal with identity fraud.
  2. Some good news I hope! my Social worker got in contact with me yesterday and got my jobseekers sorted out and the council said to just hand in a letter stating how I have been surviving the last 5 weeks without money. Got messed about by council today stating I had to fill in an entire new form etc but my social worker rang them back and then said they have restarted claim and backdating it and not to worry about proof! So I am happy but still not 100% convinced till I get a letter from council stating my award and I get payment since this is similar to what happened originally when the jobcentre restarted my money in may but then council told them to stop it because they have doubts about me and since their treatment of me has been bad it may happen again!
  3. Been living here just under a year and on benefits. Had various issues during the year inc someone stealing card details and having about 2 thousand pounds stolen(which I havent got back from bank yet) meaning I have no savings and pay rent late each month as my housing benefit cheque arrives a week - 10 days after rent is due for month which each month I explain to agency who are rude and dont care. However due to being a part time student I have been messed around by jobcentre for past 6 weeks meaning I have had no benefits or housing money so living off money I sell possessions from. Rent is 3 weeks late at moment and agency threatened me with voicemail and texts stating if not paid by 9am tommorow they will evict me on the spot which I know is illegal(and not just civil but CRIMIAAL as had a landlord try and evict me a few years ago) Just wanted advice on the best course of action, thanks.
  4. Forgot to say Adam lives over 500 miles away and somewhere which is about 10 hours by train(I know as I have family about 30 miles from him and thats how long it used to take me to get down there!) and even longer by car. So its strange she has picked this guy who she has likely never met over me as I originally assumed she went with him as he was local and I lived 50 miles away. I also assume she met him through her online dating profile that I found out she had.
  5. AS of Thursday not only has she vanished from MSN but she is ignoring my texts and her facebook status has "in a relationship with Adam" The strange thing is she was def into me a lot before last week I just assume she was quite fickle and would of gone out with the first guy that asked her out(since she was recently out of a 4 year unloving relationship where the guy cheated on her and left her) I am fumning that she is deciding to ignore me now as it seems she just cares only about herself, she hasnt even given me closure!
  6. I wouldnt be upset but this girl seems random about her feelings, one day she can be all over me to the point of texting me quite a few times during day, and can do this for over a week at a time, then seem rather quiet not silent just more occupied with her movie or xbox game. A bit of background, we met in mid January at student bar and hit it off, at first was just chatting via msn but within a few days had her phone number. For first few nights we were going to bed like 4am up late chatting(and as she started work around lunchtime that was a good sign) then she would slow down her talking to me over next few weeks. What I notice is that she seems to chat to me the most shortly after she goes on a date with a random guy(she has a profile online I found out) but never tells me she is going on a date, just says she is off for a drink with friends she hasnt seen in a long time, its only when she slips up she says she was on a date i.e next day I ask her did she get really drunk and have to get friends to walk her home and she is like "oh I was only out drinking with 1 person"(this has happened a few times) and/or says something like "oh it was only 2 drinks and a meal with a friend" then again a few days later "it was 2 drinks and a meal on a date" On her birthday last month she got drunk and came home and told me she wanted me, to date me to have sex with me etc, we have been flirting since we met and often tell each other how we want to snuggle up together and sleep all night, or get naughty in shower jokingly. Anyway around 3 weeks ago she suddenly got really close to me, texting me about 5-10 times a day, letting me watch her sleep on webcam as it relaxed her and one day when I said I knocked webcam over by accident but as she had seen me on cam every day for over a week shes would be fed up of seeing me she said "I always want to see you" We had a date last Monday but she was quiet throughout and totally different than online but told me this was as she had hay fever and the day before she was walking around for hours with parents on a day out, so instead of an entire day out only saw her for 2 hours but when she went to get bus she turned around to me and gave me a massive hug and put her head on my shoulder and squeezed close to me! When she got home I asked if heg was any better yet and she replied it was a bit better now, she loved our day out and wants to see me again, wants to show me around museum in her town etc. Anyway I went in a caravan with my parents for a week so the only internet I had was in the on site bar which internet was restricted to almost dial up speeds and msn wouldnt log in correct but I managed once and her avatar pic was of her in a sexy dress leaning over cam, and when I said hi she blanked me for 5 minutes then the pic changed to one of her face and she said hi and was a little quieter than usual. Over the follwing few days she never seemed to be online much(she finished work at 1.30 normally, home at 2 and straight online all day) and when she did she was quiet. I got back last night to find her status which had about 8 "red lips" and 2 "kisses" and the name Alex in the middle(not my name) and she pretty much blanked me all night and when she said she was off to bed she stayed logged in(in the 4 months I have known her she has never done this before" her webcam is "broken" now. Tonight she was blanking me most of the night and just claimed it was down to her watching a movie then logged off at random at 8.45pm so I text her at 9 to check she was ok and she said she was going to bed as she was tired so I text back saying I would too as was still exhausted from holiday. A few minutes later she logs back on but blanks me for 5 minutes and then replies to my basic question of asking if she felt less tired as "a little but may go back to bed soon" then blanked me totally then a hour later logs back off. I either think she is now dating this "Adam" guy or didnt like our date much or both but either way want to be told so we can stay friends. What are others thoughts?
  7. Its really hit the fan here! I think its all down to the fact that last year when I moved from one area to another my then landlord put down I moved out 28 days before I did and about 6 weeks ago I found out I was getting deductions for LHA overpayment(since the council claims they tried contacting me many times) So I appealed and am getting messed around by my ex council as I sent of a detailed letter with the end date of tenancy, then the exact day I moved out, the date I moved to new property etc to be told they wanted confirmation of this again, this was 3 weeks ago. In the meantime I was also contacted by ANOTHER council about somewhere I lived just before I moved to previous one(only stayed 6 months in each area trying to find work) saying they have recieved information that they are investigating as they think I was getting LHA wrongfully. Fast forward to yesterday when I signed on and was told my claim is suspended(and only suspended that day) I rang up benefit delivery centre who say they have been advised I am a full time student but the guy is friendly and says this is probably an error and he will speak to a supervisor about getting a giro and ring me back within a hour. After I never recieved call I rang back to be told there was no record of me ringing(and from advisors tone on phone he didnt believe me) and said due to bank holiday I would get a call about an interview on Tuesday. I also rang up the old council who confirmed they contacted the jobcentre that day but didnt say what about. Today I get a letter saying my LHA is stopped as I am a full time student! So it turns out my old council has contacted my new council, the jobcentre and a former council stating I am a full time student(I am 5 hours a week part time which is authorised by JC) and they claim I am a student at a university which is about 150 miles from where I live!(so how on earth do they think I am part time) Just really panicking an want to know my rights as from what I have been told they will investigate the claim I am a student which will take a few weeks but I have £20 in bank and no other funds like overdrafts and no family to help me!
  8. Both the old and new bulbs are 50W The only other thing it could be us I didnt know how to put the metal clip over the bulb to hold it in place, so maybe this is why since the ones that go are the ones that are touching the metal instead of pointing directly downwards.
  9. Havent got any to try, didnt know at first till I googled later. Well what confuses me is that when I replaced the 4 bulbs one lasted 1 week, one lasted 2 weeks and the following two lasted 3 weeks, that doesnt seem right to have 4 duff bulbs together.
  10. Been here since June last year and its only been since January they started to die(though 1 of them wasnt working even when I moved in) Within a month 4 bulbs died one by one every few days, so it got to the point where the light in living room was dul. 9 days ago replaced the 4 bulbs and tonight 1 of the new bulbs has died already, and thinking back its the same socket as the first one that died before. I am not using cheap bulbs. they are 2 for £3 bulbs and I can get them cheaper. I have read online that sometimes fingerprints on the glass can make them overheat and burn out(but its almost impossible to put them in with a cloth in hands, or gloves as you need to grip!) Any ideas?
  11. Well I dont think thats a fair thing to say since in the past 10 years I would say I have missed 2 or 3 appointments at doctors and normally I ring first(I normally cancell them as I have a chest infection which is the very reason I want to see them at that point!) Even if I knew my appointment was 3pm I would of had to get the same train, I rang up out of courtesy just in case someone came in there and then and needed an appointment. The ironic thing is that every doctor I have visited (apart from one doctor 3 years ago) have had me wait like 30 minutes after an appointment time to get seen as they are always behind schedule so even in the unlikely idea that this one was working dead on time then they should realise that I rang up dead on time(when I got home I found my watch was 3 minutes fast anyway!) so I rang up a minute or two before appointment for one, and even if I stored number day before it wouldnt of been the correct one since that just tells you another number to ring(not very good organisation by them)
  12. It didnt cross my mind to store the number really the night before since the doctors was around corner from my house, and to get there on time I would have to leave uni at 1pm at very latest(which I left at 12.55) to walk to station, catch a train, wait in another train station 20 minutes for connection, then 45 minutes on train giving me 30 minutes to get to doctors appointment(and it takes 10-15 minutes walk) And when I barely have the energy to stay awake(I sleep as much as 18 hours a day and still feel I havent slept) so also its not a case of something like getting up earlier or anything(I slept at friends house last night which is only reason I was able to wake up for class today!)
  13. I went to a doctors surgery last week to sign up, was given an appointment today, I thought it was 3.20 but it was 3pm. Anyway at 2.45 I knew due to my train being late(I am a student) I wouldnt be there on time since the doctors is 15 minutes walk from station so went on my phone looking for the doctors number which in itself was a shambles since their website didnt work on my phone(or a normal pc as I checked when I just got back) so it took me about 10 minutes to get the number as I had to ring up their 24 hour line, get their main number ring that and get the number for appointments, then when I tried to ring that it was engaged so by the time I got through it was 3.02pm and then they put me on hold for 4 minutes then I explained situation and was told my appointment was 3pm and since I missed it I cannot join with the doctors. Now considering it wasnt my fault that their website was down, and that I did attempt ringing before 3pm anyway to cancel it its not as if I just didnt attend I attempted to ring up BEFORE the appointment time and couldnt get through even with a few calls and was told that the rules state if you miss an appointment you cant register. I find that unfair on so many levels as I keep saying, its not as if I just failed to attend, I phoned to explain I would be late and to rearrange appointment etc. I didnt know to tell the person that I have disabilities that make me forgetful and suffer from depression(which is the main reason for me wanting a new doctor!) so that also would effect my frame of mind about attendance(I.e I didnt rush down early from after uni and felt low etc) so in many ways this is making me feel far more depressed.
  14. But I DID heat the property, for about 12 hours a day, and in the property in each sink not a single pipe was frozen so any freeze was out of my range. He never told me about any other problem before, and to get to other property he needs to drive through not only town but past my flat so he could at least of popped in, and he was at home when I rang. When you have zero water even to wash hands, cant go to toilet sanitation becomes a issue.
  15. After that pester power he came round but 3 hours after I rang! saying there was burst pipes at another of his properties(at a property 26 miles further than my property and LL lives 7 miles in other direction so he could of came first!) He just said that it will probably return to normal, but did say he would put some cash on gas meter to warm pipes up a bit, but then said if a leak happens it happens and it cant be stopped! He is coming back sometime tommorow with ladders to check attic. Not impressed how it took this much pestering to sort out though.
  16. What a day! Came back last night and wanted to wash clothes as meant to be going to parents for christmas today, washing machine wasnt working so tried taps, same, tried both bathrooms, same, even toilet didnt flush. Had to embarress myself and ask for a few kettles worth of water from neighbour just to wash and go to toilet once. Rang up my letting agent today at 9am, was told they would contact landlord right away as it can get worse, rang back 10.30 for them to say they are only getting round to emailing landlord as we speak(emailing! what about phoning!) at first I assumed they meant they had already rang and were emailing to see what landlord wanted to do. Rang back about 11.45 12.30, 1.30, 2.30 to get fobbed off by agency but managed to find out landlords number elsewhere, and he said they hadnt contacted him then he tries to blame me for the problem saying heating hasnt been used enough and it was inevitable, and just told me to ask neighbour for a bucket of water each time I need toilet! Grrr so angry. I get a little OCD about cleaning so hate leaving the house without a wash, and have no clean clothes to take to parents so means parents cannot wash them due to the cold weather etc. Does anyone else think landlord is being uncaring and even a bit stupid as if he doesnt sort it, then it will cost far more to sort out.
  17. There is something else though, which is where the confusion arises which I just realised what I originally meant. The reason why halls cant be paid for normally is universities dont come under normal terms of landlord guideline so cant be paid. If you are in a private run halls of residence then you can get it, but many councils get mixed up with the idea of private and university halls of residence. I mean I have personally seen private sets of halls of residence through housing associations that carry the same contracts as the flats they own but you cant get housing benefit from them. And that line you mentioned just adds to the confusion and I say just brings up the other point, it says FULLTIME students, which means you wouldnt be claiming something like JSA or ESA which is why normally you wouldnt be entitled. It doesnt mention part time students
  18. Officially you can, but its getting the council to realise this that is the problem as it goes back to old rules like how to be in halls you were a full time student and so not in receipt of benefits, but councils interpret this as halls cannot get HB. Or something along those lines.
  19. Forgot to note there is no locks on bedroom doors, and he goes so far as if he cant find where I have hidden my food he goes into my room and through every wardrobe and drawer till he finds it so putting food in my room isnt an option. Cant go into halls since I get housing benefit as only part time and they wont cover halls.
  20. I am a 28 year old Aspergers sufferer. I live between 2 properties, 1 is a flat which I have been spending more and more time at recently. other is a room in a house I pay £40 a week for, which I pay for from hardship fund from uni as uni is 40 miles away it saves me travevlling on train. The guy in the house is a disgusting slob and theif, sure I complain about pretty much everyone I have lived with in last few years but this guy is so bad that there was bugs in living room when I moved in, ants in hall etc which I spent 3 hours cleaning up and by next morning there was rubbish everywhere. He litarally eats food, then I have seen him chuck the uneaten remains into air, spilling over ground, make cigarettes and cover ground and table with spilled tobacco, even when he makes coffee he doesnt even AIM! he just grabs a torn sugar packed, and with his coffee jar just chucks it in without a spoon covering a sideboard with sugar and coffee. HE also doesnt like to even wash! he wears the same clothes for days and stinks so bar it makes me want to puke(and I have a high tolerance as have a older brother like that!) Secondly he steals whatever food I have, I ama benefit claimant so can barely afford anything, he is a well off middle class student and he admits to my face he cant be bothered even walking the 2 minutes to where we have 5 corner shops, 5 take aways etc as its too far so he steals my food. No matter what I buy its eaten and he says he doesnt care that he steals it and tries to pass blame onto me for buying the food! second to that I buy reduced food as I cant afford much so I may get a £5 item reduced to 25p that would of done me 3 or 4 meals and when he steals it he just says he wll give me the 25p as thats all I paid and its unfair to charge him more and I am being greedy! He has stolen about £40 of food in 2 weeks(and thats reduced food so worth about 3 times that) and makes excuses about going to shops to get money since he has exams and says I am being cruel and nasty to put my food above his studying! Finally he is very bitchy about noise, I am a quiet tenant but he makes it so I cannot even watch tv quietly without him saying its blasting loud and affecting him studying which means I have to live life in the house the way HE WANTS! I cant listen to music if I am stressed even if I can barely make it out, he expects me to use headphones for tv, computer, music whatever, even if my phone rings and I am in my bedroom and him in the living room he knocks ont he door and complaints. He isnt a nasty person just this is his first time living away from home and he admits he was spoiled and his parents did everything for him and his mum cleaned up constantly every day.
  21. I knew guy 1 had aspergers as he told me he had disabilities and got support for it and I think mentioned aspergers and I know the lecturers were careful what they said around him etc. I was getting at because many people with ASD's llike aspergers have social interaction problems I clashed with his personality as he was used to talking to and wanting to fit in with the popular crowd and obsesed with people liking him(apart from me)
  22. I know this guy from my first uni 3 years ago that was really pushy when it came to making friends, he would speak to EVERYONE and ask to go out drinking every night with ranomers, but with me he was noticably kinda negative one time he did hold a conversation with me but never again and I found him to be almost grumpy with me. I didnt know I had Aspergers then but knew he had it and he got a huge amount of money to help him. Looking back I notice the times I spoke to him I was often pulling the conversation towards me as I always do and why I dont have many friends since I have one sided convesations and butt in over people. Theres another guy at my local game shop which is similar, he is VERY friendly to all customers but with me wont even respond to me and just blanks me, when I purchased a game I jokingly said that it only cost 1p and it would cost more in printing labels etc and he ignored me. Other times he actually goes so far as to avoid me when hes on the counter despite me only having spoken to him about twice in 6 years. He may not have ASD's but comes across as a typical asperger to me. Anyway do people with ASD's treat others with similar disablities worse than "normal" people.
  23. Basically have always been low but just assumed it was due to terrible bullying as a kid where I had my arm broken twice and was physically choked quite a few times. I never fully recoverd but went from being so quiet I wouldnt respond to anything as a teenager to in my late teens and up till 22 being confident enough to start getting female attention and enjoying things to the pount I finally started going clubbing and feeling as if I fit in at least a little. Then a family member was killed and my life changed from diet and sleep patterns but I dont know if also it was due to the fact that when I was 24 I moved away and got my first flat and internet connection so pc and internet dominated my life as it affected my sleep pattern. I generally get some of my energy and spark back after a holiday but within a few days I get back to "normal" which is low similar I get a new type of energy whenever I move though at same time I feel sick as not used to place yet. For the few days after I go on holiday I can wake up early, walk up town, play videos etc and all feel good and even my sleep pattern is fine but then something happens within or out of my control that changes it. The reason why I talk about depression in this sense as came back from a weeks holiday Saturday, felt amazing till Wednesday when my student housemate got drunk and was taking powerful illegal drugs that affected my concentration since all I could hear was banging about, slammed doors, yelling, and music so loud that my floor and door and windows were rattling and he has done it every night since so it cuts into my personal time as I cant just go to bathroom as theres someone in there, the fridge is full of cans of alcohol, loads of pizza boxes spread out and I cant relax or sleep or anything. I dont know how to control myself to handle the good and bad feelings because like anything right now I cant mix feelings and go one way or another, i.e I can eat healthily for a week or 10 days then one night slip up then thats me slipped up for ages and I eat take aways most nights for 10 days, then I go to supermarket one day and get loads of reduced stuff so live off that for a few days. Same for movies, tv, gaming, gym etc I can watch a movie and love it, then put another on then stop for 5-10 minutes say to go to bathroom or cook dinner and I lose interest, same for games, I used to be a major games player till 2-3 years ago, offline games till 4 years ago then online games till 2 years ago where I played them all the time but these days I can go months without playing any of them then one night play a game for hours, then hours next night, hours next then it takes just one day to have a different routine that I stop playing as if I try to I find them boring. I dont think its that I find the actions boring its just I have a thing about routine due to depression I think Any thoughts?
  24. If you read further up the thread last time I complained to landlord he said it was a joint responsibility to keep house clean and quiet and threatened us both with eviction and keeping our deposits. Moving 22nd June anyway so not too long
  25. Its been a while since I wrote since he was away for almost 3 weeks for easter then I went to family about 2 or 3 times a week and was away for 7 days but came back Saturday He has gotten excessivly loud again and its obvious they are on drugs as last night there was a bit of noise on and off for 2 hours but only for about a minute each time and they were discussing the effects of what they bought and how they want to get it again and how spaced they were, then tonight all I have heard is doors getting slammed and crashed, the house stinks of cigarette smoke( I am a non smoker but am tolerant of cigarette smoke but this is far stronger) and music is loudest its ever been it really is rattling my chair, and my glass is wobbling a bit on my desk! I was going to go to Tesco but worried as theres no locks on the doors. Also one of the main reasons is I have been getting worse and worse depression for the last 6 years due to the family death yet the last 3 days WERE the best I have felt in pretty much the entire 6 years, almost normal but dont want these stereotypical "middle class students" to ruin my life when I am mending! All I want is them to not shout at top of their voice, they can shout but not as loud, they can play loud music but not to the extremes that neighbours can hear it etc, isnt that reasonable?
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