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Thanks bjkmummy - its so reassuring to read things like this. My wife and I are also terrified of the big medication step. seems so drastic but if it helps boy wonder then so be it.... <'>

Thanks for all of the replies!!! jsmum - yes, he was diagnosed at a CAMHS office by a neuro-paediatrician. She said that just based on our screening results and her observations of him at home and school, he does not have Aspergers. The Equasym is the short lasting one to start with. Apparently it lasts for 4 or 5 hours. She metioned a whole load of others but suggested we start with this. I have to say she is very good and caring so happy that he is under her care. Thanks <'>

After 6 months of back and forth to the specialists and varied opinions, my son aged 8 has been diagnosed with ADHD. He was extremely high for impulsiveness and hyperactivity and moderate for his attention. They originally suspected Apergers but have ruled that out. I am writing this purely to share and to let you know that it feels like the world has been lifted of mine and my wifes shoulders. All that time thinking "are we bad parenets?". We now need to think about medication and have been asked to consider using Equasym and start with the smallest dose. Has anyone any experience or tips or advice...? we need to think about him and and not us. oh... and by the way....my boy is perfect and very special.

it seems so unfair that your child is beeing excluded instead of helped - just remember that many very sucessful people have these disorders and excell in spite or because of them . having loving support must make all the difference - hang on in there <'>

Many thanks for your reply Gavin. Very helpful indeed. I will look through all of the sites you recommend and also contact the local EA to see how I can get things moving quicker. I am so glad I found this site. Phew!

I should also add that he is getting himself a bad reputation at school amongst the other kids as being the naughty boy who is a bit weird. My son is so upset by this and he tells us he doesnt want to go anymore as the other children tease him. The teachers do their best but they are at end end of their knowledge line. All in all, very lost and confused and upset.

Many thanks Smiley, it is so nice to know that we are not alone. I honestly dont know why they mentioned bi-polar, I guess its just lack of knowledge?? We really dont know what is happening with our son at the moment and I explanied to my wife that it feels like he is changing every day. It upsets me greatly as I am feeling so guilty for what his life might be like in the future. I feel so so terribly sorry for him as he is such a loving boy and I love him so so much. How can I make it better? What can i do? nothing seems to be the answer right now which is like putting a dagger through my heart. A dad should be able to make things better and I cant. I just hope we get the help we need soon and I sill regularly be on this site. Thanks again

I Jackie - I am new too and totally sympathise with you. i'm afraid I cant offer and advice as I am asking for it too (see my [post). All I can say it i know how stressful it can be when all you want is the best for your kids. I for one, am with you.

Hi all, I am sure you have ready hundreds of postrs like this but I really need to blurt this out. My 7 yr old son has has behavioural difficulties since being a toddler. We as parents have been aware that he is "different" from other kids for all of this time but the teachers at his schools have, up until now, let us believe that there really isnt a problems and it will pass. His behaviour includes over activity, often very angry and unabe to see reason, An inability to focus and concentrate, poor social skills, very clumsy, he also has an obsession with licking his fingers and wetting his toes as they feel dry all of th time. He is above average for his school age in terms of numeracy and literacy. He is often getting into trouble at school for lashing out. A month ago his teacher pulled us aside to talk about his behaviour and suggested we go to our GP and have hinm referred for an assessment. Theey mentioned Aspergers and even bi-polar as possibilities which terrified us. I took him to the doctor and we are now waiting until July 13th for hi8s first appointment. My wife and I are depserate and dont know what to do. We have a 9 yr old daughter who is angelic so we think, can it be us? This stae of flux we are now in is causing us great stress as we dont know whether it is us beinf bad parents or if he has a condition, what can we do! We are told the assessment process could take up to 6 months. Since the first meeting with the GP, he behaviour has got worse. His finger licking is really bad, his anger spells are awful and he is getting into more trouble at school. Just yesterday the teacher trols us that he now has to sit on a table on his own in class. Surely that will make it worse! Please, any advice would be gratefully recieved. A loving dad.