What do you say to members of the public who judge your child for being on the Autistic spectrum? in Help and Advice Posted August 26, 2010 · Report reply Hi When my son was starting primary school, I was very much aware of how other mum's viewed me and my son - I was a soft touch and kiddo needed discipline. One morning I put the wrong colour of t-shirt on R. He said nothing at home or in the case, but waited until the bell rang and everyone was standing in line. Suddenly he starting shouting at me, saying he wished I was dead. I was mortified! He refused to go into school and a teacher came over to us. She was very nice and said 'that must be very upsetting for you'. I said 'actually, R has Aspergers and is upset because I gave him the wrong t-shirt to wear. What's upsetting and disgraceful is the gossip-brigade that are enjoying the entertainment - a child with a disorder becoming distressed'. For me, that was an incredibly liberating moment. It made me realise that R was the most important thing, not the crowd of gossip. There have been a number of other instances whereby I've been 'judged'. To be honest, some people are interested when you tell them about AS, but others don't want to know and don't care (frankly, they're not worth bothering about). I too have cards which I purchased from NAS website. I haven't used them as yet, but I think they may come in handy at some point. Best wishes. Caroline.