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I am really sorry All the best for you and your family, our thoughts are with you. <'> <'>

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Hi Minerva, Is it possible that the grandparents also aren't looking forward to him going as they will miss him? It seems like Cameron has good grandparents who care.It is a shame about his Dad I hope everything works out okay for you both ,and once Dad has adjusted , he will probably see the benefits.(not that you need his approval!!) I think you are right by saying that when he goes to his new school the problem (with dads comments etc) will probably solve itself. <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

Thanks everyone, This morning I asked to have a word with the head and explained that I wasn't making a formal complaint and that I definitly didn't want anyone to get into trouble but I explained what had happened. I said that it was just a joke but that my son had had the door closed on him and it was pitch black and that he had been upset.The head was very attentive and wanted to make sure my ds was okay, and he did admit that it was probably something that he would do on his own kids (my hubby said Men think that kind of teasing is funny ) but that it wasn't appropriate for anything like that to be happening at school.I stressed I didn't want him to get into trouble and he said it was a case of staff being made more aware.He said he would bide his time and then perhaps stress to all staff about this kind of thing. I actually feel quite sorry for the caretaker as he has looked so down since, even this morning (before I went into see the head) he looked really down in the mouth.

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I didn't want to make a complaint as it was dealt with and the caretaker just didn't realize, the T.A was nearby and when he picked him up to comfort him the T.A was there. The T.A said the caretaker was really upset that he had upset my son and just wanted to reassure him that he wouldn't have locked him in (my son was shaking, he was that frightened). I think it is pretty traumatic when our kids get upset , it frightens me sometimes.the caretaker knows never to do anything like that again (the T.a said this and had told my ds the same thing). I think it was all very innocent, just in bad taste.The hugging was as a reaction towards my son's anxiety as he felt bad at what his "bad taste Prank had done". If my son was still upset or frightened about it or if the guys reaction had of been unfazed, then i would have made a complaint. But because the guy was gutted, and my ds is okay, i know it wont happen again.Do you think I am wrong?

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Hiya, Thought I would just post what happened to my ds yesterday.He goes in 15 mins early every day to do O.t exercises and SPRINT activities. Anyway ,yesterday the TA gave him the key to go and get the balls out of this walk in cupboard......the caretaker (who teases a lot) thought it would be funny to close the door on him and pretend to lock it ! The teaching assistant saw what was happening and told him No, don't do that......Unfortunatly as he realised and tried to open the door my son was screaming and trying to open the door from the other side so it took a few seconds, he was shaking and ashen faced,The caretaker didn't realise that this "prank " would upset him and then picked him up to hug him and reaasure him, which my son would have hated.The T.a intervened and told him to just leave him and took my ds off to calm down, talk about it and have a drink etc. The T.a was upset about it all day as she says it is pitch black in that cupboard and they did it on her when she first started work (she is claustrophobic and it really upset her). All day, she was keeping an eye on my son and kept encouraging him to tell her about it and not to keep it in, explained that the caretaker was playing a joke and knew never to do anything like that again. Because everyone dealt with it well and made sure he was okay, it didn't play on his mind and he was more angry than anything and says he's not going to do the exercises with the ball again!! When my son told me about it last night it was a bit jumbled and so i thought it was just a cupbaord but apparently it is a little room (pitch black) and he was shut in (although it was only for a few seconds) but now i feel terrible for him. I do know that the caretaker wouldn't have meant to upset or hurt him, but sometimes men think it's funny to tease in that way.

Hang in there, you're doing a great job and hopefully come Friday, they may do something useful <'>

Karin <'> <'> <'> So sorry to hear about your sad news. <'> <'>

Hang in there chuck ! Sorry you are having it rough <'> <'>

I haven't any advice, i'm sorry but sending some hugs and hope someone has some experience for you <'> <'> <'>

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Hang in there dude! <'> Tomorrow is another day. <'>

<'> <'> Really pleased for you. Hope your youngest is okay. <'>

Oh , i forgot to say, one of my sons new friends is a year older than the rest, because he didn't speak till he was 5 , he is on the spectrum. His Mum told me that he had been kept back a year at nursery, But now he will stay with his class all through school, so he is now 9 whereas the others will only be 8 by the end of this school year. <'>

A big thank you to every one. I am much better today, yesterday was horrible. DS has had 2 teeth removed today under general anaesthetic and it was a true nightmare, i sobbed my heart out becaues he screamed full pelt till the injection knocked him out, and then when he woke up he was hysterical He has calmed down but he was really angry because he said the dentist had made him look like a "maniac" and he was embarresesed. The other thing he was soooooooooo angry about was that they didn't give him his teeth, he was so angry hitting out and demolishing the front room when we got home. He did calm down though and now he is fine. <'> <'> <'> <'>

HI everyone, Well nobody had rang on monday so my Husband rang the online number and within 5 mins the junior manager from our local store rang and couldn't apologize enough that no one had rang, he then asked a convenient time to ring the next day as the manager had gone home. I said between 9.15 and 11.00........so at 6.50 in the MORNING, the manager rang, my husband went mad because of the time and she said she would ring back later. In the mean time our lovely dog Reuben had to be put to sleep as he had a tumour in his chest and his heart was failing .......When the manager did ring, she said she had been hoping to come out and see the damage but she wouldn't be able to come out that day so she was just going to hand it over to their insurers......she couldn't even be bothered to come round....oh well, at least it is going through their insurers.Thanks for all the posts. My son went to have his teeth out today and it was so traumatic, he screamed the place down and was hysterical whist having the needle and when he woke up. Not a good week but HEH HO.......tomorrow's another day! <'> <'>

Hi Neil, Just a thought but I had read that one of the new techniques within pyschiatry was to pretend, so if feeling self consious and lacking confidence, just "pretend" you feel confident and "step into" that feeling. From this angle, i don't think it is a case of ignoring or denying our feelings but more of a active technique to use. When I was working , before i had my son, I had a real problem sitting with people at dinnertime, in the canteen. I would sit on my own in the locker room and eat my sarnies because i felt so self consious and awkward sitting with people. I couldn't eat in front of people and when i had to walk through the canteen to get downstairs to work, I dreaded it,I thought people were laughing at the way I walked or held myself etc etc etc. People thought i was odd because I wouldn't sit in the canteen with them. Anyway I finally got over it by pretending to be okay with it, and gradually i built my confidence up and ended up being someone whom people liked.But I think my attitude (self consiousness) was giving off bad vibes to people and they thought that i was stuck up or didn't want to be with them and so they had let me "get on with it" and didn't "bother" me. Take the oppurtunity to take part in a conversation when someone is talking about something you know about, like the running. You may be suprised if you make the effort sometimes to talk or smile, how people react. I really hope everything gets a bit better <'> Maybe you felt this way about this lady because it was someone who you could talk with and open up to. Who knows there could be someone at work or on the bus etc who you could feel the same way about if you could connect with a smile or a word. <'> <'>

Thanks everyone, I have sobbed my heart out all day,my son has been really brave and sensible, kind of saying "we all knew this would happen one day!!" etc. It sounds so funny sometimes to hear a eight year old speak like an eighty year old. <'>

Is it possible to talk to his teacher rather than trusting the senco to pass this on? It sounds like communication within the school isn't working very well. <'>

I have a friend whose child is classed as "learning disabled" but is in mainstream and last year when my son went up to year 3 she stayed and repeated year 2.As far as I am aware it was sorted out within school. Hope you get what you want <'>