matzoball

What browser are you using?

Just cut and paste the link from the address bar and not the short version Let me know if it doesn't work and I'll have a look for you

Hi Willow, Sorry about this - it looks like there was some kind of technical hitch with the site - Lufty is working on fixing this asap for you!! Cheers Matzo

It might sound a bit labourious - but you can actually request a sit down with your branch manager to explain it to you and have a look at your account. If you can, take a family member or key worker with you and they can make sure they talk to you in clear and unambiguous language. My mum had something similar, and asked to speak to the manager because the teller couldn't explain it properly - they looked at her account and it turned out her card had been cloned! So it might be worth a wee check out?

We have an inportant project that we would like Autistic people in Scotland to participate in to celebrate World Autism Awareness Day on April 2nd 2013. Autism: Life in Colour aims to capture the views of people with autism about their lives by inviting them to submit two photographs or video clips, both taken on April 2nd 2013, World Autism Awareness Day. The purpose of the project is to provide a visual representation of the Scottish Government’s Autism Mapping Project which aims to gain an understanding of what life is like for people with autism throughout Scotland. Autism: Life in Colour will add to this understanding directly through the eyes of the person with autism. This project will be unique in including people of all ages with autism across Scotland. Help us spread the word about this project. You can find the site at www.autismlifeincolour.org.uk. Please tell others. Thankyou

Welcome Object - hope you enjoy it here

Not going to school seems to be having a big impact on him, however school isn't an option for him right now. Perhaps establishing a routine at home during school hours may help a little. It might be an idea to look into home schooling or hiring a tutor to help him with maths, and planning his whole day around it. Set aside a room in the house that is his 'school room' and he knows that's for him alone - things like that maybe?

I can see where you are coming from, however there is nothing wrong with people trying different things out in their diets on a temporary basis to see what works and what doesn't. She could ask the doctor for advice to see if it would do any harm to go gluten or lactose free for a certain period of time even if to eliminate that factor if it really was a worry.

Hi Nimz, welcome back to the forum. The reason your post was edited was because you had personal information as was explained by Lyndalou - however as you say it is your choice whether or not you put up your skype name. The reason we take out identifying information like that is because it can potentially lead to a bad situation. It's not to censor you, or anything like that. If you are happy leaving that in there fine, but we can't take responsibility for anything that happens once people leave the site.

Smiley, this isn't making any sense...

This might sound a bit too matter of fact or simplistic, but it's how I tend to deal with things. You have some major issues happening with you right now, so it might be easier for you to break it down into more manageable chunks - and perhaps it will give you the space you need in your head to start getting better. I'll list them in how I see them of importance (that might not be how you see them, but I am an outsider so please don't see them as an attack - my logic can be blunt sometimes!) 1. Your diet - this is of the most immediate importance I think because diet does affect mental health, as the less care you take there - it ends up having a knock on effect on your brain chemistry, especially with diabetes(take it from someone who knows). You need to get your eating back on track, and once your levels are more stable - you will start feeling more stable. 2. Your mental health - this is related to your eating issues just now, but I do think that your confidence has taken a hit and you need counselling. Honestly - student services have counsellors there for free, and they will be able to talk to your lecturers about giving you a break. Maybe taking a year off or 6 months off might give you time to get back to a point where you can make a more informed decision. My best friend did that during her degree, and now she has a masters because she recognized she needed a break, and got appropriate help. 3. Your uni course - while it might seem like the be all end all, it really isn't. I do think you need to complete your training, but not at the expense of your health - mental or other wise. This is why I keep saying talk to student services or the equivalent there. They will get you the help that you need, and it may be a break is just what you need. You can return when you are feeling better, and make a more informed decision then instead of leaving and regretting it later. Hope this helps xx

I think you are perhaps taking it the wrong way - they aren't calling you a failure. What you need to do is ask them what you can do to get back on track. You also need to speak to student services - this kind of thing is EXACTLY what they are there for.

Well, you need to talk to your lecturers about this - that's what they are there for. Honestly, they won't see it as you failing or anything like that, they will see it as you being able to recognise that you need help and being able to ask for it. Please don't think you are on your own in this, we all have our dark moments but what makes the difference is being able to talk to people about it, and get advice. You just need to take that step and talk to them about it.

I'm really sorry to hear you are are having a hard time right now, but you can't give up. What you need to do is talk to your lecturers, and also talk to student services who can help you identify the problem areas and work on them. There are a lot of people who have degrees and careers who are on the spectrum. So don't give up. From what you are saying it's more your confidence rather than your disability. That's what you need to work on xx

Perhaps you should go onto the NAS website and lookup the diagnosis for adults section. What I advise to people who are seeking adult diagnosis is to note down things that you feel demonstrate what you feel is ASD, and then present that to the doctors. It's always worth a try, and if it turns out a no - at least it's something you can dismiss! It's also worth talking to other adults with ASD on here - there's quite a few of us!

Hi Ashley, welcome to the forum! What kind of feedback are you looking for? Will this be explained on the site?

Smiley, without going into this too much as we have had this discussion before - the reason your troubles don't get resolved is because you don't tell the professionals everything. Write down what you feel, and that way the next time you go to the psychologist or whomever it is that you see - you will have it all there and they can start fixing all the deep stuff.

Hi there - there is no proven link as far as I know, NT people have them too. Since this is a forum that is used by all ages, please keep this discussion clean? Thanks!

Smiley, you need to be a lot clearer. Take some time and tackle it one bit at a time.

Had a look and it's great - really clear and simple and easy to understand and access! All the best sites tend to be like that It's brilliant you have went out there and done something so wonderful and positive! Good luck with it!

Perhaps speaking to an organisation like Relate might help you and your wife discuss the issues you are having in a neutral setting. Your parents might have opinions on the matter and want what is best for you, but that decision has to be reached by you and your wife. Going to a marriage counsellor might allow you both to identify the problems in your relationship whether it be to do with your ASD, or something else. That way you can both try and do something about it. You're dealing with a pretty big thing in being diagnosed, so that does take time to adjust to. It could be that you perhaps need to establish a routine, or identify the things that set you off(if you do get set off) and find ways of adjusting to them. http://www.relate.org.uk/home/index.html