mygifts1306

Hi all, sorry I have not been on in the last 3 months, mine was a slightly technical problem, my password could not get reset, i have done it today and quite happy that Its working. Can anyone tell me if it is possible to change the long password that I recieved? thanks Jax

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thank you so much spam and butterfly, I have not been online. i really appreciate your comments, I will reply tomorrow, as im falling asleep Jax xx

Dear all, I have not been online, for quite sometime now due to some pressures in my life. My account was not working for a while and everytime i clicked on forgotten password it kept refusing to accepting the code that you have to retype, at last i managed to get on. So its good to be back and hopefully catch up with you.

Hi Prud, sorry to hear that about your wife and daughter, living with AS is a very difficult situation. Please dont say that you are a bad person because nobody ever is. I am sure you will be able to get in touch with other people who had diagnosis as adults, i have been touched by asd in that my son who is now 8 was diagonosed with As at the age of 5, he has since got another diagnosis of adhd, i am hoping he can have a normal life somehow, please read tony ATtwood's books about asperger's syndrome. kind regards mygifts

Enjoy your times in Turkey smiley 1590, xxx <'>

Thank you BD for your post, I realise that i am often too critical and analytical when it comes to my son, P4 had more challenges than other years, he has maintained his interest in reading and was speller of the month a few months ago. Lets make this thread mega positive, thanks <'> My little boy absolutely adores the Dirty Bertie books, he can read one in a few hours. x

thanks guys jax x

hi folks, i have something positive to speak about, my son who is 8 and has AS and ADHD was so well behaved today, i took him down to the local library to join the reading scheme called circus stars, he was patient and very calm, he was also going to be choosing a toy today as he has just finished p4 and had a good report,i wonder if he behaved so well because he was going to get a toy? even still he was unbelievable so well behaved, i then took him to pharmacy as i have a rash on my skin and had to wait for pharmacist, he sat there and read his dirty bertie book,normally its a constant, please sit down mummy will be done in a minute, please dont interrupt mummy is speaking, it was like he was a different person, he was so patient, he was not swinging on the doors or being peculiar, i then took him to the shop and he got aliens and Bey blade. I just thought i would share this positive thing that happened, long may it last as this is going to be a long summer 8 wks

hi folks, i wondered what books have kept your mind off your troubles, i am terribly busy now that idont get a chance to read, any suggestions will be welcomed xx

Sandra bullock stared in " all about steve", i felt it portrayed a lot of aspie mannerism, i also wached where the wild things are , the wee boy could be somewhat described as autistic xx

Hello and welcome to the forum. you will find incredible support in this forum. Tell you DH not to blame himself, he is the first son and you had no one to compare him with, All will be well once he has diagnosis he can then have support. knowing the problem/ diagnosis can do different things to people, some people find relief, comfort, some people throw themselves at it and read as much as they can about it, you will find your path and your son is lucky to have such caring parents. best wishes mygifts1306 xxx

Thank you buslizzie, think this will take quite a long time to get him really confident, so i shall keep this thread alive and let you folks know how we are getting on. thanks xx

Hi coolbreeze and welcome to the forum <'>

Thanks Phillipo for your encouraging words, it is most kind of you. x

Thanks Kazzen and Chris P, it is quite possible he hates the smell, but i dont think anyone likes the smell. I will break it down into small steps, and tell him what wipe means, I showed him the motion expected( with my clothes on) also told him its best when he is seated as opposed to standing up. thanks very much for your responses Jax x

Im Glad have had a good time today. Jax

Dear all Dad here on the Forum, just to wish you a happy father's day and hopefully you are not called on to help bleed the radiators, open a bottle, mend the shed or whatever else. Just sit back and enjoy your day and dont even drive the car your imput on this forum is appreciated. Jax xx

Thank you very much for all your prompt responses on this subject. I feel the teacher was really not professional, i was not asking her how she felt, i was asking her questions about my son's trigger to unacceptable behavior and she started going on about how my son made her feel, i think i will discuss this with the educational pyschologist, i dont think they realise how vulnerable we are as parent. thank you so much i really appreciate your support, i hardly get a chance to go online as i work fulltime and usually chasing my tail with housework. cheers xx

My son is 8, and really struggles when its no2 time, he just cant wipe his bottom, i have wiped it for him for a while, but i feel now that he is 8 and is starting to show keeness to visit other people, he will be going for swimming lessons with his class, its really time he did things himself, this has been going on for a number of year, i have tried the social stories, i have drawn up a toilet manual, i have tried picture, i try to make it easier for him by using the flashable wipes from asda, but he just cant wipe his bottom, i was wondering if parents of children with additional needs struggle too, my son was diagonsed with AS in 2008 and more recently was diagnosed with ADHD thanks for reading Jax

Dear all, i went for drop in to speak to teacher today, she is so fed up with my son, as and adhd, she also said what frustated her was the fact that my son does not show emotions and she said that has hurt her, my son is going into p5 in main stream, i also asked her if she experienced a child with his difficulties, she said yes, she was so cold and clearly fed up..is this feeling of helplessness common among parents, i am feeling really low, is there anything i can do to uplift my mood, thanks for reading x

Thats great, xx

I really feel for you and have just managed to loose a lot of my reply to this, sorry

Thank you very much JSmum for your reply. I have been reading a lot of the ADHD book and the CAHMS centre gave us some leaflets with reference to the websites you mentioned. I have also got luke jackon's book on the diet and have read his aspeger book. My son reads novels. in hindsight i think he does merit the diagnosis of ADHD, i am just so gutted that its so complicated, i cant even begin to tell me about it, i dont know how, i told him about the autism. He started reading novels when he was 6, he started with enid blyton's wishing chair then proceeded to read the secret seven, he has also read some of Daisy MEadows fairy books ( I know its girly lol) was just trying to help with the imagination. He has more recently read enid blyton mystery stories there are 15 in the series, i always read a chapter for him then he reads on. at present he is reading the dirty bertie ones and have also enjoyed the horrid henry a great deal. He tell me he wants to read harry potter in augusts. I work in a library and have always found comfort in books, so he has always been surrounded by books all his life. He is also impulsive, he does not seem to think about what he is doing. i have had the headteacher of his school say " ihave never met a child like him in the 30years of my teaching", he is a handful i know.. he has a little brother who is nearly 8 and can be so unkind to him, i have always encouraged him to be nice to him, he goes to main stream just now, i still feel ill if i have to go for something at his school. I had postnatal depression a few years ago, i am very warry that he might have depressive illness and i know sitting and qworrying about it wont bring any change. i am planning to study as a mental health nurse and hopefully work with children in the future, if there are jobs that it, but i still feel helpless, that how can i help other people when i cant help my own, thank you very much for taking the time and for your response. kind regards and lots of love jax

Dear all Thanks very much for creating this forum, i have been wondering if it was okay to post adhd related things in asperger forum. My son had a diagnosis for aspergers in 2008, he was only 5 then, we have been reading about it and trying as best we can to let our child lead a normal childhood. When he was 7 we decided to tell him about the aspergers syndrome, our starting point was looking at the number of people who have got autism and to look at the cool things of having aspergers. I really dont believe much in labels, I have found it terribly difficult to come to terms with this diagnosis.like every mother out there i just want my child is happy, so it really hurts when my son wakes up in the morning and he constantly looks sad and has a constant frown, he can ask you to get something and yet when you bring him he does not animate his face as you would expect. when my son started primary school he did not want to hold hands or give me a cuddle( clearly i appeared to the refridgerator mum) at the beginning of may we went back to cahms as the head felt there was something else, he said he thought he was depressed, we were told that he has adhd, i was so gutted to find this. I am not disrespecting his opinion but i dont think he has adhd, he can sit and read a book and he is not that wired to the moon. if both the dx came at the same time that would have easier to deal with. i am interested to know what experience other parents have had. thanks for reading jax