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I afraid it's too late. But that's not going to stop me perservering and helping my son. Thanks for all the advice I'm sure I will benfit from it.

Thanks for all the advice. I've decided to seek a private practitioner vis the NAS as I fear the waiting list on the NHS could be a long one. Having had to wait months for a physio, the waiting list for Asperger's assessment will probably be longer as the NHS seem to consider it non-essential for adults. Even my own GP, who is generally very good, is unsure on how to start things rolling. As said before, time is everything.

I can understand your reasoning Baddad, but there is some underlying factors that have played a part, especially early on in the relationship. Prior to meeting my wife, I'd had a car accident that forced me to wear some less than attractive facial prosthetics, which made me a recluse for the best part of three years. So when someone comes along and shows me attention, I felt the novelty overriding everything else. Even then, though, she suspected I wasn't the average Jo and portrayed what she thought were funny quirks. Right up until this very day my love has never wained but throughout our relationship I have always misread her needs and behaved in a typically Aspergers fashion with regard to my interests, social life, interaction, sensory abilities and limitations etc, etc, etc. Most people that know me, especially my colleagues, admit that I do exhibit strange qualities and they don't live with me. I'm not looking for excuses, I am needing to know why I behave the way I do, and having read about the subject it would seem an assessment is needed. Nothing may come of it, but ignoring the issue will solve nothing. "How are you feeling?" is often asked by my wife. "What's the question?" is my answer. "What do think about this?" is another. My reply "I don't know your asking". I need to know how to understand what she wants. At worst, understanding why some have difficulty in reading emotions and body language and expressing oneself can only help. Frankly, I know I love my wife, I just don't know how to behave accordingly.

Thanks for that Jannih. I shall contact them and see what prevails. Tally I shall be getting that book. Many thanks to the both of you.

Hi. It has recently to light that I'm suffering with some form of ASD. At 40 I was surprised to have come this far without some form of seroius problem, but after 9 years the strains of on my wife have become too much. It was only until my 6 yr old son became suspected of having ASD that it all fell into place. Me and my son both need help, although fortunately the NHS does provide for him, but having spoken to my GP, it would appear there is little in my area's trust that provides for adults. I am seeking someone, somewhere in Kent that can assess and help me deal with my now apparent problems. My wife is lacking my attention, I'm pretty emotionless and have a very restricted social life. I often misinterpret her requests, most of which are very needy, and I do struggle to talk about emotional subjects with her. She basically feels unloved and unwanted, which I have failed to recognise. My wife is slim, gorgeous, witty, a talented singer and very loving, and I can't think how any woman could be better, and yet I have failed in providing her the attention she deserves. The strain has come to ahead now and she is, understandibly, at the crossroads. I am now fighting for survival and time is not on my side. Any help finding someone will be priceless. Thank you.