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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Arghhhh can't cope

    Social worker says he's better of at home both financially and care wise,deep inside I know this.God I'm so torn on bad days I just want him gone then I feel guilty he's our son we love him.He's gone to a scheme with mencap and it arranges weekends away and holidays and he's of on one in may first time without him in ten years I bet we miss him ..... Social worker thinks if he does more gets our more then he won't want to move out. I guess this is our life his life its how it is so its best to accept it every time I try to change things I get upset and I'll with the stress.
  2. Arghhhh can't cope

    After almost six months someone called and he's been allocated a worker they're coming out next week.
  3. Tinitus woes, can you advise please?

    No advice just didn't want your post to go unanswered Could a hearing testing place say boots advise on tinatus .
  4. Arghhhh can't cope

    Still waiting for help I phoned at Xmas saying our son needed either shared lives or supported living we still haven't had an assessment still haven't been assigned a case worker.Unbelievable but he was referred to a specialist autism service who refused him he's a diagnosis of autism ffs it baggers believe and was passed back to adult services.I've rung them again chasing it.He's as I type locked in his room ,not speaking,he's broken things,he comes out when I go out say to walk the dog.I'm so fed up but with all this ,what triggered him this time well he insists we took his blasted Pringles we didn't he ate them but refuses to accept this.I'm annoyed because he's taken things out of my purse and destroyed my weekly bus ticket it had four days left on it.He's smashed his head set for his Xbox and ripped of all his bedding.I'm trying to just think sod you and carry on as normal kind of hurt yourself with your actions you won't get to me but its hard.I'm fivety next year and to be blunt it would be great if he was out by then.Is it wrong to want normality,peace for me and my husband to have a nice home life instead of his .I love him he's our son I hate the fact he's autistic I wish I'd never heard of it,certain aspects of his behaviour never alter the kick offs over nothing,the total disregard for anyone else,the me me attitude,he can be so hurtful and he's so stone cold cold and emotionless .
  5. Thanks for both your replies I'm still waiting for whoever I was referred to to contact me I've no contact detailed or any idea who I was referred to,the wheels move slowley.
  6. I'd assume that because you own your own home that the council have no obligation to provide a larger home for you all I can think of is if you'd qualify for any grants or financial help to extend your home by adding bedrooms.My nice lived in a council house her son was severely physically disabled and the house wasn't suitable and even though eventually they tot rehoused into an adapted home it took ten years.Try googling charities or I remember from years back the rowntrees foundation provided grants and help to families but I'm going back twenty years.
  7. Awfull Christmas son almost 24 went into a rage boxing day morning spent the next four days locked in his room refused to speak refused food drank water from the tap when we left the house didn't bath for over a week trashed his room I was in a right state upset he did holler he was leaving he didn't but I've contacted social services and said we need help respite or a scheme called shared lives so we can begin the long process of him going into supported liveing it upsets me but I've had enough of his outburst and regimes his controlling ways I'm getting to old we didn't have anyone round over Xmas we didn't go anywhere we never do so he hasn't the reason of change to account for his behavior
  8. Awarded PIP

    Weight of mind realy is saves me appealing too tired to fight but woulda done
  9. Awarded PIP

    Update son was awarded pip didnt even come out to see him enhanced daily liveing basic mobility i worried over nothing the physcolgist report and diagnosis was all that was required
  10. PIP Applying For Son

    Got a feeling our son will be comeing on holiday with us I am glad if he comes much as id love a break deep down inside even though if he refuses to come we would leave him id be fretting over it all anyway last week he was grumbling and stomping round hungry makeing noises along the lines of mum cook me something and i thought no you know what you do it so i said to him well i wont be here the week were away on holiday youll have to do it all youre self with no imput from me to ensure its cooked properley so youd better start practiceing now............he grumbled stomed banged pots cooked a realy rotton stir fry it looked awfull and he took forever to eat it...........it took all my will not to step in and sort it for him but i held fast......... Anyway nhjow hes talking about he doesnt need any new t shirts for the holiday and hell take his sunglasses ect and will the dog be sleeping in his room so it looks like he will be comeing .................i do hope so still not heard anything from the social services re getting him assesed...........could take months............
  11. PIP Applying For Son

    Update pip a nurse from dwp rung to ask me a few questions regarding sons speech to cut long story short looks like he will be awarded pip and theyll be no need for a face to face assesment she says the the physcologists report diagnosing his condition is detailed enough and her report will be favourable so fingers x ill keep u posted
  12. PIP Applying For Son

    We dont go abroad we havent had a holuday for ten years he was wanting to go apparantley you have to pay for shared lifes up to sixty pound a day it makes my blood boil i dont work havent done for years i get 55 pound a week carers allowance yet i have to possibly pay 290 minimum a week for someone else to do what i do Im still waiting to hear from pip people since forms were sent in
  13. PIP Applying For Son

    Hes resumed speaking to us and returned home safe and hunger drove him to the kitchen for a pie and pringles we are waiting to be assesd for shared lifes my son says he wont and doesnt want to go on holiday weve spoken today he says he wants to be on his own and he dunt want anyone takeing care of him so thats that ive said he can come and he can change mind up to us leaving I feel maybe hes got a point hes 23 a grown man he needs support yes bur not i guess smothering and fussing maybe i am guilty of that but its hard to step back maybe i need to allow him space also
  14. PIP Applying For Son

    He got up this morning came out of room i tried to speak to him get some sence outta him but he just blanked me said he does what he wants then he went out the house ill just have to c if he returns He smells not washed or bathed since wednesday not changed undewear not shaved and he does sport
  15. PIP Applying For Son

    hes locked himself in his bedroom wont come out just shouts abuse wont even answer his texs ive rung social services theyve got back to me im starting the process of getting him into supported liveing were being assesed or he is for shared lives and respite ive reached the end of what i can cope with after 23 years of stress on and off abuse no thanks for anything at all everything on my shoulders (husband works so he cant realy do much with son due to long hours) i cant take anymore at all...........i was in teers on phone we cant get any sence out of son coz he shuts down and screams at us shouts why dont we just die he wishes we were dead .............. IM DONE with this i know he cant help it but im not his verbal punchbag anymore....................