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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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  1. I've posted many times over the years, son is now 25. We're involved with the community enableing team and I'm trying to step away from him more not easy has he lives at home. Anyway he's insisting he wants to leave home so I've contacted gateway to care to request a assessment for care, and they've told me to register him on the choose nd move housing.. I've done that but not filled in form best wait till he gets, a social worker plus I need a few tips and help re the forms. Anyone else can give me tips, advice at working through this mindfield of you're autistic son or daughter moveing out. I think he's better of at home but at the same time eventually hell be alone because I'll be dead.. And I'm getting too old for to be blunt his sh*t he's always shoring and kicking off he really upsets the home. It's time for him to move on. But I need him to be happy and safe and reasonably close by.
  2. Can't take it he needs to go

    That was quick, they've rung me lovely lady had a nice talk. Things have settled again now but we do need to put things in place. She's suggested that I get him formally diagnosed with a learning disability so I've rung my gp they ring me for a telephone consultation in 2 weeks, she says we could do with knowing if his behaviours are down to the autism alone or if there's also a learning disability along side. The lady who rang is going to speak to me next week once she's investigated a few things. It was so nice to let it out all my worries over his future as I'm getting older you just become aware of your mortality and the what's going to happen to him. I love him, he's our son I feel so guilty that at times I could scream and run away that I could boot him out just to be free of it to be normal again.. But I'm human and some days are bad days. Feeling more positive. He's away for 2 days with the mencap. So I'm able to re charge.
  3. My son now 25 went to a main stream school with a statement for one year at 5 and it was a nightmare, I was constantly down there going over his needs ect ect long story short we sent him to a special school best decision we made.. We no longer had issues like your haveing where teachers weren't aware ect... Whilst at mainstream our son was allocated 15 hrs a week with a support worker.. Does your son have that.. Does he have a statement.. If he's not got a statement I found to be blunt teachers talk the talk but actually don't have to do anything... I'd complain to the head the goveners and if you get no joy go higher. Not the same but last year I'd a friend had issues with a school and her daughter who has adhd similar thing no one passing on or acting on Info we went to the local news and told the school that's what we would do... They soon sorted out the issue
  4. Can't take it he needs to go

    They've rung me back apparantkt I've to be referred to the enabling team first to see what we can do to help him become more independent.
  5. New member wanting some advice!

    Good it does make a difference when it comes to getting help, applying for benefits and as I'm finding now accessing supported living.
  6. New member wanting some advice!

    My son now 25 didn't get his diagnosis till he hit 20 so I hope you get yours sooner. The physcologist asked loads of questions very specific ones going back to his early years, I'd to attend around 4, 3 he sessions but on our first meeting and with in 15 minutes she said he's very autistic but I've to go through the tick sheet. It is hard to remember everything but I'm sure your memory will trigger once you start. Good luck
  7. Can't take it he needs to go

    Spoken to adult social care they'll make the referral for a care assessment and start the ball rolling towards him living away from home. I'm just so drained with it all can't believe I've spent 25 years dealing with this seams like yesterday I first posted on this forum, never imagined it would reach this stage.
  8. Teenager out of control and violent

    Feel for you my sons 25 a nightmare I can't take it anymore so no advice I wish I had, it gets worse as you get older weaker ect and they get stronger and bigger
  9. He's 25 six foot 1 and 17 stone I'm now 50 husbands 56 I can't take anymore of his, aggression and total unreasonable behaviour his holloring shouting slamming doors stealing out of my purse trashing our bedroom I'm sick of it all he's got to go, I'm ringing social services last year I called but was talked into not persueing supported living due to him being better of at home blah blah yes he's better of me and my husband aren't I want my life Back I can't take no more of this sh*t. He's barricaded in his room thank god. I feel guilty but I'll get over it.
  10. Gaming meltdown

    Hi My son is diagnosed he's 24 he loves Xbox but hates to loose and reacts just like your son.He plays online and is always ranting people are cheating, its not faire he gets in a right strop.Its hard to just not get involved and leave them to it but we try.I found it's best not even to casually enquire as to what's wrong it just fuels his rant.We ignore him let him rant it tends to blow over.When he's calm again we find its best not to bring up the subject it can set him off again. We didn't get the diagnosis till our son was 20 but we knew and he had attended a special school with a statement. I suggest you speak to your go say you want him accessing it took 12 months on a waiting list in our area to see the physiologist then a further 6 for the assessment.
  11. Why is he so nasty

    He lives at home,he has his own space lock on door TV game console sky multi room Netflix amazon ,he's plenty cash,he goes off on weekends away every three weeks with mencap ,he s friends ,voluntary work he's got a great carry on ,he's a pain at times ,but he's our pain.Just a bad day all round.
  12. Why is he so nasty

    He's a grown man 24 so what he's a diagnosis of autism does that give him a free card on being awfull to me his mum shoes done every damn thing for him whoes sorted stuff supported put myself last constantly....the little has just text me whilst hollering abuse. Least I'm fit and healthy...I'm looking at a possible diagnosis of ovarian cancer ...I'm in tears there's no excuse he's a rotton son ....I can't stand him at times he makes life hell but you stick in they're don't you but for what ...I've had it with him if I could walk off never to return I would.So tired of this
  13. Arghhhh can't cope

    Social worker says he's better of at home both financially and care wise,deep inside I know this.God I'm so torn on bad days I just want him gone then I feel guilty he's our son we love him.He's gone to a scheme with mencap and it arranges weekends away and holidays and he's of on one in may first time without him in ten years I bet we miss him ..... Social worker thinks if he does more gets our more then he won't want to move out. I guess this is our life his life its how it is so its best to accept it every time I try to change things I get upset and I'll with the stress.
  14. Arghhhh can't cope

    After almost six months someone called and he's been allocated a worker they're coming out next week.
  15. Tinitus woes, can you advise please?

    No advice just didn't want your post to go unanswered Could a hearing testing place say boots advise on tinatus .
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