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LoubyLou

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  1. My son's head is saying that he can't go in to school tomorrow because he had a meltdown today. He didn't misbehave or do anything wrong, he didn't disrupt any lessons, just wanted to be on his own. He was feeling very down & spoke negatively about himself when repeatedly questioned by a staff member, so school didn't want him there. Can they do this?
  2. Update: Things are quite stable now & are working well - ds has reactolite lenses for his main glasses which are expensive (cheaper make is no longer available, grr!), for everyday use. He also has 2 pairs (Specsavers! ) of sunglasses for use indoors where the lighting is unbearably bright (school & shops). This is more expensive than clip-on sunglasses which we got direct from China on Ebay to keep the cost down, but I feel I'm doing a better job sending him out into the (difficult) world in his teens wearing shades rather than clip-ons. Maybe one day someone will invent lenses which can be switched at will, until then we have to make do with 2 different types of specs, but that means we can go anywhere, as long as we have the dark glasses to hand.
  3. Thanks that's really helpful. Off to get some Iridium lenses for myself!... I'm sorry I got it wrong, it's changed by a -1 as he's shortsighted, oops. The current optician specialises in diabetes - with vascular changes etc (ok that's my old training coming out of the box!, not in opthalmics though) being something in particular to look out for in the retina in diabetes I'd imagine they may well have the picture technology where we are now (they are extremely high-tech!), so I can always ask on our next visit (which will very soon come round again), thanks. That's really interesting about the astigmatism - definitely something to watch out for, & thank you so much for putting it so clearly too!
  4. Thanks for the detailed reply darkshine, so helpful! I completely forgot to ask about polarised lenses, however the optician did suggest going for cheaper transition-type ones (I didn't realise that Transitions was the brand-name & we were paying a lot extra for that). So the ones he has now just cost £20 & although they seem slower to change shade/adapt he's very happy with them. The prescription this time changed by a +1 in the 3 months but only in one eye; within a few weeks of getting the last pair he was struggling to read signs that we could see clearly. However I think it's just due to rapid growth? He's almost 13 & getting through clothes at a healthy rate of knots so I thought it was simply due to being a teenager. It's still a fairly low prescription though so I'm not worried about it. It hadn't even occurred to me whether it could be due to anything else. The opticians do seem a bit suprised about the rate of change. Could it be due to anything else?
  5. Thanks for the replies everyone, sorry I only just found them!! I haven't found out any more about help with the cost - for the transitions lenses we pay £50 each time at our opticians, then the rest is free on child prescription. I'll ask the optician about polarizing lenses; these is different to anti-glare? So many different types of lenses! Really he should also have a pair of tinted ones for reading as these also really help, but we just can't afford these on top every 3 months at the moment (last time they were £250). Personally I do have separate sunglasses for the summer months but organising these for my son would be a nightmare (as he doesn't have a handbag!), I think they'd just end up being lost every 5 mins, & not having them when we needed them etc. With the transitions at least they change automatically so he doesn't have to think about changing/losing.
  6. My son is also similar & age 12. He gets some support through CAMHS (though this is a massive fight, but at the moment we have a very understanding dr & that alone helps lesson the isolation!). Also he's at a small school with a very good SENCO & support in class. Generally small class sizes & good support (even if shared with other pupils) make a massive difference to being able to cope with school. I'm hoping that over time being able to drop less-favoured subjects will also help! Some schools offer reduced homework-load for ASD pupils (I declined this because I didn't want him to fall behind or feel that he'd missed out on topics covered eg in class/tests, but not sure if this was the right thing; he's ahead in the mathsy subjects anyway & really it's health that comes first!!) Also helpful is providing an 'exit' from situations at school that are just too much, easing the pressure to be able to cope with the rest of the school week, for us this has been PE (for a while) & sports day; I've known pupils just miss subjects taught by the odd teacher they can't cope with too!
  7. Does anyone know if we can get any help with funding transitions lenses for a 12-year-old with high-functioning autism? He's had a sensory evaluation & definitely has problems with light, there are certain shops he just won't enter due to lighting & the transitions lenses really help dramatically, also with coping with sunlight coming through windows at school, going out etc. However his eyesight is rapidly changing & at the moment he's needing new specs every 3 months, for which we have to fund the transitions lenses each time. I've tried asking the optician, but I wondered if anyone else knows if there's any way we can get the funding for these covered as it's definitely a medical need. The other alterntive of course would be prescription sunglasses, however he loses things a lot (pre-glasses I just bought lots of cheap pairs of sunglasses & kept them in key places!), & again these would need changing each time as his eyesight is changing quite dramatically & rapidly at the moment (within weeks after his new glasses arrive signs etc are already looking blurred!). Has anyone successfully secured funding for transitions lenses due to to light hypersensitivity?
  8. Oooh thanks Ora Nurse, that looks brilliant!!!! Wish it was available in shops as with p&p it does get a bit costly. We've tried asking lots of different dentists & the NAS, got through goodness knows how many different brands & are still on "Milk Teeth" at age 12, finally really sympathetic dentist has agreed that this is ok (previous dentists kept saying it wasn't even though we'd tried everything else!). Anyway, off to buy some, definitely worth a try & will report back to dentist too! We did have some success with very gradually adding tiny amounts of a "bearable" brand, but along with all the other plates to keep spinning this one slipped off at some point!
  9. There's this book on anxiety by Tony Attwood, but we got stuck when it came to breathing exercises:- Exploring Feelings: Anxiety: Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to Manage Anxiety My DS cries, 'though this has definitely lessened with age. In our house we eventually discovered that the reason Dad just doesn't handle this well is that he finds the noise of crying too loud to bear; we find it best if he just exits if at all possible (so minimizing shouting & double-meltdown!). Obviously I don't know if this is the reason in your case but I do empathise! I wonder if your son has simply worked out that he feels better after a good cry, so if he's able to cry he'll feel better afterwards? I hope you do get to the bottom of it.
  10. Hello, 11-year-old DS who has AS has been prescribed cipramil (citalopram) for anxiety & phobias. We eventually got the drop (2mg) down him today following 3 days of creative attempts! He's gone from very cautious to a bit hyper (over-active mind, but concentrating) & which caused a few difficulties at grandparents (broken items). He's a LOT more confident but has been up v.late with far too much energy (despite melatonin). It's having such a dramatic effect that I started looking it up again - apparently it's not licensed for use with children. The previous dr had been going to prescribe sertraline instead. Of course the accompanying blurb states that one can't suddently stop it but with one drop & such dramatic effects we're really concerned about giving it tomorrow (and school). The dr said she's found it really effective with phobias, & these have been getting extreme recently; I said that he needed practical help with his thinking etc not just medication, the dr has agreed to refer but says it will be a long wait (not sure how long). He needs something but we really do not like the SSRI family!!!!! Does anyone else have experience of children taking cipramil? (good or bad, it would just be great to hear as it feels pretty lonely!) Are there any alternatives which are lisenced instead?
  11. Update: Just to say a big thank-you. We did compromise on the clothes - comfy smart-ish trousers with shirt just for the ceremony, allowed DS to 'dress down' after that. All the advice we'd been given was exactly right: we used "now & next" (ie now wedding, next explore hotel; now meal, next shower - ie something difficult followed by something child finds fun/relaxing & can look forward to); we were able to arrange with the caterer food that he'd actually eat then pop out for chocolate for pud (helped stretch out the time for him a bit); took varied novel activities (£) & favourite drinks & comfort toys; sat near exit. We looked at the venues via the internet in detail as both were too far away to pre-visit. I pre-thought about which bit was most important to me & concentrated just on getting through that, so everything else was a bonus. Only the one big meltdown but that was due to 2 unexpected changes to the ceremony which were completely beyond anyone's control: we coped by making a dash for the hotel afterwards which personally was very difficult (it meant I watched old friends as if through a window and didn't get to say hello), but the main thing was that we did make it through. I was exhausted by the time we arrived & consequently spoke quite a lot of gibberish but so very glad that we went and all-in-all a really lovely day It was difficult repeatedly plucking up courage to explain/ask for the needs in advance but very definitely worth it. PHEW!!! And huge thanks again to all of you who very kindly replied and me encouraged that it was indeed possible!
  12. Thank you all so much for you help, tips and advice!!! I think he may well end up going in cap, t-shirt & joggers like Cat's dear son, 'though I will try the favourite-colour-shirt idea just in case it's in any way achieveable ; I will relax much more about it knowing we're not the only ones. I did speak to the NAS who advised using a 'now & next' approach - ie now we're doing this, next we'll visit our hotel, or next I can play a computer game etc. Also asking to sit near the periphery of the room so that DS can be nipped in & out without causing too much embarrassment (not to me, I'm pretty much past that). I may suggest a chat with the caters & be prepared to nip out for hot snack if necessary (chicken with raw carrot would be perfect!). We'll definitely look at photos of both venues if we can find them online & if not try to arrive slightly earlier. We don't have any respite & our days do tend to end up more like Sesley's but hey at least if we make it there & get through the day somehow that will be a success (relative to not going)!! Thank you again so very much for all your advice & thoughts!
  13. We're going to a wedding soon, (note positive attitude!), I've booked accommodation as it's a long drive from home. There are 3 of us - (1)me, pretty burnt-out at the moment with the battling etc (2)DS, 10, who has AS with lots of anxiety problems, generally doesn't want to go (ok so this is 'normal' for boy of his age!), doesn't 'like' any of the very grown-up food in the lovely menu (- ie won't be able to cope with any of the courses, but we're very priviledged to be invited), won't be able to do the 'waiting around' & doesn't want to wear anything other than comfy trousers & a t-shirt (3)OH, lovely, finds social occaisions very difficult indeed, especially if DS becomes anxious/noisy. I know weddings can be stressful for anyone, not least the happy couple! We can't leave DS with anyone else & I can't go alone, so I'd be very grateful if anyone has any tips on what's worked for them, or any ideas on how to cope with the day?
  14. LoubyLou

    School Trip?

    Hello, thank you very much, yes My DS received his statement a few weeks before the Easter hols, so quite recent. It was a big fight for it, and in my opinion it is vague, hence we're (ok that's just me!) appealing it, though we're very happy with the school he's going to. Yes it certainly should be quantified, and it isn't - the number of hours required has never been even mentioned, at present it is a block of money ('though where that's going...), anyway yes you're right I think this isn't legal. The main reason we're appealing is over speech therapy, we'll have to get a private assessment that actually makes recommendations (rather than the long list of language needs at the moment). He does need it now, I've got a Cerebra voucher which we can use for Johansen therapy 'though as yet I haven't found anyone nearby who can see him for 'ordinary' autism-type speech therapy, despite looking hard... Anyway it sounds like you and your son are doing extremely!!, What a battle!! What a relief that he has the speech therapy. Very Best Wishes, GreenTed
  15. LoubyLou

    School Trip?

    Hi Kilimunjaro, Thank you so much - it's really good to hear a breakdown of how this has actually worked, and I think you are absolutely right to say that staff should assume no skill in that area until they're consistently demonstrated in different settings. I think because DS is quite but "bright" (whatever that one means ) staff do assume that he's far more able than he is. His social language skills do seem to be behind other AS children his age that we've met. He's had two SALT assessments each giving lists of needs, so he has a long list of needs, but they don't make recommendations here because there isn't the provision. He has to wait to secondary school to have SaLT access, which I'm very sad about (though delighted and thankful that he will have it there!). I've bought the 'Socially Speaking' book & will try to go through that with him myself (when we've finished the Tony Attwood anxiety book!) - I know it would come much better from a trained professional and would just like the chance to be 'mum', and support at home what other professionals are doing, oh well. We're not getting any speech & language support at the mo even though we've asked at least 3 times & it's erm in his statement...but if I start talking about that hot potato I may just explode so had better not. It's now the residential trip that's causing the problem as school have changed their minds on the room-sharing. All I can think is that an adult had been harassed (he's had a lot of problems with bullying, but it's not so bad at the moment) by other adults the last thing they'd want to do would be to share a small room with them behind closed doors, unable to cope with this or ask for help. It's potty to me when I think about it this way for anyone even to try to persuade him in this. Also the whole someone to look after him idea has been dropped by school, we've made other suggestions which are refused. I know it's probably discrimination but am in despair about what we can do about it.
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