Jennasmum

See 2 years ago he had time away (twice) and then came to his senses but i dont know if he will this time as tbh i dont know if i can trust him not to go and i dont want him to keep thinking he can do this time and time again. If he has left because of Jenna then i think its bad that he has left me to deal with it alone. I do have family and friends around but this week my mum is on long days at work and my sister is on holiday, my 2 best friends are away on holiday too, which leave me with a couple of friends (where i have been today) but i dont want to impose on them, esp with Jenna in tow and she finds it hard to settle in new place. He has collect some things today, when i was out with jenna at a party, but hes not taken everything but he has taken his PS3, typical!

Sorry if this is in the wrong section - please feel free to move it. Well today my husband walked out on me. This is not the first time he did 2 years ago and i told him if he was to ever walk out again then it would be the last time. However for the last 2 years things have been great, until 2 weeks ago. Now he says he just doesn't love me anymore (after 11 years together 5 of which we have been married) We went on a help! course with the NAS and we both found it really helpful and there were so many examples that mirrored our daughter. I think that the course may have made him realise the emormty of Jenna's issues and he has freaked out a little and ran. Not really fair as it leaves me with a 4.5year old trying to explain where daddy has gone (she currently thinks he is at work). Anyhow, has anyone else found that getting a diagnoisis for a child has put a strain on their relationship and has anyone been in my posistion. I seriously lost. I am trying to be strong and keep things as normal as possible for Jenna, but i know she knows there is something wrong, she keeps commenting on the fact that i'm crying (or not crying), BAH

Hi there, I'm quite new too, and my little girl was 4 in march, she sounds just like your daughter, but mine also has very strict routines, and finds it difficult if they change (like the way we walk to school). I've signed up to the HELP! course with the NAS (one day one) with a view to going on the early bird one after (i wasnt able to commit to all 6 weeks in september because of annual leave at work). I'm hoping that the course will help me to learn coping techniques for me, hubby and Jenna, as recently i have been refered to counseling via my GP and put on a low dose antidepressant because of tension headaches and generally feeling helpless when it comes to her not coping and not understanding situations and instructions. Sorry have rambled on a bit. xxx

Excellent news about the assessment. I know my daughters diagnosis came as a huge relief. x

Congratualtions! xx

I'm haven't got any useful advice, but i wanted to pass on my support and say that i am sorry for the loss of your child. xxx

Hey Welcome! I'm Ann from Nottingham, mum to Jenna who is 4.5years and has just had a diagnosis of HFA.

I'm currently in the process of filling in my form.

Sounds a lot like my daughter. She has been having speach and language through play (via the local sure start) and she had improved a lot, however she is still having difficulities, and people find it difficult to understand what she is trying to say. She has recently been diagnosed with HFA and this involved a S&L assessment. Now that she has the diagnosis the SALT have said that she does need some help and we are currently waiting for an appointment with the theparist who initally assessed her for the peadtrician. It sounds like your son could do with some help from S&L. Good luck with it all! xx

My Daughter was diagnosed with HFA at just over 4 years old, i think it helped that i had a really understanding HV who did the referal for me.

Excellent!!!! Glad you are getting somewhere with her! xxxxx

The peadtrician noticed that when she was talking to the SALT during the joint assessment that she mentioned that something seemed 'funny' buy meant it in a strange sort of funny way, Jenna picked up the word funny and burst in to laughter, like she knew when someone says its funny she should laugh but it was really fake and inapporiate.

Hey Baranigirl, Sorry the claim was refused again, sounds like you have got some fabby advice from the people on here! Good luck at the gp. xxxx

Your post has just made me feel so much better. My daughter is 4 and had only been diagnoised for about 4 weeks. She has what i call good days and bad days, on the good days (like sunday) she will have no issues and be ok with everything, interact with others, however the interaction isnt great, but its enough for people not to notice. then she will have awful days like yesterday and today, where nothing is right and she cant cope and lashes out at me and her dad to the point where i have sat in tears wondering if its all my fault. On the good days i think is she really asd and on the bad days i know she is. She laughs alot, sometimes its very inapporiate and fake, she is very happy, when things are right in her world/mind, and she has a brilliant imagination, however they imagnative play is always the same routine of play/same story lines, and if another person tries to join in or change the story she cant cope. Also her imagination can be quite literal. Sorry i have rambled but my point is that your son and my daughter sound quite similar Zeb xxxx

Hey KLP, my daughter Jenna was 4 at the end of march and had just been diagnoised High Functioning ASD just over 2 weeks ago. She will also be starting full time in september, and starting a completely different school (not looking forward to that change for her) however i think the change will be good as the school she is going to is more experienced at dealing with ASD. Welcome to the forum. xxxx