Bluesbreaker

Hey all, Like i just mentioned in another thread, i have been through hell and back with a girl and its been nearly two months since we had a big bust up and we never spoke to each other again. I had been out with this girl three times, something i would regret doing. each and everytime she weedled into me just to get what she wanted out of me, something which i woke up too on the third occassion and i said enough is enough. Now this girl seems to be mentally pressurised dare i say it, although there is a lot going on in the family, of which for their sake i will not disclose ALL details just in case the devils find me on here.... anyway lets say one of her parents has got a terminal illness and even with treatment is not expect to live longer than ten years, in their opinion (not the doctors, so in my books i think its five or less). anyway i took this into account and treated her accordingly. However, we fell out again, on the last occasion, because she would not agree to letting me go home straight away fro college to study, now to be fair, she was yr 11 im year 13 and in my books my a levels are a darn sight more important than her GCSE's i have promises to fulfil for universities. anyway, it resulted in her vandalising my bike and she let air out of my tyres, me and many other witnessed this, i stormed out to her but i was as calm as could be, i said 'please don't end it like this we are both adult enough not to resort to this type of behaviour please stop touching and harming my bike' She gets up, stares me for 5 seconds and belts me one in the jaw, needless to say i did a return favour with a thump on the head, which was not a serious punch, it was like a thonk on the head like a whack a mole game... anyway after that we recovered started talking again for a week, went out for a week, then split then spoke for a week and parted ways permanently........ now im single and b****y hate it....... no one to talk to, or love....... then i feel ashamed to say it but everytime i see my mates with girlfriend/boyfriends it makes me jealous and mad, which is truly pathetic i know, but why the heck is it me who gets the bad apples???? i even went out my way to explain to people that i had Aspergers' and sometimes this does no justice either way everyone can take experiance away from this

right chap, im guessing you're a teenager, i don't know what age you are though. it has been a tough situation for you and i have just gone through hell and back with a relationship myself which has upset me quite a lot. My advice is (and this is coming from a fellow Aspergers' guy) leave the girls alone for a while, i know that may sound rediculous but be patient, if its one thing i have learnt and no offence meant to females here at all, but i found that girls between the ages of 14 -17 can be extremely bitchy people, and i have fallen foul of them a few times. also PM me if you want, im here to talk about it if you want to

anyway Kathryn, start of a new week soon, so hopefully it will start and end on a better note

Like Kathryn aid, just be wary of the attendence situation particularly if the Education welfare get involved (trust me they are a pain in the rear end sometimes....) keep persisting and try and get hold of a statutory assessment and follow Kathryn's and Caroline's suggestions. if you can get an emotional assessment then thats even better, same with other medical bits and bobs which are related, as the critical point is to have as much evidence as possible. Depending on the area you live in its harder to convince Some LEA's than others. i have been through the system with my mum and dad who have fought with the authoroties to get the right help. Since the age of 12 i have myself been active in getting support. (also have two Autistic cousins who, the youngest had had to go through a similar situation to the one you describe) Stick with it and be persistant, you have to keep standing up and shouting as such to get what you need. Best wishes and hope you are successful, Bruce.

Just like the Bus theory, they turn up in three's and it's true!

Thanks Marion yeah, 17 and 6ft 4inch here, size 11/12 shoes, hope that i don't get any taller! lol! all the best for your son as well

i would and wouldn't entirely say people look 'Autistic' or 'Aspergers'... Being diagnosed with AS myself, i find that as much as i like to be different, i want to 'look' the same as everyone else, so i try and walk the same, which is challanging because of a mysterious lump on my ankle which even the doctors can't tell what it is... so that makes walking painful, as well as being (most likely) flat footed... so that went out the window, lol... i try and talk the same, however, for a long time i spoke out of one side of my mouth, but now i don't so i look a bit more 'ordinary' when i speak. it is a challenge without 'looking' like i have a disability i know it sounds lazy in a sense, but it means that i have to explain it to people, which i don't mind doing, but it feels labourious and.... well upsetting if i have to keep repeating it..

Hi all, Names Bruce from Leicester, diagnosed with Aspergers when i was three years old (1995) and am currently in full time 16+ education with hopes of going to University (paperwork all sorted, what a nightmare!!) Have had good support near enough through all my education apart from 3 years at a leicester comprehensive at which my statement was ignored and no support was given, in a rough estate area, so it was like hell...... anyway, just a bit of background on my interests for you: I play Guitar left handed, much like jimi Hendrix I am a HUGE fan of Thomas the tank engine, even though i am 17 (not everyone knows that though, it can be embarrassing) I love studying military history and Transportation history, particularly railways I build models/paint models/ modify them, etc (mostly railway models) I love trains and i am an avid music lover, predominantly rock and heavy metal but expanding into Punk, Blues, Jazz and Ska. I also keep tropical fish and i am a bird lover (as in ones with feathers i do like the human sort as well ) So hi and hope i enjoy my stay here If you have any wuestions to ask me concerning teenage life and teenage AS perspectives then don't be afraid to ask, i love to be of help. Best regards, Bruce.