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I'm just unable to form any meaningful relationships, they just do nothing for me so because of that I feel an overwhelming sense of isolation, as I've always felt. I lived in hope for many years that this would somehow change in the future but it never did and I've now resigned myself and accepted it wont for me.

If anything the Rainbows leader was over reacting and clearly does not understand ASD behaviour. She obviously needs a bit of education and understanding of the issues and it's a perfect opportunity to teach the other girls about it. Looking at the Girlguiding website - http://www.girlguidi...sabilities.aspx It might be worth contacting someone higher up in the organisation to ask for advice.

I've always wished I had good social skills, the kind most take for granted. It would certainly make life much easier than any academic qualification would. I would go as far as to say good social skills would probably help in the pursuit of the academic side of things. I left college after one day because I couldn't face it.

I'm 45 and still hate losing. I can't even let my son win at something by deliberately failing so when he does win it's a major 'in yer face dad' moment!

Hi and welcome to the forums. I'm in a similar situation as I was diagnosed a month ago at the age of 45 although I'd kind of suspected it for the past couple of years after doing some research. I was a bit different in that I was glad I had an explanation for the way I was/am.

Hi Claire and welcome to the forums. I was diagnosed a month or so ago (aged 45) and now I suspect my dad has it and maybe my mum too.

One of the 'joys' of my AS is I don't do tradition!

Might be an idea to try out expanding your first response a little bit so if someone asks if you want a coffee say 'no thanks, I've had enough today' or 'I've just had one thanks'. If you give them a bit of reasoning behind your answer it might satisfy them more.

If you'd informed those cops they'd have a duty to act. As it was they probably couldn't be bothered, must have had an important meeting with some doughnuts.

Hi ruthie and welcome to the forums!

hahaha. First thread I've ever seen where the title says it all and is longer than the post!

Hi Lab Pet and welcome to the forums. I'm across the other side of the country from you but it's not any warmer!

Hi. I'm 45 and was diagnosed with Aspergers a couple of weeks ago. I went to my doctor and rattled through all that I felt, the difficulties I had and have had since childhood and she wrote a letter to the local psychology department (NHS). They got in touch and I had a few meetings with a psychologist (I think it was) a couple of months later and she got me to fill out a questionnaire and she gave me one for my mum to fill out about what I was like as a child. At the end of that she said I had Aspergers. I'd previously had a diagnosis of depression in my 20's and anxiety/social phobia in my 30's but after taking all that in and reading a bit about it I always felt it didn't get to the root of the problem but I always had problems describing how I felt and it's really only been the last few years where I've gotten my head around it enough to be able to describe it well. Why not make a list of everything you have problems with and take it in with you to the doctor. I always had problems of getting really anxious in the waiting room then my mind going blank when I went in to see the doctor.

Hi Porilllion and welcome to the forum.

You can legally watch the BBC iPlayer online too without a TV licence. Some other channels have their own version too.

I went to my GP and told her about my problems with far more insight than I had been able to show before and she referred me to a psychologist where I had a few meetings with her telling her about my life and did a questionnaire type thing. She gave me a questionnaire for my mum to fill out too about what I was like when I was younger from her perspective. Previously it had been assumed that it was anxiety/social phobia that was my main problem but it turns out that seems to stem from AS. For me the interviews that led to the diagnosis were no different to the ones I had for depression and anxiety in that it was just me trying to explain how I felt and the difficulties I had and a psychologist asking plenty of questions. Had to wait about two months for the referral and it was on the NHS.

Hi and welcome to the forum! I'm a 45 year old male, diagnosed a couple of weeks back with AS and what you described of your life is pretty much how it was with me, having babies and marrying a guy aside! I would have been shocked a decade or more ago to be told I had AS as I simply did not understand how I felt and therefore couldn't communicate it. It's only been relatively recently that I've got my head around how I felt and had the ability to actually communicate it. The symptoms of anxiety was obvious throughout my life, really in your face type stuff, but until I was told I had that at 28 I never knew what it was. To me it wasn't unusual or not normal, quite the reverse it was the way I'd always felt so in that sense it was difficult to say there's something wrong. I knew I didn't like the way I felt but simply didn't have the words for it or wasn't self aware enough. It was a bit of a relief for me to be finally diagnosed as it explains everything about my life and the way I felt and behaved. Had I known this as a youngster? I don't think it would have made too much of a difference to me as I was far too emotionally immature to cope with it. It's probably only in the last decade where I could have coped so I resist the temptation to imagine what my life would have been like if I'd known from an earlier age. If that makes sense!

Hi Simon. Welcome to the forums.

The one I hated the most was that abomination - Shake and Vac. I remember my mum using it and it must do more damage to your lungs post vacuuming than 60 ciggies a day. The next in the list are those pine tree car air fresheners, eye watering stuff.

Hi and welcome. I was diagnosed a couple of weeks ago and am now 45 and it's the same kind of feeling for me although I had some kind of inkling it was Aspergers over the last years or so.

I take a moment to think about what's being said and whatever may have prompted it then think if it was fair comment or not. I don't start from a position, as I used to, that it must be my fault. I try to remain as calm as possible and ask why the person said what they said and explain why I don't think it was fair comment. I often find there was some misunderstanding on the other persons part which is usually easily cleared up.

You could try writing to a zoo or wildlife park with cheetahs and asking if they could use a volunteer for a few hours a week. Explain your circumstances and I'm sure both parties could benefit out of this.

That, frankly, is a disgrace. Our politicians are elected to serve us and not the U.S. There should also be clauses whereby a persons fitness to be extradited should be taken into account in the country charged with extraditing him.

I remember my first driving lesson on the open roads aged 18. I was so used to being a passenger in a car I kept slipping into passenger mode and the driving instructor had to keep grabbing the wheel to avoid parked cars etc! Although I remained anxious throughout my lessons I passed first time and pretty soon after my confidence behind the wheel grew to a level where I didn't even think about it. Good luck on your lessons!

My son is 6 years old and to me shows some signs that he is similar to me when I was young although an initial investigation by professionals hasn't found anything as yet. For the one sentence on what I want for my child at school? Different to what I got which was nothing. My GP told me when I was in my early 30's that they didn't think children could suffer mental health issues back then when I was a child (1970's). As such I suffered terribly every single day of school and if my son is ever diagnosed with AS I hope he gets the support and understanding he would need that I didn't get.