Minime72

I'm a qualified SW and my first thought was you'd suit childrens services. They often have SW assistant jobs which are advertised on council website, in community care or on a site hosting several authorities. If you took that route then there is much scope to do the SW degree, I'm sure what you have will give credits towards the SW one. Authorities second people every year as far as I know but yes i think your degree would put you in good stead in that field.

If you don't have a dx - would you need support? Perhaps, mainly with relationships What difference would dx make to you or your life? An IDENTITY. Always knowing somethings not quite right, never fitting any label theyve given me. Offering support to others, understanding why I do things the way I do. Has anyone else found as issue regarding AS and MH when dealing with professionals? 1st psychaitrist knew nothing about AS (she said as much) despite referral clearly stating I was seeking Dx. She actually said she didnt see the point as theres no services anyway. I pushed it and she referred me to PDD team who took 3 months to write to me declining referral. Has appt with 2nd psychiatrist who knew a lot more, I felt listened to, I also handed him some info on adult females with AS and hes sending me to a specialist for Dx I actually got told by a clinical psychologist in 1998 he believed I was AS. I saw this chap for 6 years but current professionals say his Dx isnt valid. To get a Dx the psychiatrist is referring to a private specialist therefore theres no NHS service for adult Dx They are reluctant to diagnose because it will become a need and therefore they will have to provide services so NHS wont diagnose in my area (thats my theory) I also feel that other people who arent as forward will get palmed off.

Was just doing a search about AS and laughing and found this thread. Wow Matthew I am SO like your wife! My OH has commented that hes never seen me laugh properly, only taken him 6 years to figure that out! I'm like your wife where its not that I dont find things funny, I laugh inside too but more often than not is when its people are telling you a tale and are laughing telling you the story and I just cant visualise the scenario. Other times it can be inappropriate though I do try to curb it. I laughed in the witness box in court once, didnt go down well!

I'm constantly asking my OH what's wrong and he always replies nothing why do you think something is wrong? Sometimes he just wants to unwind after work then I'm constantly badgering what's wrong thinking he's in a mood, I've sone something to upset him etc etc because I'm reading his weary expression as anger.

Can't really help you hun as I'm AS so only learning myself and still not got it right. I know when I was younger I put up and shut up whereas now I'm older I'm far less tolerant so if someone upsets me I'll say it there and then which isn't always appropriate. Bit like when someone stands in my personal space I used to just get more and more agitated whereas now I'll just turn straight round and say it if they persist. Sorry I'm not much help here x

I'm starting to feel more normal coming here!

Try www.entitledto.org.uk. That shows you everything you should be getting x

It is funny though . OH wonders why the kids have gone sleep and I'm still watching it and trying to look round him if he stands in front of the telly!

Thanks for that, will try some books and I'm going gp to see if there's anything local that doesn't involve drama classes lol! Another ? I just took a thing called an AQ test online and it says my score is 49 but doesn't say what that means or a scale or anything? It just said about over 32 but I guess a lot of people could get over 32 who are shy or whatever?

The more I read that the more I thought that's me, did I write that and forgot I did? I'm even the same age! I had a diagnosis years ago, been in denial though however its becomming more obvious as I get older, I think when I was working I could curb it somewhat as I was in a controlled environment whereas I'm a stay at home mum now so its got to a point where it can't be denied anymore as it has a major impact on the family, relationships, friendships etc. I feel desperately sorry for my kids as the only interaction they get is with kids in play centres and my lads pre school like they don't have any little friends because I don't speak to the mothers to make any :/ I'm going to gp when kids back in school next week so perhaps you should also take that step for your own peace of mind. Not sure what if anything they can offer but I guess once you know for sure you can start to understand yourself and allow others to understand you too

As above, tick it and hope they don't notice lol! It is presumptuous of them to think everybody has someone closely involved :/ that's their issue to deal with not yours.

My taste is very wide from kylie to marilyn manson. Love pink floyd particularly the visual side like the live concerts and album artwork but I listen to teeny bop to godhead

Hiya Ben I'm a qualified social worker, let registration lapse as I have the 2 little uns now. Did that for 11 years mainly working with the elderly and alcohol misusers. I'm also into the arts and have a pretty successful arty hobby although my OH calls it an obsession, keeps me happy eh! Yes I believe the arts and sciences is a popular choice for those with AS. I've got the concentration span of a gnat too but if you do find a course that interests you then go for it. With the social work course we studied lots of things like sociology, psychology and law so it wasnt just one subject so I relate to what you've said about things holding your interest, have a look at courses offering a variety of subjects

I'm 37 and still have an inappropriate and immature sense of humour! I can sit in a group and they can be in hysterics at somebodys story and I just don't get it, I don't think I can visualise the scenario or something but I'll sit and laugh at the old tiger shark farting in the killer whales face in the kids film shark tale (that I've seen like a million times!)

Bless you Ben! I wish I had the energy to jog and quiet space to meditate but with a 2 year old, a 3 year old and. 17 year old that's nigh on impossible lol! I used to meditate years ago as I hear voices until once when I was in a really deep place and my hairdryer blew up next to me, kinda freaked me out somewhat! A friend of a friend (someone online I've met numerous times) runs a local aspergers group, I did look up one but they do drama classes (I don't think so!) Or go to the pub/for a meal (again cough splutter!) I've read a lot of the posts here and can relate to most, phone phobia, god it drives me mad, takes me about 3 days to get the courage only after having convos in my head about various scenarios. One thing I want to ask, my social skills are learnt and I usually mimic the partner so if I'm with someone loud and outgoing I become that, with someone quiet I become withdrawn, is that part of the AS? I'm assuming so, kinda makes me feel I have no identity or true self :/