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Hi Suze how is the baby birdie, hope fine, the first 24 hours are usually critical so hopefully if he is still around you are looking after him her well

Do you think I might have a problem, I really struggle to think of a favourite movie, song or person so no favourite movies for me

Come on you hot lazy bunch, I am sat by my computer waiting for all the pm's to come through and there's nothing in my mail box. Its gonna be a very easy compo to judge if you don't get typing and I like a challenge My mums caption is " let me tell you a secret --- I'm pregnant!!!! (oh dear Mum) Put your thinking heads on, the compo ends at around 9pm( give or take a bit) tomorrow, when its cooler as my computer is in the conservatory. good luck S*

Hi Justanimportantmum we are facing the same issue with our foster daughter who spent the week at home because we thought school were not keeping her safe and she disclosed something serious that had happened at school. C returned today and I told her to say she had been poorly and then walk away, quite difficult for a seven yr old. It was difficult for me to ask her to lie as she does tell porkies and gets into trouble so I had to explain that sometimes we have to tell white lies to protect someone and thats why we were asking her to do it. S*

Hi Jb thanks for your post, it makes sense about my 12yr old then, she seems to be getting worse and we always had an excuse for her behaviour, but no more excuses now Somethings have not helped like her going to Rythmic gymnastics, the teachers were so strict she was scared and worried about doing the wrong thing, her behaviour improved when she left and went to dancing instead which is much more relaxed. She has always struggled with friends and went to her new school on her own as it is out of area. She has not got the organisational skills for homework and frequently is phoning friends to ask what the home work is. S*

I think Mothers have the intutition when it comes to their offspring, just be aware and write down anything that concerns you so that you have a record from an early age in case it is needed at a later date. We all think we can remember milestones but its easy to get muddled up when times pases by. <'>

Thanks for your sound advice, I think I will treat her like she has AS until proven not. Her behaviour has been more of a problem over the past four years and I have questioned myself many times on parenting skills, but my first born and last born are totally different, easy well mannered, thougthful and very sociable and even my little foster daughter who came with so many behavioural problems has come on in leaps and bounds with the parenting I use. I usually foster children who are unadoptable when they arrive because of their behaviour and when they leave me they go to an adoptive placement. So how can I be clued up with the rest and not with S and M? S*

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Whilst reading posts I have noticed that a fair few of you have more than one child with AS and I wanted to know how common is it to have more than one in your own family with AS. The light bulb as been turned on since going ahead with trying to get "S" DX with AS and I think that my third daughter has also got a lot of the AS traits but she is very different from S in many ways. S hates her and I wonder if its because they are similar in some ways. We put M behaviour down to being jealous when our son was born as she seemed to become more difficult then. She is very jealous and doesn't seem to understand that we spend more money on her than anyone and she really creates when I buy anyone else something. She has a full sized blanket that she is addicted to and carries it around with her and sniffs it continuously, if she has to leave it for a while she makes sure she has a real big sniff to keep her going. She has always had acute hearing and complained that things are too loud but needed a hearing test when she was a baby because she failed two. M is totally disorganised and her bedroom is a tip even when I have blitzed it, the next day its awful again. She is very funny about germs and has to have her own spoon and her own bowl for cereal but is not very good about personal hygiene and as a family we all shower daily and have clean clothes every day. I have to check in the washing basket to make sure she has changed her pants daily and shower daily. She will tell me she has had a shower but I don't hear any water when she is in the bathroom. She again doesn't hug and if we ask her for a kiss she putss her cheek there to be kissed. M also taps all the time with her fingers on doors, cupboards in fact everything it drives us insane. sorry to go on but it has only just clicked about M. She can come out with very embarrassing things to others, i.e ask her cousin whether she washed her face because she has spots and laughs at things that we don't find funny. M gets very upset if she things she might get into trouble at school and won't do anything wrong at school but will at home. She goes mad if she is late but she is happy to make anyone else late. I am quite shocked and upset to think that M might have AS as well but it would explain her behaviour, should I mention it at S CAHMS appointment in a couple of weeks? I will mention me another time lol. What does NT mean Please S*

Thank you Yoyo for sharing this with me and its nice to get the side from a Mum. My Mum too is much better on a one to one and I have the best relationship than all her children with her, I think its because I don't have many problems that I can't sort out myself and when go to see her we have a laugh together and I understand her. <'>

Well as I'm out of the compo this week I can add my captions on the forum so here goes. "You distract her and I'll whippet"

I look forward to your pm

What about those clever ones out there pm a caption and also having a different one for the forum so those not playing can still have a laugh. Any views on that suggestion or others gratefully received.

I have just cleared my inbox so there is now plenty of room for all those wonderful captions.

Hi Suze what a kind person you are, I will post all the little birds, frogs and Mice to you to look after that my horrible kittens catch and keep bringing indoors. they have four bells each and still manage to catch the poor little creatures. A tip from when I was a child and was forever looking after baby birds pour washing up liquid mixed with water on the soil and the worms come up to the surface good luck <'> S*

Hi everyone Whats tonight, its compo night who wants to join in the fun, I can tell you all do. Here is a picture for you all to put a brill caption to. Come on you first timers join in as well, I joined in for the first time last week and look where it has got me lol. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v696/tab...6resized640.jpg I will just remind you of the rules. PM's only, anyone who posts on the forum will not be included (BOOH) The winners will be announced on Weds Eve. Good luck everyone I am sure you will all do me proud and make my job harder by all the excellent captions Tabz <'>

I too have decided that to respond to my mum the same way as Kathryn mentioned, and it has helped my relationship with my mum as I understand her more and know that she can't help the way she behaves. I used to think she didn't love us but I know she does but just can't express it the same. She is wonderful with animals and can express her love to them, in fact I took a photo of my dog and cat round for her on Friday so she can display it, she has no pphotos around the house of my four children only my animals lol My eldest sister did not talk tilll she was three because my mum didn't know that she was supposed to talk to her.

Hi Lotty my mum is definitely an Un DX AS and over the years she has upset each member of the family, I tend not to go to her when I am upset because she would worry and it would make her very anxious, she would not be able to sleep and would turn to the bottle to help her cope, luckily I have three sisters and good friends with whom I can turn to in times of need. I live 8 mins walking and 3 by car and she hardly knows my four children, if fact walked right past one of them 5 years ago lol. If I go round I tend to go on my own as she copes better on a one to one, quite hard as she has had 7 children and has 19 grandchildren. Parties are a nightmare, she finds it very difficult when we all turn up for her birthday or my Dads birthday. I have learnt to understand my mum and I love her for what she is, even through life was quite difficult as a child as my mum drank alot, bt I preferred it that way because when she had a drink she was kinder and happier. It took me all of my counselling training to accept my mum and her behaviour and now that I am having my daughter assessed I can see that my mum has AS. <'> <'> <'> S*

Hi Paula lets hope this terrible nightmare is coming to an end and you get all the support you and your son needs. The power of those ignorant professionals is frightening. Be strong I am sure there will be many battles ahead these bullies should not get away with their behaviour to you and your poor son who should have receiving help two years ago <'> <'> <'>

Hi Suze I too feel that CAHMS have listened and not thought I was just a neurotic mother. They must have seen some traits to phone me straight away giving S another appointment. S has been a little moody since getting back from the appointment, She did go out yesterday with her friends and informed me that they had been taking about one of their friends who has AS, they didn't say anything negative about him. S said she wouldn't tell her friends if she was DX with AS. S*

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Thanks for the laugh, they are now winding there way to all my friends via the internet

Hope you all get your own message from this little story that I have just read, it gave me goosepimples and watery eyes. Real Vision By Marsha Arons My friend Michelle is blind, but you'd never know it. She makes such good use of her other senses, including her "sixth sense" of intuition, that she rarely gives the impression she's missed anything. Michelle parents her children pretty much like the rest of us, except that she doesn't sweat the small stuff. Her daughter, Sarah, six, and her son, Aaron, nine, really benefit from Michelle's relaxed attitude. Once, Michelle told me that it sometimes bothered her that her children probably weren't dressed according to her taste. You see, she relies on her husband and her friends to choose clothes for them. But since friends and Daddy don't presume to know what the kids like, Sarah and Aaron often get to pick out their own clothes. But Michelle avoids any battles. As long as the clothes are clean and weather-appropriate, she doesn't make it an issue. And she trusts that, at six and nine, her children can tell if they are too hot or too cold. Another area where Michelle rarely argues with her kids is in keeping the house clean. It isn't that Michelle doesn't know when there's a mess. She knows it's time to clean when she steps on crumbs or toys that have been left out. But in Michelle's house, the kids have learned to put their things away because it wouldn't just annoy their mother to have a mess, it could be dangerous for her. Indeed, Michelle moves around her house so fast that often guests don't realize she's blind. I realized this the first time my six-year-old, Kayla, went to play there. When Kayla came home, she was very excited about her day. She told me they had baked cookies, played games and done art projects. But she was especially excited about her finger-painting project. "Mom, guess what?" said Kayla, all smiles. "I learned how to mix colors today! Blue and red make purple, and yellow and blue make green! Isn't that neat? And Michelle painted with us. She said she liked the way the paint feels squishing through her fingers." Something about my child's excitement caught my attention, and I realized that I had never finger-painted with Kayla. I didn't like the mess. As a result, my child had learned about color from a blind friend. The irony made me sit down and take a look at my child and at myself. Then Kayla said, "Michelle told me my picture showed joy, pride and a sense of accomplishment. She really saw what I was doing!" Kayla said she had never felt how good finger paints felt until Michelle showed her how to paint without looking at her paper. That's when I realized Kayla didn't know that Michelle was blind. It had just never come up in conversation. When I told her, she was quiet for a moment. At first, she didn't believe me. "But Mommy, Michelle understood exactly what was in my picture!" Kayla insisted. And I knew my child was right because Michelle had listened to Kayla describe her artwork. Michelle had also heard Kayla's pride in her work, her wonder at her discovery of the way colors blend, and her delight in the texture of the medium. We were silent for a minute. Then Kayla said slowly, "You know, Mommy, Michelle really did 'see' my picture. She just used my eyes." I've never heard anyone refer to Michelle as handicapped. She isn't. Hers is a special type of "vision" that all mothers could use.

Hi Minerva Just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate this type of posting, when times are hard and I read psotings like this it really picks me up. I would like to keep this thread running with messages like this, I always get sent messages by email and they always seem to arrive when I am having adifficult time. I am going to look through my mailbox and post something uplifting for all these special people on this site. S*

Hi Karen I too don't think you are over-reacting, you are there to protect your son as no-one else seems to be doing it. If this is in school time I would have thought that the school has fully responsibility of your sons welfare and should inform anyone who comes into contact with your son his understanding and emotionally difficulties so that they understand that he is not being rude or difficult.