Aimee1392

Hi there am looking for some advice on some things. I was diagnosed with AS 6 months ago but have always coped by myself, never really had any strategies, which has never worked out because I self-destruct, and don’t know where to go to get them, as they all seem to be aimed at teaching children how to cope. A huge issue is phonecalls, especially as im too old (in my moms eyes) to get her to make them for me, but I end up never making them, especially for doctors/opticians appointments, finding out information about some clubs I go to, and I let things slide. Recently she’s been making me use the phone, but it ends up that I cant and we end up yelling at each other, she cant understand and tells me ‘we all have to lean’ but its really stressing me out. Does anyone know how I can overcome my aversion to phonecalls? I try planning what im going to say, but there is such a huge unknown with people I don’t know what to plan for, theres too much to do everything, especially when I have to explain things to people and they may not understand, and I always end up speaking too quickly or mumbling. Does anyone know of any books aimed at devising strategies to help, because ive been trawling through webpages and there is lots of advice and encouragement, or all about younger people. Ive managed so far, but in a way that cant continue so am at a bit of a loose end. Thanks! Aimee

I cant really help as regards to support for your son, as im 18 myself and have just started college. This time is going to be quite stressful for him, but you seem to be doing a great job with him, be patient! Is he seeing anyone to talk about the diagnosis and how it is going to affect him because i would think that might be a good path to go down. They might also be able to put you in touch with other help for further education. Best of luck!

Hey im going to send you a message as i think im going into far more detail than is needed on the Meet and Greet forum

Hey both, nice to meet you Jack. I was diagnosed a few months ago wheni was 17, so i (here comes the cliche) know how it feels, or at least how it affected me and can relate that to you I hope you find somewhere to fit in now.

Hi i'm Aimee im new to the forum. I was diagnosed with AS a couple of months ago when i was still 17, after being put in for an interview for an inpatient unit in Bham, as the past November id overdosed for the 3rd time. I had thought that leaving college and being shut away, as i saw it, was my only option, but the person i saw there decided not to take me, and brought up the possibility of Aspergers as explaining my self-injury and ovedosing, as id never really brought up problems with people as an issue before. Cutting down the past 10 months, i pursued a formal diagnosis, and got one a few months later and worked towards thinking about what it meant to me to have this. I started a new college last month to do my A-levels, and its been harder than i had ever thought it would be on so many different levels, but contributing to that is that the counselling service ive been going to for 2 years nearly doesnt take people when they're over 18 and so i wont be seeing the person ive been talking to for so long. Ive been looking for forums recently, mostly because im determined not to go back into old, destructive methods of coping, and also to find people like myself, as ive never talked to anyone else who has the same problems with people that i do. So hi! Nice to meet you all

Just had a look at your blog- i dont have the same problem with supermarkets as im only 18 and my mom does the shopping still (thank goodness) but whenever im left alone clothes shopping, i walk into a shop, walk round it once and walk out again- i cant see anything that i want to buy, so i always have to take someone else wih me. Its always nice to know there are others out there with the same ticks. Hope all is going well for you!