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Has anyone got any good advice on how i could stop my son from doing runners?? He is 6 and has got no road saftey awareness at all at the weekend he ran straight across a road without stopping to look!!! I have to hold his hand constantly when we are out as he just goes and once he starts running its like he is in a zone and just runs and runs and runs whilst laughin in a funny kind of hysterical way??? Have wondered whether a social story might help but not sure hoew to write one or what to include!! Why would he just run off and not stop when i call, does he realize he is doing or is he fully aware and is doing it on purposed because he is laughing, i am very confused because if you ask him about the dangers of going off he can tell you word perfect but this doesnt seem to stop him from running out into the road all he replys to that is "yeah i saw the car" Has anyone else experienced this problem or can offer any advice?? Thanks

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Hi JennaA, I am single mum on income support and also get Carer's A and my son has DLA. They disregard the DLA and because i get Carer's they dont pay me full income support cant remember how much they take now but its not too bad. Also get help with housing/council benefit Hope this helps

Hi everyone My son was diagnosed last year they said it was ASD i have now received a letter from my sons paditrician to go towards his statement at school and it say it AS high functioning and just wonder if there was any diffence between this and ASD??? Does it mean he is the more able end of the spectrum?? Did look on the interent but was getting so confused so thought would be eaiser to ask on here

Thanks Jsmum for the advice and the links i will check them out appriecate the support xx

Hi everyone thank you so much for your response to my message its been a great comfort reading them knowing i am not alone in the situation My son was having some one from the Autism outreach team coming out to see him in school and offer strageties to school but apparently due to funding and cutback etc she no longer comes?? As for the educational psychologist i have seen her since he started school and she helped put the statement in place. I have made a appointment to see his clinical psychologist next week so am going to go and talk about me concerns with her as she has been brillant and really helped since i have been seeing her. The more i think about i do wonder why does he lack motivation to learn?? If you get him talking about cars and animals he thrives on wanting to know more about them. She showed me some of his work and when he has support he can produce some lovely work but if he does work unguided then after a hour litrecey lesson he wrote 4 words!!! Think i may have to go in and talk with the head teacher as i always thought by having 1:1 full time support then he had help through out the day but from what my son has said i dont think this is happening and surely if it was then he wouldnt lack motivation to work as someone would be with him to keep encouraging him at all times??? Thanks again everyone i am so glad i found this site as at times things can feel very lonely and confusing but i can see from me posting this message already its going to be a helpful site xx

Hi everyone i am new here and need some advice if you dont mind, I have a son who is 6yrs old who has a full time statement in school and i had his parents evening last night and was told he seems to lack motivation to learn, is very quiet within the class and comes across as independent as he will prefer to sit by himself rather then within the group of children on the carpet. He teacher informed me that he shows no signs of challenging behaviour can just be a bit stubbon will let out random noises during lessons but she often thinks there isnt much wrong with him as he copes really well but then wil do a few things that are a ASD trait. At home he is completely the opposite he is demanding, agressive both verbal and physical, will line up toys and if you go near thenm he goes hysterical, i find it very hard to reason with him, he is constantly on the go fliting from one thing to another, sees no danger and will think nothing of getting the carving knife out the cupboard, has bouts of screaming non stop and very arguementive.....The list can go on and on I am so confused why is he so different with me it almost at school he copes with it and shows limited signs of ASD to make you query have they got the right diagnosis yet and home i would say most definately I often wonder if its coz i am a single mum i must just be a bad parent but surely even if i was it wouldnt cause him to spin in circles, line things up,have obessions I actually thought that by him having a diagnosis i would find it eaiser but if anything i find it harder because he is so differnt in the too places it almost like he stores it all at school then expoldes when he gets in...... Sorry i am waffling on now but if anyone is in the same situation with there child please let me know as i am so confused and frustrated at the mo Thanks xx