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Never thought of that! Thanks for the advice I'll rethink the way I say that so thank you. I can see how I could be confusing him

Ahh thank you I'll let u all know the out come what ever that may be xx

ahh thats so sweet, yeah mine is very loving normally at bed time and he always tells me he loves me the most at this time. we've been going to the park a lot mainly after school as it's been such nice weather which he enjoys and even if he's just watching tv i will sit next to him and let him snuggle up to me for a kiss and cuddle.

thanks for replies. he is at school who are aware of the seperation and he sees the school child advocate weekly. i'm lucky that i have been able to keep the house so at least that has remained consistant. I have a wonderful family who fully support me, he goes to Granddads for tea normally twice a week and also on a Saturday day time when he's not at Dads. Hid dad and i fully discuss any problems and we tackle them together, his dad also travells back from Bristol (i'm in west mids) to attend all appointments at camhs and i can call him at anytime if i'm having any problems. As he's been in Bristol for the last year DS is used to him not being there in the week but was obvoiusly used to him being home every weekend. Now he stays with him every other weekend at his Nans which is still a massive change for him i fully understand. i've kept his routines as normal as i can but when he is like this his anxiety seems to heighten his reaction to socks/shoes/pants/labels etc so i've just tried to remain patient and take them off/on until 'they are right'. i'm also very concerned that he keeps growling rather than talking and is just very angry at the moment (mostly at me). i'm sure a lot of children go through this in these situations and i have to ignore it as best i can and when he tells me he hates me, i just reply i love you very much. When i go out, as soon as i'm back i say 'look mommy has come straight back, i'll never leave you'. thanks for saying i seem to be doing the right things as this is nice to hear as we all just do our best. We are at Camhs next Tues for (hopefully) the last time for the assessment stage so i'm very hopeful for some practicle advice on how best to support him going forward. I've also enrolled him for football training as i thought this would be a good way to increase his social skills and just have some fun!

Hi all Just wanted an opportunity to ramble so hope you don’t mind. Just having an off day really, had a really tough 6/7 months with endless trips to camhs, doctors, and school, having to deal with extreme behaviour/aggression and violence from my 6-year old (no diagnosis as yet). To top it off my partner of 8-years (DS dad) decided that our relationship wasn’t what he wanted anymore and promptly moved out 2-months ago. (He has been working away for nearly a year so pretty much been a single parent anyway). Resulting in endless visits to solicitors/mortgage advisors, yet more stress and worry that I could have done without. He does keep in regular contact with DS and has him every other weekend but of course even though we make every effort to keep things as ‘normal’ for him as possible; it is of course yet another change that he has to deal with. I reassure him that we both love him very much and he can call his Dad anytime he wants and luckily his dad and I have remained friends and are very much still on speaking terms so there’s been no arguments or nastiness. DS behaviour seems to fluctuate between hating me (I know he doesn’t) and worrying that I’m not going to come back. He’s stopped sleeping again and I’ve had to go back to lying with him until asleep. If I go out anywhere he screams the place down clinging onto me, shouting or not talking at all, starting biting, hitting etc again. I understand that he’s feeling insecure at the moment and most probable reason for the behaviour. (this doesn’t mean that he gets away with it though!) Think I’m just tired and worn out more than anything and finding DS constant demands and behaviour more exhausting than normal but i know I’ll probably feel ok again tomorrow. Would very much like just one morning where there i can just get him up and ready for school without the constant battles. Like I say think just a down day and I’ll feel much brighter tomorrow, most days I am perfectly ok. Thanks for listening.

thanks for the advice i think i will

Hi All After 3-months of waiting we finally saw the consultant yesterday regarding DS, after 2-hours of questions and watching DS she confirmed that she also believes that he has Aspergers (2nd person from CAMHS to state this) but cannot give an official diagnosis until they have put all the information gathered from the various assessments and information from us & school into the database??? Just wondered if anyone can tell what this is, how it woks etc as i'm very confused on how you can get a diagnosis from this??? I'm hoping the end of the assessment stage is in sight now as so far it's been 7-months of assessments, trips to CAMHS, school assessments etc. i completely understand that all of these need to conducted in order to gain an understanding in DS behaviour and responses to situations/people but i'd really like to get some answers so that we can move forward to get DS the support he needs. Thanks for reading and look forward to any information you can offer. Ste

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Hi Everyone just wondered if anyon had any advice really about my DS milk teeth coming out. He has been extremely upset and worried about losing his milk teeth. He has his first wobbly tooth and has been insisting with going to bed with a piece of tissue accross his mouth incase it falls out. I stay with until asleep and remove the tissue instantly. Last night it became more wobbly which resulted in him being extremely upset and distressed as he said its his favourite tooth?? i've promised him that when it comes out we will write a letter to the tooth fairy to ask if he can have his money and keep his tooth as it's his favourite and i explained that everyones teeth fall out for the big ones, it doesn't hurt and not to worry etc. i just wondered if anyone else has come accross this and has any advice really as he is really upset about it. Thanks in advance Ste

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Thanks for your replies I have known there was a problem since he was 2 - he was also put onto early years actions by the Area SENCO at this time. Everyone just said it was all behaviour and didn't seem to take my concerns seriously until whe was 5 & i begged my GP to refer him as things had gone completely out of control. On his first visit to the GP she mentioned aspergers straight away and after assessments at CAMHS they have also said the same thing. I wasn't really aware of Aspergers until this point so it was professionals who suggested it and not me. I'm very grateful to have found this forum as already it has helped so much with advice and generally hearing other peoples stories & experiences.

Hi Everyone Apologies in advance for the rambling but I’m so fed up!! My DS who is 6 is currently on the waiting list to see a consultant after 5-months of assessments from CAMHS. Speech & Language have referred him to see ‘if he meets the criteria for a diagnosis of Aspergers’. From the Speech assessments they have identified that he has a high understanding of verbal communication but has no/very little understanding of non-verbal communication ,a lack of social skills, no eye contact, doesn’t understand consequences etc etc. They have sent copies of reports to school with strategies for them to implement to help with transitions and to support him in social situations (to name but a few). They have also sent an internal referral to school based support for them to discuss DS with the school regarding transition plans. The school up to this point have very clearly stated that they do not believe DS has any issues at school and that the problem is me and I’m not ‘firm’ enough with him!!! Anyway I went to see school SENCO last night as I’ve received no contact from the school since the reports. To be blunt I wish I never went now as the SENCO stated that neither she nor his teacher think he has aspergers as he would not be able to ‘switch it on & off between school & home’. (Speech conducted their assessments within the school environment). Yet again I feel like no one believes there are issues and yet again I feel they think I’m making it up. What do I do??? If there is a diagnosis made I feel the school will not help or support plus they are moving to academy status soon which I feel may add to the lack of support. It’s not just school either, Grandparents and other family relatives are constantly saying ‘he’s fine for us, nothing wrong with him’ which again makes me feel isolated and question everything that’s been said to me so far. Would CAMHS refer him or state that they wish to see if he meets the criteria if they didn’t think he did??? In the meantime I’m left struggling and not knowing what to do. Sorry for the long post but its just nice to get it off my chest. Thanks

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Hi, i've no advice for you but just to let you know that i to have a 6-year old in year 1 who has very similiar traits to yours. I to have been told for the past 4-years that i'm a rubbish parent and have a naughty child. I eventually went to my GP and begged for an assessment, who referred us to Camhs after lots of assessments by various medicals they have stated they believe he has aspergers and has now been passed to a consultant. i also am at a loss about what to do with the aggression and physical outbursts and feel completely dominated by him. just wanted to say good luck and available if you ever just want to chat, as i completely understand how lonely and isolated you can feel and the fact that you want to help your child . Ste

Thanks I will do I should have asked about the waiting list today but I think I was still processing what they had told us x