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PStevenson

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About PStevenson

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    Norfolk Broads
  • Birthday 12/31/1982

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    Male
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    Manchester UK
  • Interests
    Anthropology, Electronics, Learning, Music, walking and Shouting at planes.
  1. but if he feels it's not good enough thats upto him isn't it. people get offended far too easily these days, this guy is worried about his life and all people can do is tell him how offended they feel at something he has said, and this is exactly what we get all the time, people taking what we say the wrong way because they don't understand how we mean to say something, I just think that of all places a forum on Aspergers should demonstrate abit more leniency on how we say things. mumble, yes it is an illness - I'm sorry but I classify something that affects myself in a negative way as an illness, not a part of who I am and I am definitely not proud of it. any friendship I make or any relationship I have usually ends because of it, I like the OP can't use phones because of it and many other things that NT's take for granted are hindered by it. so as far as I am concerned it is an illness and I very much suspect that the person who named it a "disorder" felt the same way
  2. you don't want to sound critical and you're offended? try and get a sense of proportion. I can understand this person not wanting to work in a shop I have when I was younger and it made me 1000 times worse, I got threatened with knives and stuff alot when people came in to steal from us. the fact is I had these problems with people saying "You should just get whatever job going" and I did and it wrecked me because people don't think you have an illness they just think we are ###### because of the way we talk and the things we say etc. not to mention the fact that unlike NT people when someone says something bad about us it stays in our heads as clear as the moment it was said forever so we avoid situations where those things can happen, I just think it is so easy for you people to be critical and point out shortcomings without realizing we have to live with the intensity it leaves behind so yeah I can relate to what the OP said about the manager/adviser. my piece of advice to the OP is this, these days I have given up trying to explain my illness to people in official positions so I tell them that certain things are against a religious belief of some sort, they never argue with that and if they ask what it is you can say "it is against the law to discriminate against my belief system and I reserve the right to withhold the identity of said religion"
  3. hi Buffy I thought I'd reply to this as I have a similar collection habit, I collect alot of audio equipment, tape recorders being one part of that, my parents were never understanding of it and would often throw things away, of course I'm now 28 so I have locked everything up. anyway my point for replying is that there are alot of people who love tape recorders - well any kind of audio equipment and because I have a similar worry of things being thrown away after I go I have written an "open on my death" letter which among other things lists various groups of people into the same kinds of things to be notified about my things to be taken for free on the condition that they look after them as I have. like you, I feel as though my audio/electronic equipment is like a second family and if you are interested this is known as a anthropomorphic personification. I cannot pick things up in shops and not buy them because I feel like I will hurt the thing I have picked ups feelings.
  4. sorry about the odd greeting message but everyone else had already said hello. I am just going to speak directly from my mind, I normally check and double check - I still end up offending everyone but since this is an aspergers forum hopefully you will understand, well I'm sure you will understand. as you may of guessed I am someone who has this, I guess "thing" I know some people act like it is a kind of blessing or that it has positives and for me in some aspects it does, I can remember everything anyone has ever said to me - that's more of a curse really when I get low those things people have said that were bad tend to haunt me. I think what has bothered me mostly is the way I appear to people, I always look miserable and I always sound miserable even if I am not so of course people just don't want to be around me often. I can't stop myself from telling people things, if they ask me how I am, I will tell them untill they say "oh. look at the time" I always feel bad because I'm always alone and I'm always alone because I can't shut up, and if it's not that I will bore everyone to death showing them my music or telling them about a new circuit I am making. one of the worst things for me and this is going to sound trivial and I have been through things which subjectively are worse, but this feels worse, about 10 years ago I was in love, it was intense from euphoria to hell never an in between, I remember one time I went into something like a rage, it wasn't a rage but it could of been seen that way, and let me just make sure anyone reading this is aware, I have never and I would never EVER hit a girlfriend, anyway when she left the room after some argument most probably my fault I punched the wall and fell into the corner crying and I thought I was going mental. anyway eventually being a teenaged relationship it ended, well she ended it and to this day I have never gotten over it, alot of the time it will be somewhere else in my head but it will get triggered and I just get everything I felt on that day back as if it had just happened. I don't think it is because I still love her maybe more because I feel like a piece of me is gone and even with relationships since I never got that feeling that I had with her. anyway. Hello my name is Paul.
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