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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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    Glasgow Uk & Alicante Spain
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    Pola NT & Dobie AS
    Permanent Gay Relationship .
    We enjoy music, films, travel, food, enjoying life ^^
    Share our home with 2 mad doggies KANE : English Bull terrier and MARTHA Spanish Husky X
    Aspergers isn't a disorder it's an UPGRADE!!
    Neurotypical people are all the same!!
    TWITTER : WhiteBearPOLA add me!!

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  1. Coming home on Friday

    <'> >< Firstly glad to hear your son is FINALLY coming home to you and no doubt YOU both will be looking forward to seeing each other again. It seems you feel negative regarding his mental health assessment, I dont know what specifically they were assessing him for? But having under taken over twenty years of mental assessments on a variety of people ( my background in psychiatry and learning disabilities), I have never in my life told any parent or carer that the person they love or care for will have negative behaviour forever. If it would benefit you, then please let me know (message my inbox) and we can look through the assessment together and you can have the benefit of a professional in this field have a second opinion for you. Mental health assessments should undertake the 'holistic approach' ensuring that every aspec of your sons health is examined and why factors are affecting his mood, behaviour etc... Let me know if I can help POLA ( psychiatric and learning disability nurse for 20 years and living with my partner with Aspergers)
  2. Bad News...

    [ <'> Sorry to hear your news...sending you cuddles and hugs xx
  3. Information required please asap

    sometime i just feel like this??
  4. Autism and Sensitivity in Ghosts

    fantastic news paul..spirit orbs are fantastic to see, small bundles of psychic energy..as someone genuinely interested in all psychic activity its great to hear of others experience. Being sensitive often helps attract them
  5. Information required please asap

    Hello Friends!! Apologies for what must seem like ages in writing and sending in my inputs. Hope everyone is well. Me I've been busy with my partner Dobie. Fighting the Department of Work and Pensions, Fighting with Social Services, Writing to Chief Executives of varius health and social departments. Why?? Because unlike me, as a genuine caring psychiatric nurse, THEY CANNOT BE BOTHERED TO DO THEIR WORK FOR MY PARTNER. :wallbash: Hence they have angered me that much that I The Great White Pola Bear have unleashed hell fury upon them... Still waiting for a social worker to carry out a care assessment, still waiting for psychotherapy services, STILL being REFUSED ACCESS TO COLIR PROJECT a SOUTH LANARKSHIRE COUNCIL FUNDED ROUTES TO WORK COURSE FOR PERSONS WITH ASPERGERS?? :angry: Oh the joys of trying to get help in britain for a person with aspergers??? ( GOSH DOES THAT SOUND FAMILIAR TO ANYONE OUT THERE). Even trying to the DEA (Disability Employment Advisor Hamilton JobCentre) to get off her backside and refer my partner Dobie to REMPLOY where they ACTUALLY WILL EMPLOY HIM.. Hell its easier moving a mountain!!!! One whole year of no help or assistance. ONE WHOLE YEAR OF NOTHING!!! (If in my own nursing career I were to do the same, I would be SACKED so why the hell arent they??) :angry: Of course trying to quit smoking has been disaster aswell with all the letters i have to write??? ANYONE OUT THERE JUST FOR A HUG OR SMILE..... LOVE AS ALWAYS pola AKA Chris the extreme hard working psychiatric and learning disability nurse who works 80 hours per week without support for partner.xxx
  6. Still breathing and very much alive!!!!busy with work etc....

  7. very sad newsx

    Love, light and rainbows sent to you both <3 <'> >< in our thoughts and special prayers xx
  8. Hi people

    <'> Hi James
  9. Autism and repetitive music

    <'> Dobie my partner only prefers Heavy Metal Music ( me being a GAGA fan myself). Everyday we have metal and rock music played in our home, in our car etc... When asked to change and listen to alternative music, Dobie has meltdown!! So we have agreed to play the metal music at certain times of the day only ( .i.e. when i'm asleep in bed during my nightshift and when I'm at work). Interesting theory though, I suppose all of us can 'repetitive behaviour', including us NT's ( i have to follow the same routine every am and dont like to change it and I'm NT I think!!!) POLA
  10. Think I'll be around a while, so better say hi :)

    <'> Better say hi back!!
  11. For those of a 'certain age'

    This really has got me thinking into what 1980's programmes were available... so here's my list of what I remember POLA A • The Adventure Game • The Adventures of the Galaxy Rangers • Animal Magic • Art Attack B • The Bad News Bears • Bananaman • The Beachcombers • Bertha • Blockbusters • Blue Peter • Bod • The Book Tower • Bozo the Clown • Bravestarr • Button Moon C • Captain Caveman • Captain Kangaroo • Care Bears • Cheggers Plays Pop • The Chronicles of Narnia • Count Duckula • Crackerjack D • Danger Mouse • DEF II • Degrassi High • Degrassi Junior High • Doctor Snuggles • Dogtanian & the Three Muskethounds • Dungeons & Dragons E • Educating Marmalade F • The Famous Five • Finger Mouse • Fraggle Rock G • Going Live! • Grange Hill H • Hanna Barbera Cartoons • Heckle & Jeckle I • Inspector Gadget J • Jackanory • Jem & The Holograms • The Jetsons • Jigsaw • Jim'll Fix It K • Kids of Degrassi Street • King Rollo • Knight Rider L • The Littlest Hobo • Look & Read M • M.A.S.K • Magpie • Metal Mickey • Monkey • Mr Merlin • The Moomins • Multi-Coloured Swap Shop • Muppet Babies N • Newsround • No. 73 • Noggin The Nog • Noozles O • No Shows Listed P • Paddington • Pee Wee's Playhouse • The Pink Panther Show • Pinwheel • Pipkins • Play Away • Play School • Postman Pat Q • No Shows Listed R • The Raggy Dolls • Rainbow • Rainbow Brite • Razzamatazz • Rentaghost • Romper Room S • Saturday Superstore • Screen Test • Secret Diary of Adrian Mole Aged 13¾ • Sesame Street • She-Ra • Simon Townsend's Wonder World • The Smurfs • The Snowman • The Sooty Show • Strawberry Shortcake • The Storyteller • Supergran • Super Mario Brothers T • Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles • Terrahawks • ThunderCats • Thomas the Tank Engine & Friends • Transformers • The Tripods • Tucker's Luck U • No Shows Listed V • No Shows Listed W • Why Don't You? • The Wind in the Willows • The Wonder Years • Worzel Gummidge • Worzel Gummidge Down Under XYZ • Your Mother Wouldn't Like It • Zoobilee Zoo • Zoom
  12. My son has been waiting for 3 weeks and he is urgent! we did request a referral from our GP to go to a private CAHMS that specialise in Autism but it required a Social workers referral and she has refused. It makes me mad why social workers wont do the job they paid ALOT of money to do!!! Our Social worker is a nightmare, not responding etc, and even waiting for a Community Care Assessment is taking an eternity. I could have done a full report myself in 1 day!!!
  13. <'> Having trained and worked as a Learning Disability Nurse and Psychiatric Nurse, it does depend upon what catchment health area you in live in. It used to be a case of either side passing the AS person to each team. However, please note ONLY Learning Disability Nurses ( RNMH or RNLD ) are actually trained in the Autistic Areas. Psychiatric Nurses are not trained in that specific diagnosis!! My experience has shown that Autism and AS generally comes falls under the Learning Disability Nursing Team. As during my career, I came into contact with autism and AS then, than did my psychiatric nurse colleagues!! <'> POLA xx
  14. Do you hate having AS?

    Well I have two degrees ( Cambridge University) 1 degree Alicante University. And believe me I would definitely go and work in Asda. We have friends there and they get better benefits than me working alot of hours per week. I've done a alot of jobs in my life, and the best ones have been with what we call 'the workers', how I miss huddled up with mugs of tea and having a quick ciggy with 'the gals'!! Life was easier and happier then ....( Pola goes off to happily reminisce).... Seriously, employers should recognise the potential of everyone who applies for work, unfortunately they dont, even with Discrimination Laws etc in place. Dobie has been unable to get any employment within the last 9 months, and thats with me putting out CV's etc for any job. AS and NT all live in a world which is constantly changing both economically and financially, the days of anyone getting a secure job, whether you have degrees or gcses or even CSE's and 16 plus ( I'm showing my age)is now becoming limited. Be grateful you have a job, and be grateful you get any government benefit ( I pay over 1,000 in tax per month and Dobie my partner can't any unemployment benefit)GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! Makes my fur stand on end!! Thanks for reading my posting xx POLA

    :notworthy: :notworthy: thank you