lisa35

[ haha fab brill impersanations-especially Little Britain..im a lady...... tells me he loves me constantly wont wear a coat sits with fleece blanket round him (but bare top half) no labels in clothes has to kiss all animals before he goes to bed(three cats, one dog, one african land snail-----doesnt kiss Speedy! likes to read Daily Mail is OBSESSED by aeroplanes-------on you tube---tv....flight simulator-its is first thing he mentions as soon as eyes open , and last at night!!!!!!!!!!!!ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

was just sat pondering, I take so much that my son does as not unusual, so wonder what "quirks" do your kids have, here are some of my sons; Will not tuck shirt into trousers-says its "pervey" having his hands down trousers!! will only drink out of one glass (its blue|) so he knows hes only one thats using it- has a germs thing going on! Will not drink from any one elses bottle/glass like a magpie- pocket always full of rubber bands/stones/scrap! used to collect the price rings from clothes hangers in shops... will NOT clean teeth without ww3

dont mean to be negative, but who/where did you have the test done? ive read alot of negative stuff about herbal places doing thses tests x hope school stuff ging a bit better Lisa X

i agree Cat, we had similar, with our 13 year old, we re currently awaiting placement in asd unit in mainstream, he really finds impossible to cope, the sanctions can work though if its not just major school issues, our son is no problem when its none school day, also , it helped, setting his alarm and giving him ten-fifteen minutes reading time our kids seem to have problems with transition, ie sleep to awake, i know mine does Lisa

just looking for advice, my son is 13 with aspergers, we only have him, so wondering what age would you expect a child to go and bathe/ shower independantly We end up sat in the bath room with him, still have to run his bath, and tell him to wash a every bit of himself What age do kids without asds do this sort of thing without all the kerfuffle we have nightly!? Ive tried a visual sheet, but hes a bit old for it, any tips? Thanks!

hi, they re fab,my son is 13 and loves photos He seems to see things in a different context to most, in fact on our holiday he took some brilliant photos of different fruits piles up ina shop! Lisa

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Js mum, we separated at birth me thinks! so may things the same its hard at times, no head speace, feel like even my thoughts not my own! he cant understand why I dont want to watch his flight simulator on the pc allllll day! even when we say say shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.....he says..............yes but.......just look!!!!!!! xxxx

our almost 13 yr old demands our attention, and it feels like allllll the time. ,mum look at this, mum watch this, he has no idea that we re not interested in what ever his latest obsession is, and its exhausting!! Does any one have any ideas how we reduce/ this, i KNOW HE LL NEVER STOP! Cant even go for a pee without um, where are you!!!! Also even if we re in bed , he s calling for u hug, etc, its not bad for him- school hols- so can stay up late-but we re still both working! s xxxxAny tips?

my son this too, the noises tend to vary-although at one time when he was very stressed we did have episodes of chicken sqwawks!! Lisa

huge problem for us, have tried everything at mo we re using a baby toothbrush(bristles) are softer and sensodyne enamel toothpaste, we ve tried everything- from musical brushes, to mouthwashes, egg timers its the taste of paste, and bristles Lisa xx

thanks all x

thanks all, we re all much calmer today, school want us to go in again on thurs, for a meeting with autism outreach9shes v good) Ive said I dont think I can, not cos I dont care, but cos his dad and I hanging onto our jobs by skin of teeth! Shes going in anyway, and hopefully panel will have meeting thurs re statement She gave me cryptic clue that they may agree to the dsp place, I so hope so, I feel so disheartened, we really need a break xxx chin up t us all xxxx

just wondering, we should hear very soon if lea will issue statement, hoping to get designated specialist provision, but have heard are no places all professionals supporting us-ed pysch, school, autism outreach,etc,etc, so if they assess, and I presume this costs a lot of dosh, how likely is statement? Our son has had 5 exclusions soince april, sats have dropped, is off timetable, and having lessons in senco room cos he cant cope, he has 1/1 all lessons Thanks

thanks all, feel better Js mum- Im ringing in sick tomorrow, I just said to son we re going to run off for the day, Enid, I know what you mean, other day he said to me itd be better if you were dead, yet hes sat downstairs watching WallE-the film, and like a little lost boy x

inclusion is a joke, even our autism outreach said our son will never cope in %100 mainstream, so what happens to kids like ours!? Hes bright, doesnt need ebd, or special school, there are only 12 specialist autism places in 2 schools in our area, one school is masquareding as autism speciality too, we went to look, and i found out thro certain sources that this one doesnt even use speech and language services, despite this being identifiedin the autism plan It sucks, it really does x

and, we couldnt get autism support input UNTIL we got diagnosis, now thers food for thought, they dont make that clear- all very political xx

not really looking for answers, just need to off load Ive just flipped big time and said some awful stuff to my 12 yr old son, he has aspergers I dont feel Ive got anything left to give him , or our fight. Hes on fifth exclusion since april, we should hear in the next week or so if LEA will give a statement, we want him moving to a school with an autism base- the one we want we would need lea to fund travel, its about 2o miles away. At school at mo he has ful ltime 1;1, is in hardly any lessons, he has no ofriends, well, maybe 1 at school All weekend, every weekend, its just our son, me and his dad, we are wrung out Cos of school situation he is more and more demading, has noone to play with, so we are everything to him, friend, parent,etc He s awake until midnight, and shouting us whenever we re not in the room with him Why do I resent him so much, hubby having to lie at work and take sickies this week because son is off again, this time he was only back one day before he was excluded again. He wasnt allowed on end of term day trip, or school trip to Germany Since Jan we have 22 meetings , ot, salt, camhs, school, list is endless. we only just got diagnosis in april ,after demading 2nd opinion I feel so lost, we fit in nowhere, we took him to local autism group, all the kids there so much less higher functioning, but he liked it, maybe it s cos they didnt judge and he could relax, but then I feel bad for judging the ability of the other kids and thinking at least my lad isnt that bad My heads a mess, dont even tell people any more hes been excluded, I think Ive just answeerd my own questions, he needs us, more now than ever, if we give up he has noone Does anyone else feel like this, especially parents with kids with aspergers.Hes not obviously "disabled" but his social/communication ability is so scewed and hes almost like some one with schizophrenia, he totally misreads people. comments,etc If lea dont give us the placement I really dont know what we will do xx

Hi Julie, why on earth are you having to pay for private assessments? Does yourdd have a diagnosis? This whole system sucks, Im fed up x

just wondering if any one can help, we re waiting any day now to hear if LEA will issue statement, we also want our son to go to a particular school as it has a specialist unit attached, ive found out there are no places at either of the two local schools with this provision, so even if lea agree to statement, there is no place at this school. The other is rubbish, but doesnt have a place either. So, either way we re gonna end up appealing, I feel like we ve been given a taste for something that could be so good, then had it cruelly taken away ASorry if I sound defeatist, just son is on 4th exclusion since April, we are struggling so much, in fact Im having to take him into work with me, At school he is currenlty out of majority of lessons, and having them in senco room, he also has 1;1 in every lesson, but from teaching support With greatest respect a ta is not the same as having the specialist teacher for each subjectofIm so so tired, feel like at bottom of mountain! Has any one appealed against LEA, and how successful was it? Ive heard of a site that gives info about different LEASs, and the appeals theyve dealt with, and the results? Thanks! Lisa

hope things are better tonight I managed calmness-usually Id have him by scruff of neck too! what set it off? I said just geta wash, then I changed my mind, and thought he was bit pongy, so said , have a bath consequence- threw cat food all over, ran u p the stairs, right at me, thought would hit me, but didnt, his dad stayed mega calm, sent him to bed for half hour but best thing, he tried the old " im sorry, i love you,then in next breath, am i stll banned from lap top!!!!! ajhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh so i said yes, so, off he goes again! I know i shouldnt ve changed the plan, but hey, outcome wouldve been a stinky 12 year old, they cannot always use meltdowns to control situations I know that most of time its stress that causes them, but sometimes we just got to ride the storm! sorry if rambled but its been 2 hours are strops tonight lisa xxx

me too!

my son is 13 next , Ill ask him to post tomorrow

[ Thanks for the reply, I am going to take him somewhere 9Flamingo land sucks anyway! ) Im also going to let him have the money we get back to buy some lego( which he ll love!) He is so much "nicer" than most people, if that makes sense, has such wonderful attitude, no hate in him, is non judgemental, so compassionate (sounds ironinic I know when diagnosed aspergers/autism) He s a better person than any adult I know, the eternal good samaritan! x

Im going to show my son that He also takes similar pics, and sees beauty where others dont He also loves symmetry! Lisa