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I haven't gone for a diagnoses, but I do have Aspergers (hope that makes sense). I just wondered if people find they have periods where they can cope better than other periods. Last night I was coming back on the bus and I was soaking wet so I rang my husband to ask if his dad could come and get me, and he said his dad was out so he would walk down to meet me. When I got off the bus, he wasn't there so I rang him. He said him and his dad were on their way to pick me up. I got angry because the plans had changed and he hadn't let me know, and he didn't understand why I was feeling that way. That is what we call my Aspie moments. Problem is, they seem to be coming in a lot at the moment. He says he can cope with my obsessions I get and all that, but it's the other little things he has trouble with. Do you find you have these weird moments?

I've just realised that the ability to bend my tow back isn't normal. I always knew my elbows being twisted was unusual and that I have 'knocked knees' as my parents called them, but didn't realise I shouldn't be able to bend my toes back. The really strange thing is that I am not at all flexible with my fingers. Only the rest of my body.

Hi Jollypig. I do a lot of work with teenagers, and I also have aspergers myself so I hope I can be of some help. Scientifically, a teenagers brain works very differently from adults, and that's something I think people forget about a lot. Even a non aspergers teenager will behave in a way that is viewed as a very negative light by adults. I am sure you realise this, but it's still helpful to hear I think, that something we consider to be a small thing is actually something very big to a teenager, especially one with Aspergers. So it isn't your fault that she is reacting like this, and you are not doing anything wrong. It's a very hard place to be (I have been helping a family going through something very similar). On the one hand you need to give her her space as she develops into an adult, but on the other hand give her too much space and she will think you don't care. You could talk to her form teacher at school about how she is getting on there. Also, if you think it this way, when she is shouting at you, it means she isn't shouting at others. All I can suggest is that you come on here to express your concerns and to rant, and to know there will be an end in site. I am guessing by your signature that she is 13. School year 9 (in the UK) or rather ages 13-14 are notoriously very hard years. I'm not saying that older teens or younger teens will give you no trouble, but that particular age group has always been associated with the issues you have listed above.

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I had totally forgotten about that. My legend lives on lol. Well, I created a different email address so I've not been receiving notifications.

I keep hearing the Aspergers people have issues with romance apparently, but I have heard so many success stories. One of them is my own. I got married 2 months ago after being with my now husband for 4 years. I have aspergers, and while he does sometimes get frustrated with things about me he can't understand, on the whole he is very supportive. I know he must be hard on him sometimes. But then relationships are hard for normal people too. I remember once when talking to a friend, I told her I was appreciated her being my friend dispute aspects of my personality, and she is she is my friend BECAUSE of those aspects. Really made me look at myself differently. Anyone else got nice upbeat stories about success in love.

Can't remember when I was here before, but I am back. Er, news. Well, I have recently got married. I still work in schools but I'm not wanting to be a teacher. The kids I can handle, but the other staff, no way. I am working towards my first feature film with my best friend. So, yeah, hi again everyone.

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I have been told 'You don't have aspergers, you are too intelligent.'

Hi. I was on here about 2 years ago. I have now returned.

Hi. I am training to be a primary school teacher (although I really want to be a writer and filmaker) Anyway, my question is, with a diagnoses of Asperges or High Functioning Autism, will that mean I wont get a job. When I apply, whether it be a career job or just a part time one to keep me going, do I tell them I am autistic?

Everyone is here to supposrt one another, so I think you are very welcome, and I promise not to get offended by anything you say if you promise not to get offended by anything I say (LOL). I have High Functioning Autism so I always say dumb things that seem to get me in a lot of trouble, but everyine here is so supportive and understanding. I think you should stick it out on this site, and just ignore any childish people that may come on. xxx God Bless

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Hey I am 22 and spent most of my school life being bullied. I still have scars on my hands and arms and they used to do things like bog wash me and rip my bags and hit me and spit food at me. My head of year was indifferent to it too, and one day I lost my temper and hit the bullies. Obviously they just hurt me even more, but some how I got detention for it. The school was really against me too, choosing to ignore the bullying, rather than doing something about it. But when my dad found out about it he went straight to the head and then even heigher to the governers. He also had a go about some of the teachers, one teacher who watched as a girl flicked bits of paper and rubber at me, and the teacher did nothing because she didn't think it was worth the hassle. However, not all schools are that bad. Can she be moved to another school, or maybe home schooling. Does she want this? Have you suggested it to see her response. Does your daughter have High Functioning Autism too, and does the school know about this? And by the school, I mean every teacher. As for what the school was going on about low confidence, well, rubbish. Some people will join the bullies due to low confidence, true, becauyse they don't want to be bullied themselves. But more often than not, it is over confidence that makes the ring leader start. They feel they need to pick on others to make themselves feel good and because they enjoy it, becasue they are sick twisted individuals. If you have any questions, you can private talk me. Oh and please let me know the outcome. I am praying for you both.

I dislike scientology. I am open to most things, but ifyou look into how they are treated (the real members, not the famous ones) and also look into how they treat their women, well youwill not like it either.

Hey. I cannot be on here late at night (sob) because we don't have access to the interent, so I will keep missing you Haily. Though I do end up staying up late because of my annoying family having the TV on all night Grrrrrrrrr. I can never get a dreamless sleep.

As I know most of you on here are parents of people with aspergers, this doesn't really apply to you, but you might like to read it anyway. Okay. I always thought that my friends just put up with me. I always thought they liked me dispite my aspergers. But when i said this to a friend she got all upset. She told me she would hate me to think that. She said that she likes me BECAUSE of my aspergers and she never puts up with me, but enjoys my nature and personality. I asked my family what they think of me, and they said that they did become annoyed with me at times and loos patience but that they wouldn't change me for anyone, because they love me. They love everything about me, including the aspergers. I always thought people put up with it, and loved me dispite it, but it is who I am, and it is because of the aspergers that I have the friends I have. Just to be a confidence boost for those struggling. YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND THAT IS WHAT MAKES YOU GREAT!

were you successful at making your roast dinner? does anyone have any other receipes that I can steal to do some more cooking. It has to be precise directions, such as check every 15 minutes

If your son wants to just talk to someone without the whole world knowing, I will PM you my email address and you or he can email me. I am 22 and went through hell at school. No one understands me, and sometimes I feel that even those with ASD don't understand. I work in a cinema, but the only real reason I have stuck with it is because I was trained how to do everything step by step and have worked there for 3 years so I know the job. I am put on a different area each shift, but even though I never know where I am until I start, I know that this is how it works, so I am okay with it. I want to make films. I have always had that passion. It is an obsession. I would rather be on a film set for 24 hours straight than working in a supermarket for 4. THe problem I have (and probably your son has) is that there are very few jobs I can actually do. I get nervous when being rushed, so working at Mcdonalds was impossible because I was too slow and got too frustrated and I couldn't cope with the noise. Becing a waitress meant I had to remember what food was for who and on what table, and I had to carry lots of things and ballence it all - no co-ordination or memory Supermarkets are too noisy and I can't find anything on shelves. Being a cleaner is impossible because I can't even clean at home. Again I get flustered. I have tried all these jobs and the lasted I have ever lasted on any of these was 3 months (other than the cinema) I have started going to a new church - a baptist church, and I have found the people there very friendly. I have found that I have been welcomed, and they all find my blatent honest behaviour funny. Most people get offended. But then I told them at the begining that I am AS and they are very accepting. One guy in particular let me talk and talk to him. I have really bad day sometimes, where I cannot concentraite and I cant do anything right. Days when I feel useless because I always say something dumb or act unsociably, and I wish I could just be like everyone else, because my friends just don;t get why I hate shopping or clubing and why we have to find a quite pub or why I need to study in a quite room rather than the library because of all the pages turning distracts me. But other days I think, wow. Spielberg is Aspergers. I have an obsession in filming, and I am going to be successful. I know I am because I will keep going until the day I die. And when in agood mood I think to myself that I have a unique gift, and that although I don't get on with most people, the friends I do have accept me, so are likely to be my friends for a very long time. hope this helps and ask me anything you like by the way, I love this forum

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I panicked the whole time about some things cooking and other not. The only thing that wasn't quite right was the yorkshire puds - i will use frozen ones next time. I really enjoyed cooking. I want to cook more.

Okay. This is going to sound a little crasy. I do look at people eyes, but only because I was made to as a kid, so I do it too much. But I don't like it, so I actually look at their eyebrows rather than their eyes. When I was a child I used to think I could see peoples demonds in their eyes. I used to stare at peoples eyes because I was told to, and their face would start to go dark and thier eyes would seem to get bigger and my heart would start pounding and I would try to look away but I couldn't - I felt I was going to be swallowed by those eyes, and then at night I would ahve nightmares about those people turning into demonds and coming to get me. So I look at peoples eyebrows so I don't have to look into their eyes. And no one notices - its great.

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