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My x was very loving and understanding, but he was too touchy. I wanted to be snuggly and cuddly, but I find touching hard.

I was really impressed with myself on Friday night because I went out and bought ingredients to cook a roast dinner and I cooked it. I only had a little help, and that was just in the way of telling me what to do (ie, check on the potatoes every 15 minutes and put the cooker on 6 even though it says 8 on the packet, so it cooks better.) I am really impressed with myself.

I say that I am autistic, but when I tell people they ask me why I can talk ???? its the stereo type I think. I am Aspergers and I have a lot of problems.

When I was a kid and my parents used to go food shoping, I used to sit in the magazine section of Tesco and read Quiz Kids - a kids magazine, which i used to buy. I sat in there the whole time because i hated all the people round my. I hate people round me now - I do my Christmas shopping on line, and I refuse to get on busy public transport. I have a real problem with crowds - which my friends really don't understand. I also get worked up if plans change. If my friends tell me to meet them at one time, then they are late or decide not to come in it really puts me off. If get really angry and frustraited. I have problems at work if I am interupted half way doing a job because it is a sudden change. I know how your kids feel, because I really hate being around people. I get frustraited and nervous, and I just want to hide from people. I have dragged my friends around every pub in our area before, just trying to find a quiet one.

My friends birthday was a couple of days ago, and we went to Smith and Westerns for a meal. It was load and horrid. They ahve beels going off for peoples birthdays every 15 minutes it seems. Well then we went to Chicargos - a night club in our area. The music was deafeningly loud, and there were people everywhere. I felt really uncomfortable and I thought my head was going to expload. I couldn't explain to my friends that the music really hurt my ears, nor could I explain that I don't like too many people - I go for the quite, not so busy areas. I also would like to know if people find relationships hard. I had a boyfriend, and though I loved his attention, I got uncomfortable at the physical attention he was giving me. I don't really like too much physical contact with people. Do others find the same?

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She sounds like me when I was in school Though what I didn't realise was that the govenment wanted me to go to a special school, and my parents fought to keep me in main stream. My first year was a test to see if I could stay in the school - not because I was bad but because of my difficulties accepting change and my struggles with my peers. My head teacher took my under her wing. She promised my parents that she would do all she could to keep me in school. She was amazing, and she seemed to know exactly what I was going through. I was only statemented then. If I got on really well with a particular teacher she did all she could to keep me in his/her class, and when I did my GCSEs I always had the same person in each exam with me - I had a scribe and reader and extra time. If your daughter ever wants someone to talk to who has gone through simular things and has simular interests she can email me. I will PM my email address to you

Can't you guess what I am studying? Filmmaking. It's moving Image, actually, but close enough. I have a habbit of taking on too much at the moment to be honest - I am starting a dramatics society in my neibourhood. I did think of applying at other cinemas, but I don't drive, so it is hard to get back late at night. The only other cinema within walking distance are only looking for voluntary staff. I am sure I will survive at work. My manager had a chat with me today about what can be done with making my work atmosphere easier. She is speaking with the main horrid people, and with the changes that are happening, she is making sure all supervisors are aware that they will need to tell me of any changes at the start of my shift, so I don't get on the till and find there is a new button, or that the prices have all changed, while serving a customer. Though I am looking at Media jobs when I have finished my course. Do I put that I am Aspergers on the application form, or will that put them off?

Thanks. I do tend to over worry a bit sometimes, but I just get so worried about how to say things, and what people will think of me. but you are right. If they don't understand then they are just not very good teachers.

How long does it take to be diagnosed from the moment the GP refers you to see a specialist? And what help is there during the diagnoses procedure. Can I get Disabled Student Grant?

I had a lot of time off before Christmas. I am willing to do all the work to catch up, I have been using my collegues notes and I plan to finish a lot of work while I am on a simester break. Sice coming back I have attended almost every lesson. But they want a doctors note for why I was off so long. I was in hospital for a couple of days due to a chest infection which also interfered with my diabetes (I am diabetic also) but there was more than just that. I was depressed. Still haven't got myself completely out of it, but I am a lot better now. I don't want to tell them that was why I was off. How do I get round this?

Hey everyone. Redberry, what is NT. Sorry, I don't know much about all this. Thanks Kathrine - I looked at the website and I am going to be trying a few more churches in the next few weeks. I have been going to one locally, because I know the vicar from my college union, but it isn't really my kind of church. I feel bad, because he tried very hard to make me feel welcome, by trying to get me involved in helping. I am going to go tomorrow morning and have a chat with him, then I am going to another church in there evening service. I supose that I could do both really, his inthe morning and a more youth orientated church in the evening. Thanks Suz for the compliment. Thank you everyone and thanks in advance to all the help you will hopefully give me.

Hey. I know I shouldn't worry about my work collegues, and some days I really don't care, but then I will have a bad day, and it will all fall apart. The way you described the joke thing, Bullet, that is how it is with me sometimes, where I don't get the funny side. BUt other times it just takes me a while. Looking forward to making some good friends here.

Hopefully your daughter will find it easier when she reaches University age, as she has been diagnosed earlier. She will have more chance to start learning the skills she needs. Does she find it hard in school at the moment?

Hey. Thanks to everyone. Mother Eve, what is HFA? JenRose, I would like to talk to you more. The system is so slow, I am still being diagnosed. I tried to see a counsillor last year, but they don't want to see people it seems. The guy who runs the Christian Union, though, he knows someone who can help, so I am just waiting. I really want to get a new job and get a new start, but though I have got loads of applications, I seem to have difficulty in giving them in. Can I ask, do you have problems with your memory? Do oyu find that you can remember one thing almost perfectly, but another thing is hard - like I can remember almost every line from Harry Potter, but I can't seem to remember to take my library books in on time, or when a hospital appointment is.

Hey. Thanks for replying so quickly. So what are your boys like. Aspergers is more common in boys, isn't it. I am a Christian, and have been since I was a small child, but when I was 16 we moved away from where I lived and I have been trying to find a new church ever since

Hi. My name is Rebekah and I am going through the Diagnoses process. I am 22 years old. I have always been different. In school I was statemented, and I had to see an educational phycologist since I was 5. I recently found out that my parents had a real struggle to keep me in mainstream school. Infact, if I hadn't ahve passed my first year, I would ahve been sent to a special school. I had very few friends in school and I was bullied terribly. I just assumed that the reason I hated being around peers, and my paranod nature was purely because of my experience in school. I have always felt somewhat behind the rest of my peers, even friends. When I am out with my friends I find it hard to have fun. I seem to always be the last to get a joke and I can't keep track of conversations. There is only one friend that I feel completely at ease with, and I have known him since I was 4. I can cope with one to one conversation, particularly if that other person is interested in films. I at currently at University, but I am finding it difficult. I don't feel close to my classmates, and I feel that there is only one teacher I really get on with. I was recently off for a short while because I was depressed, and I don't want them to know that was why I was off, but they want a doctors note. I can't stand change. The company I work for is merging with another company and I can't stand all the changes. I did silly things like, when they changed our badges, I had to wear both badges for about 2 weeks, just to get used to it. Today I walked in just to find out what my hours are this week, and there are about 5 new memos of change in policy. We have stopped selling some products, are now selling others and we have to fill in forms differently. I also don't get along with most of my work mates. They make fun of me behind my back. I haven't told anyone about the Aspergers other than my manager. I get very paranoid in work, and I am really unhappy, but I am afraid to quit because I know how to do the job and so I feel I ca deal with any situation there. I have worked there for 3 years - my longest job. I try so hard to get on with people, but find it near impossible, and even when I do make friends I find that I get paranoid when they are having a joke. I also find that I get very panicky. I get too worried all the time. I am also very clumsy and I also seem to always say the wrong thing. I need to be given step by step instuctions, and I get very restless if I am not entirely sure I am doing the right thing. I need constant reasurance, and that is something one of my teachers is not prepared to give. I think that is why I am finding it difficult at Uni. I have no sense of time, or distance. Oh, and I talk alot, can you tell I seem to annoy people with my talking, when all I am doing is trying to be friendly. I have been told that all I talk about is my interests and first impressions is that I am selfish, even though I am not selfish. I also tell things to people that I shouldn't, like I will tell something to a collegue that I shouldn't tell them. I have a tendancy to trust people too, as in I trust everyone with everything, then I start to realise that I have told them too much and that is when the paranoid thoughts come in, but when i first meet people I am too trusting. Well, if you managed to get to the end of this, you have more patence than I do. I would really like to get advise and a friendly ear from someone who understands where I am coming from, because the only person I know who also has aspergers is in a deep depression, so I can't go crying to him. THanks for reading.

My name is Rebekah and I am 22. It has been recently discovered that I have Aspergers. I have always had trouble socialising with my own age group, and I have been having terrible trouble where I work. I am obsessed with Films, and I want to be a filmmaker. My main obsession is Steven Spielberg - I can tell a Spielberg film within the first 15 minutes simply by the style of the film. I just wondered if there was any other females out there who has simular expereinces and if you get as paraniod as I do when in big groups of peers.