tam mc

hi sally, we have a prescat appointment in a couple of weeks and we will bring up your points then. nobody actually said it was delayed speech it may well be a speech disorder, that's just what i called it. we haven't seen SALT since our last prescott appointment 2 1/2 months ago and the last couple of times we did see her she just got us to watch some videos. i don't feel that she has helped us at all so far. we are really don't know much about all this at all so we just assume that they know whats best and take there advice, that's why i joined this forum to get some other advice to try and make sure we and they are doing the right thing. thanks sally

hi Mel, this is what we have been doing but it is very hard as he is very determined and you can see him getting more worked up. for someone who doesn't understand words he certainly understands NO as soon as he hears this that will send him off. sometimes you are not even talking to him, it could be the dog but as soon as he hears the word NO he will let out a moan and sometimes get angry straight away. we try to stay firm with him but as i have said it is hard sometimes, but i agree it is what we need to do as we are scared he will bite another child in nursery.thanks for your reply, tam

yes that seems to be the case with my son, it seems like you are making no progress then he does something really good. he is really affectionate and happy most of the time but just lately his moods are really bad and we are seeing more tantrums which lead to him nipping and biting and this can last an hour, it can be very draining. we know that this may be down to him being frustrated that he cant communicate what he wants. he has also started nipping at nursery when he doesnt get what he wants and this is worrying for us. if he doesnt get what he wants or we dont know what he wants he gets himself really worked up and its a tantrum (tears, nipping and biting) and we are not sure how best to deal with it as we dont just want to give in to him just to keep the peace. thanks for your reply sally

hi sally, thanks for that it has given us some ideas. hes 3 next month and we have got him a thomas the tank engine box set because we heard that would be good. we are feeling a lot more possitive thanks to all the great replies. so proud about the jigsaw. thanks sally

thanks selsey, we will be patient and try not to worry about it, hes a happy wee boy who done his 1st jigsaw on his own today(8 pieces). he usuaiiy likes to watch us do it for him. we are so happy. thanks selsey

hi lisakaz, 623 is the same channel and his favourite is Oliver, we just felt that he should be moving on to older stuff but this is what he likes so we just let him watch it. hopefully he is taking it all in. thanks for your reply.tam

hi sally, we will speak to SALT about pictures and signing. the only things he will watch on TV is the baby TV channel on sky which is not suitable because there isn't a lot of words spoken, and formula 1 motor racing, he will get very close to the TV and very exited. he likes to watch you play and its hard to get him to take part, for instance he will give you his pens and paper for you to draw and he loves watching you and will get exited. we are trying to put the pens in his hands for him to do it and sometimes he will but not for long and he will give you the pens back.thanks for your reply tam

thanks very much for your reply, it is very encourageing. we will definatley use pictures or photographs. i do know that he is taking things in for example he loves doing jigsaws, that means he loves watching you do them for him, but just recently he has started picking up the right pieces for you to put in for him, i pretend that i am stuck and he will find the right piece for me. i cant tell you how good this made us feel as we thought he just liked us doing them and that was it. thanks very much lynne for taking the time to reply, tam

thanks lynne and selsey for your replies, we will try to keep positive and focus on communicating rather than getting preoccupied with trying to get him talking. he communicates now by taking you to the thing that he wants or giving you his juice cup for a drink or giving you a toy to play with him with. he is not ready for sign yet but we will introduce pictures as this sounds really good. we are new to all this but we are trying to find out as much as possible to try and bring our son on. thanks again for your replies. tam

it was just a general hearing test i think, which he passed.

hi coolblue, he had his hearing checked a couple of months ago and they said it was fine.

hi lisakaz, hes been seeing the speach therapist since last july but doesnt seem to be making any progress. he mostly says mmmm a lot.

hi everyone, my 3 year old son doesnt have any words yet and we are told that this is common in autistic children. when do most autistic children talk? i know autism affects everyone differently, just really worried!

hello im from argyll and new to all this.