helenmorbey

Yes i know that feeling too, i always remembered my little one as a very easy baby who didnt babble or speak untill 3 years, however reading her "red book" i realised well yes she did speak, ok only 3 words by age 1 but by age 14 months or so had "lost" the words. Also hubby said something the other day, i was working so he took the girls to a wacky warehouse with his friend and his 2 kids,our little ones are roughly the same age and hubby mentioned that his mates little girl who is also 4 but seemed "streets ahead" with conversation and just in general, i think untill there is someone to compare with you just accept it and it hits you every so often, Helen x

My little girl has got very attached to her nursery teacher, i showed her a picture inside the school of her new reception teacher and she said "well i dont like her hair", she actually looks at strangers with disgust! Helen x

My little one goes to nursery quite agitated depending what the current teaching is, goes in a little angel, is an angel all through (so much so they laugh at the thought of ASD), comes home and ....... Swears, screams if someone looks at her, stomps off upstairs to chill out with a video, i must video it one day to take to nursery lol, Helen xx

Hi there, just thought id say hello , im just starting on the same path as you (oh the joys), you are not alone and this site has been a godsend to me as it will be to you im sure, Helen x

Ive had this aswell! We saw the paediatrician last february and he spoke to me for ages about ASD so i came out fairly positive thinking "ok now we know we will deal with it", guess what the letter arrived about the consultation and at the top in big letters it said " DIAGNOSIS ... SPEECH DELAY !!!! I couldnt believe it! However were seeing him again in july and he did say he would refer her on for further testing if necessary! Hang on in there, Helen xx

I meant to add a new topic to part of my last post but added it onto the replies of my previous post "is this usual", can anyone comment on the "becoming more autistic" bit please, Helen xx

Thanks everyone, it seems her behavior is fairly normal then (whatever that is), i forgot to say she also counts syllables! She will say "i love you one hundred" while saying it she kind of counts it breaking the one hundred bit down and saying it slowly while counting on her fingers. Also a recent thing is lining her cars up, now she didnt do that untill about a week ago! She dosent exactly play with them just lines them up and knows if one has been moved! However plays quite "normally" with other toys, she will be 5 in september and i didnt imagine she would become more "autistic" with age, does this happen? Helen xx

My little girl will be 5 in september, were still waiting to see if she has ASD (back to the paediatricians in july), ive noticed shes always counting things! Toys, sweets, people anything really! Today i took her to nursery and it was very windy (which she hates) and she had a ponytail, all the way to nursery she held her ponytail saying the wind will blow it off, she was really unhappy untill i took it out then she was unhappy as the wind was blowing her hair , i tried to tell her the wind wont blow off ponytails but she refuses to believe me. Shes having terrible squabbles with her older sister who is 9 and they are literally because shes (older one) looking at the little one, she shouts dont look at me, followed by crying/screaming and if the older one opens her mouth even it kicks off again. Is it all usual? Helen x

Yes weve had the same problem, when my little one gets out of bed she looks like a wild woman! Ive found johnsons detangler (in a yellow spray bottle) the best, oh and i plonk her on a chair right infront of cbeebies! Helen x

Ive found my parents fantastic and just treat my daughter as they do the others which is great. My mother in law is a different story, she feels i should get stricter! If my little one dosent eat give her meal again at tea time etc !!! Ive told her if i dont give my daughter something she likes she will literally starve herself! Basically i think she feels most of the behavior is my fault (not her precious sons by the way) Helen x

My little girl is four and a half and has (probable) ASD, her food intake is terrible! She mainly lives on yogurts, occasionally will eat dry bread, chocolate custard,potato with gravy, thats it. Should i bother trying to see a dietician or are they just someone else to fob me off? How do i get a referal? We recently went abroad and she only ate ice cream, then one day the ice cream tubs in the hotel were in a different order and she even refused ice cream then! Any suggestions Helen x

<'> <'> <'> hi there, im new to this forum so havent read your previous posts, ive found this site wonderful during this "unknown" time. I hope you hang around, take care Helen xx

Im no good on the subject of boys as ive got 3 girls! However i would say the right time to stop is when you want to! 7 (to me) is still really young, my nephew is 12 and still pops into his moms bed occasionally(not to sleep just for an hour or so). My little one is 4 and i cant get her out of our bed at all !! Its lovely to have that special time with your boy, make the most of it, Helen xx

My 4 year old has (probable ) ASD and dosent like going out that much, she hates the wind, car noises on a busy road and always wants picking up. I put a photo key ring on her trousers when she started nursery, she is obsessed with me and rarely lets dad do things for her aswell. One good tip our OT gave us (we havent seen her in 6 months now) was on a trip to the shops put on a rucksack type bag with some weight in it, she says it literally keeps their feet on the ground! Now great theory but when i have to pick her up it cripples me lol , Helen xx

My little girl is now 4 years 7 months old and although ASD has been mentioned weve got no official diagnosis. Youve all been great answering my questions, can you help me again? Cerys seems to moan an awful lot ! Most of it is aimed at her sister (who is 9), now my middle girl can be a wind up merchant but most days she only has to open her mouth and cerys cries/moans constantly! She moans to be picked up all the time when out, weve just returned from Tenerife and she was SO uneasy it was untrue, she hated walking, didnt eat hardly, only ice cream (very small portions), the odd bit of dry bread and half an apple in a week. The day before we left the restaurant changed the order the 4 different ice creams were in and as i took her up she said "NO, that goes there, that there etc then she refused any ice cream again! The good thing was hubby witnessed it and was shocked ! I adore my girl so much but all the moaning gets me down some days. Any suggestions? Helen xxx

Cerys is 4 and a half and wants to be either a dog a cat or a man! Helen x

Thanks for youre stories! You all certainly made me smile! If only we had got ESP i could filter all my mother in law thoughts to her and she could say them !!! It seems at nursery (well according to the teacher) she "plays" with the other kids, however when i take her to parties she will have next to nothing to do with them! The kids come up to her and ask her to play to which she replies "no i dont want to", the thing that bothers me is these kids will soon get fed up of asking her and as she starts reception in september ive got images of her totally alone in the playground. Ive got a good friend with a daughter only 2 months younger than mine, we see each other every couple of weeks, occasionally she will play with the little girl (usually if her sisters are with her), then suddenly she will "switch off" before my eyes and totally ignore her! My friend has just had a baby, he is 6 weeks old and i was giving him a cuddle, my daughter said "now put it down and wash your hands", id love to know what she thinks sometimes, thanks all Helen x

Just a question, do children with ASD always speak so honestly!! Yesterday coming out of nursery a little boys mom asked me if her lad could come to our house to play with my daughter (he adores her and she tolerates him), the mom asked my daughter if she would like that to which she said "NO", so i said "oh that would be fun", to which she said "no i dont want him to come". The mom dosent know about the probable ASD, should i mention it to her before the whole nursery hears how rude my daughter is? In shops she makes her feelings known too, the other day in a very loud voice she said that a guide dog shouldnt be in the shop "because he stinks" !!! I dread anyone walking towards us with a weight problem or funny walk or anything!!! Helen x

My little girl is 4 and a half and at a school nursery. She has (probably) ASD although the nursery dont believe it (i posted before about that). The day before yesterday she went into nursery no problem, but came out in the foulest of moods! She demanded i carry her out of the school grounds and when i asked her about her afternoon she hit me!! I put her down and said i dont carry girls that do that, then she stood in the playground and cried, i picked her back up and later that evening she said the teacher had moved her favourite activity and was going to put a new activity there, she also mentioned something about the teacher getting them to make more friends. Yesterday i was expecting trouble getting her to nursery but she was fine and came out quite pleasant!! So how should i deal with her should she hit again, i really dont want to do the wrong thing, she also fell in nursery yesterday and scraped her arm but didnt tell anyone because she was "shy" i presume she means embarrased? Is that usual? Helen x

Hello, im new to all this but if you read my post further down you will see that my little girl is the same, i wish nursery could be "flies on the wall" here at home, boy theyd get a shock! Helen x

Thank you all very much for your comments, can you all move into my road please! Helen xx

Hi all, ive posted before about my 4 and a half year old daughter. She had a review with a paediatrician a few weeks ago who spent ages telling me about ASD and how he felt she had it, then i get the follow up letter saying its been thought she had ASD in the past and been rejected so he felt a wait and see approach is best! Anyway just a couple of things i dont know how to handle is welcome suggestions. She is always throwing things (mostly at her dad), remote controls, hairbrushes etc., she also keeps shouting p*** off (thanks to older sis), she barely eats (at the mo only eats yogurts), at easter were going on holiday abroad and i know she wont eat anything (she didnt last year and came home thinner), nursery laugh at the suggestion of ASD as shes a delight at nursery and even interacts quite well with other kids now! I mentioned her eating to the teacher and she said oh ignore it. Theres parents evening in a couple of days and im sending hubby as im so fed up with their attitudes! Another thing is it quite common for kids with ASD to sweat at night? She sleeps without covers on then wakes freezing, any covers and she sweats. She cries if her sisters tease her (even in its mildest form), any advice Helen x Oh and she also picks! Wallpaper seams and mostly her lips which i keep trying to smooth with vaseline!

Ive not long joined this forum, my little girl is four and a half and to be honest ive always felt she was on the "spectrum", 14th feb she had a review with the paediatrician, (in the past weve been told she has sensory integration dysfunction), finally the paediatrician said he felt she had ASD and explained it to me really well, i came out feeling positive and yet some sadness, but at least i felt we had made a step forward.......untill today! The letter came from him which will be sent to various people and it said "there are a list of concerns regarding cerys,which in a nutshell boil down to some social communication difficulties, some word finding difficulties and anxieties regarding changes of routine,the question of ASD therefore did come to the fore, but of course this has been conssidered in the past and rejected, i feel therefore a wait and see approach is best" AAAAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH! should i agree to wait and see or what? thanks Helen xx

Just a quick update, ive taken my daughter to nursery (attached to school) and told them that the paediatrician says my daughter has ASD, the teachers reply " oh theres no way i dont believe that", i stood there feeling a right idiot! Helen x

Ok ive picked your brains over the last few days, perhaps you can help me with another? How do you get your kids to eat??? Mt little one just seems to live on yogurts (ive tried putting fruit in) and only the little smooth fromage frais ones at that! Occasionally will eat weetabix, tiny bits of carrot or broccoli and cheese spread (on its own not on bread) thats it! Another question how do you get them in their own beds??? Weve done it once or twice and shes settled but when something happens that upsets her (mostly at nursery) shes back to bad dreams then in our bed. Im sure ill have loads of questions for you, hopefully soon i will be able to offer advice back, thanks Helen x