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Thank you all I spoke to his special school on Friday and found out that this doctors boss is the psychiatrist who works with the boys at my sons school. I explained to the school what had happened and they got the OT in to see him straight away to work through his anger at the appointment. Once they had found out from him that he has said he will thump the doctor if she interupts him again they have agreed with me that it is not a good idea thankfully. They have contacted the psychiatrist for the school and are trying to get him an appointment through school. The psychiatrist has asked why I want to swap to him and I have given the school permission to tell him why so hopefully as he is her boss something will be done about her attitude. The only thing that concerns me is that I have done all this behind the speciality doctors back as I couldnt face her last week in case I got angry as her attitude is very abrasive when it comes to my son. Well I have to go and see her tommorrow with my daughter so she might be a bit funny Thanks again for the advice

Hi all, I havent posted much on here before but was wandering if any one has advice regarding camhs. I am fuming after my ds's Camhs appointment today, it started off ok talking about sleep and went on to his still being aggressive at home (this doctor told me to call the police on ds last time I mentioned aggression) Well I was actually really proud of ds as he put his hands up today and said he needed help, he said he knows he overreacts and that he gets upset over things he shouldn't and then hits out but that he can't help it and needs help to stop. The appointment went down hill from there the speciality doctor he sees said to him it's not the family's fault that he is grumpy and he needs to get himself under control needless to say this didn't go down well, and I didnt find the attitude helpful but didnt say anything although to be fair at this point ds was stressed but managed to contain his temper. He then tried to explain his point of view and every time he opened his mouth to speak the doctor interrupted what he was about to say and said no this went on for about five minutes with ds not getting a word in edge ways Ds asked her (in his usual gruff way) to stop interrupting but even as he tried to ask she said no again as he got halfway through the sentance so ds told her to shut up. She told him that was rude and he shot straight back that she was the one who was rude and she put her pad down said 'we are stopping now goodbye' and ushered us out of the room! I know he was rude but I have to agree with ds that she was far ruder, to me cutting someone's sentance short and saying one word 'no' for 5 minutes is the height of ignorance but maybe I'm being a little overprotective? My main issue is the state I had to deal with after the appointment, he was shouting and swearing calling her a ###### and saying next time she comes near him he will thump her in the throat and maybe then she won't interrupt. I really don't want them in the same room again a ds tends to hold grudges and he Is very likely to carry through on his threat if she does this again. I don't know what to do for the best as this is my dd's doctor too Any advice would be appreciated,

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Hi I just thought I'd let you know I got my appeal results today. The panel decided my daughter does need a statement. I just wanted to let you know that it can be done as we had very little evidence to start with

Hi I had a similar problem with my DD's school. I wrote a diary for a few weeks of everything she was saying had happened. I wrote all of the times she was struggling with going in due to anxiety and all the times she came out crying and her explanations of why etc. I then applied and used this diary as my evidance. I had to appeal for refusal to assess though (they backed down just before) and then they issued a note in leiu. I then got private reports done by an OT, SALT and ED PSYCH. these were hearbreaking to read but they all stated that school were not aknowledging DD's needs even though they were blatantly apparent. I am waiting on the tribunal decision now which is due on Friday. I have to admit it was worth it just to se LA get torn apart for the lack of support that has been given so far. We all including LA think we have won a statement and I think it was worth all the effort as school have done a 180 on support. I hope you get it sorted

Hi I havent posted on the forum before but I have had this problem from a much younger age. I thought I'd let you know how we handled it. My son did this everywhere as he 'liked the way it felt' and the best way we found of dealing with it was to explain to him that it was a natural thing to do but that it was also a private thing to do. Every time we saw it happening we just gently asked that he go and do it in the privacy of his bedroom as it wasnt an acceptable thing to do in front of other people. It took a while (about a year of constant reminders if i remember rightly) but he eventually stopped doing it in public. I have no idea if he still does it in private and if I'm honest I dont need to know that so as long as it isnt happening in public I am fine with that. Also we did find out that some of it was caused because his underwear felt 'funny' and we changed the type he wore to snug boxer shorts. This seemed to help a bit.