kerrie

he is having problems at school but more in the terms of going to school and is getting abit frustrated there and refuses to do some things. luckily, his behavior isn't bad at school, he saves that for us when he comes home where he is in the worst mood, taking it out on anybody who stands next to him. he dosnt have a problem with speech or language, he had a speech and language go into the school and other than afew social problems although he does have a couple of close friends. the women at the assessment mentioned something about sensory as he chews things and spins around alot, i will have a look on the internet more about vestibular. i just want to say thank you for your reply's, im finding out more here than people are telling me. im just trying to get my head around it all, so i do appreciate it. x

thankyou i appreciate any advise given. what is SALT? i am quite new to all of this. the main thing he needs help with his anxiety, his anxiety levels are through the roof, and i think its having a big impact on everything, school, sleeping, going out to places, how he is with people. do you know what help there is out there for this sort of thing? x

thanks for your reply. hes been to the appointment now, and as far as i am aware it went really well. me and his dad spent an hour talking to someone in a room and ryan went off and did some sort of IQ test. then they said they will be in touch with us and left it at that. just wondered if there was more testing or am i waiting for the results or is there more to the assessment. xx

hi, his assessment went really well. he cooperated with the test which was a surprise. its just a waiting game now. we have got to wait for another appointment to see what they think. its gonna be a long couple of weeks lol. the pediatrician sent us to a clinical psychologist as he couldnt figure out if he has a bad anxiety disorder or if there is a reason for his anxiety such as autism. i guess time will tell. it does make a difference taking them few steps to make things easier. i have always just put it at the back of my mind and tried to live a normal life but it obviously hasn't worked. i now pre warn him about everything, we tend to keep to the same places that he knows, and we don't change the plan through out the day, we stick to what he his expecting. these few things make the day run abit smoother. i have also found that busy places and full days out are to much for him,we usually come back that little bit earlier. it sounds like you are doing everything you can,i do hope you get the support you are looking for, i know how tough it can be. keep strong xx

hi, not been on here for a long time, just happened to come across your post. reading your post sounds like i could of written it myself lol. i have always thought my son ryan has done things a little differently, his obsessions was the main has a young child, like you, he makes friends easily but only if they are into what he is into, he has the ability to make them be interested in what he is into. he has always been pretty much ok at school just the odd comment nothing serious. the only difference that sounds between them is ryan is not in peoples face, he probably a little more withdrawn than that. anyway, at 5 i went to see someone and never followed it up. then, as he went into junior school everything just crashed down on us. he his now really suffering with anxiety and we barely leave the house, he spends most of his time upstairs and if we leave him to it then things are pretty much ok. but he isnt integrated into family life as he should be, barely even looks at his sister, apart from when lashing out. so now 3 yrs on, he is under a child psychologist, pediatrician and as an autism assessment on tuesday. hopefully things don't get worse for you, but if i would of known what was to come i would of followed it up yrs ago, then maybe his anxiety levels wouldn't be through the roof now. xx

hi, i haven't been on here for a while. my son has got a autism assessment on Tuesday at the psychologist team at the hospital. he is 9 yrs old, and it says they talk to us, talk to Ryan (my son) and then do some puzzle/game activities with him. im a little nervous and just wondered if anybody new what type of puzzle/game activities it will be for a 9 yr old? ive looked it up on the internet and cant find anything. any help on this would be appreciated as i seem to be stressing about this alot. x

hi, just wondered if anyone had any advise on how to help my child sleep. hes always been a terrible sleeper and he is just not growing out of it but is getting worse. once he is asleep you dont hear anything from him other than the odd time he sleepwalks and talks. but he really struggles to fall asleep. im lucky if he is asleep before half 10. he is just turned 8 and can handle getting up for school still in the morning. i have chjanged his routine and tried everything, took the tv off lights on lights out reading etc. he explains to me that he hates night time and winter is 10 times worse due to the noises and dark nights. i dont exactly know what it is that is keeping him awake as he refuses to tell me, but he does give odd clues sometimes. he says its his thinking. he says his thoughts keep him awake.i think he thinks to much and is very anxious. any noises make it worse. i really am at a loss with him at the minute. any suggestions would be appreciated. thanks. xx

thankyou, i will take a look online. these will be the first time ive ever seen anybody about any of this so i guess only time will tell.

hi, ive posted on here a couple of times for some advise, and the responce as been great. it really helps. i went to see the school nurse and yesterday i had a phonecall asking if it would be ok to refer him to CAMHS, i said yes and she said she would be in touch and there is a waiting list, which i understand completely. i was just wondering if anybody could tell me abit about them, what is it?, what do they do?, etc...

hi, i have a 7 yr old son who i am having problems with at the moment with being aggresive and also trying to punish himself for things hes done wrong, as in scratching himself, he says he does this because he has been naughty and deserves it. at the moment we r trying to distract him and prevent it. talk him out the situation before it escalates to something quite bad. but we also take away the thing that he most loves at that moment. ( which 9 out of 10 times leads to a bigger outburst anyway.) my son also has the ability to control it if its over something little, but when he really is going on 1, he is like a different person, then when he comes out of it, then he is gutted that any of it has gone off. i havent much experience about any of it, my son is not diagnosed with anything but just seems seems to have afew issues that i find i can relate to on this site. i come on here as it helps me get my head round it all, which helps me deal with it better.

thanks, yeah his sister is 4 and to be honest shes not doing that much to him he has just got no toleration of her, i think sometimes she can deliberately wind him up for a reaction because half of the time its the only way she gets any attention from him. there is times where they play nice together or do something together and she loves it. she isnt breaking his stuff just if she gets in the way of his beloved toys mostly, or reacts to something that he does or say to her, just normal kids stuff, little things like singing next to him, talking to him to much or at the wrong time where as 9 times out of 10, every time is the wrong time.

hi, ryan is 7 and we have just recently been to see the school nurse and she is referring him to see a doctor of some sort, she hasnt said much. dont know if there is gonna be a diagnosis for ryan or if he just has afew issues. im sort of on the fence with it all at the min. he is very emotional, and your writing sounded spot on. he has got a problem with confidence. he will do nothing unless he knows its allowed and its alright by everyone involoved, he only really speaks to the people he knows well at school and dont mix that well with kids he dont know to well. even more so at home. everything he does he needs to show me n tell me, half the time my life is like a constant show and tell class. but i think thats probably a low confidence issue. i am starting to look at things abit differently, as in how we approach things with him, its just knowing how to deal with these things, obviously its quite disturbing when they do this sort of thing and it takes a while to get your head round it, thats why ive found myself on this site. you can get real advise from people who are either going through something similar or have been here themselves. ryan just seems to have no tolerance of people, its like everyone annoys him within 5 mins. ive also seen that he needs to take revenge. ie if his sister does something to him or knocks something over, he will not let it go untill he has done something back to her. obviously this is causing alot of problems because i cant let him break her stuff, throw them around or hurt her etc. he seems to be fine at school, no problems whatsoever.

just want to say thankyou for taking the time to reply. your advise is good and have taken this all on, have had a few words with him and im trying to prevent it before it happens. im trying to show him other ways of calming down, things have improved from last week as i am keeping a eye on it at all times. x

thankyou all for your help and advice, what you saying really does sound like the best way to go, oxgirl your advise sounds perfect and exactly right, so thankyou and i will def be following your advise. ryan has no diagnosis at all, we not even seeing a doctor of any sort with him, i just seem to have alot of problems with him about certain stuff. this is the main one at the minute, another month and it will be something else that is the main concern.