glyno

my sons 11 and hes been in mainstream school since sept.he hates it hasnt been to school since nov we hav a meeting on the 23rd ive spoke to his teacher and she agrees with me that j shouldnt b in mainstream i need to get j statemented first and then i shall go down the road of special school scares me to death but i just want him to b happy and make friends and feel comfortable within school,god knows how long this will all take js lost so much school and wont even discuss it not sure how im ever going to get him bak into any kind of school he just wants to stay in the house everyday only leaving for hosp apps hope all goes well for you.

not that great on the comp where wud i put it lol

help j started secondary school in sept they put him on a part time program things hav gone down hill j refuses to go to school and hasnt been there at all since end off oct school hav been brill and given him all the help he cud wish for but still refuses cahms were concerned about his state of mind and said they thought he was depressed put him on prozac plus melatonin to help him sleep something hes never been good at these dont seem to hav made any difference j refuses to leave the house at all wanting to sit on pc all day his state of mind seems worse than b4 and his sleep pattern is no better ive decided to stop all the medication and c how things go cant c the point in dossing him up with meds when theres no improvment hav to sleep with j everynite and must admit im now at end of tether driving me round the twist if i try to get out the bed even early hrs he wakes even after med i realy need him to go bak to school get him out of this hole hes in and me sum peace of mind i just dont no how were going to acheive it he said hed rather b dead than go to school but hes only 11 he cant not go bak can he

j had his med at 10 just fell asleep thank god hes fine when he wakes in the morning never complains of being tired unlike me lol primary school was great 4 many yrs but last yr j had new teacher and head things just went from bad 2 worse i think the 1st incedent was when a supply teacher told him in front of the class was to stop picking his scabs j suffers with psorasis this made the whole class laugh he was very upset when he came home visited the school she said she cudnt remember saying that but said sorry to j it was a word we never used,then a ta kept shouting in class j hates this she had apparentlet been speaking 2 j and he didnt respond so she thought she cud scream at him in front of the class wich reduced him to tears yet again.this happened on more than 1 occasion hence the fact i spent more time within school than out/ his new form teacher apparentley had taught as pupils but j hated her he had a job at lunch time of setting the tables and his friend wud clear them after his friend was absent 1day so j had to clear them he hates mess didnt want 2 touch the food and refused but his form teacher and 2 dinner ladies stood over him whilst he was sobbing and made him do it when j told me she said it wasnt done that way wich i new was lies 1 thing j doesnt do is lie there were a few more incidents after that wich resulted in me threating a ta school rang and asked me to say sorry wich i wudnt b4 all this j was fine at going to school and even though hes at a different school now the anxiety is to much and he cant cope with it.my heart breaks for him hes told me hes a freak without the as he as psoriasis plus arthritis hypermobility and speach probs plus issuse going to the toilet i think all his probs hav got the better of him and no i dont want him 2 b on anti depresants but if they help im willing to try just want my happy j bak who i havent seen 4 a long time

i didnt realise that j had depression it was camhs that came to this conclusion j had a lot of trouble at his primary school wich resulted in him refusing to go to school his anxiety levels went through the ceiling crying every morning,primary school let him down badley the last 12 months and all his issues hav stemed from then other than a few odd 1s that cropped up throughout school nothing that cudnt b managed i nearly put a formal complaint in but j left now so seems that they got away with quite a lot that as put j where he is now.j is eating more than ever constantly hungry but i think thats boredom he sits on the computer from the time he gets up till he goes to bed hes become obsessive with minecraft watching episode after episode drives me round the twist lol as for sleeping its something hes never done hence the medication off camhs even as a baby he never slept for more than 2 hrs any 1 time things do seem to b improving slightly i hav to stay in bed untill hes asleep sumtimes it can take anywhere from 2 hrs 2 6 so not much fun for either of us but u do get used to it camhs r in touch with the school and we hav had meetings all of us 2gether so we r all in the loop so to speak his teacher is the best and senco at school is brill as is camhs so far justhope this can b worked out 4 j dont want 2 force him into school and make him worse but really want him to b in school

cahms hav just put j on melatonin to help with the sleep issues they hav said j is depressed they want to put him on anti-depressants they will do this when we c them again in 2 weeks but its school hes struggling with hes only 11 just gone to secondary must admit they r brill but im lucky if i can get him there 1 day a week and he only has to go for 2 half hrs but because of his depression i dont no if forcing him will do more harm than good or let him stay at home untill camhs hav his depression under control.he wont even go to the loo now unless i check in there first everything seems to b a battle hate seing him sat in the house allday not going out with his friends.

hi bren my names glyn i also hav a as son when u say ur son is a reclusive teenager in what way my son seems to b getting worse with each day he refuses school most days as been told by cahs hes depressed and doesnt want to leave the house the last few weeks wich is really worrying and help wud b appreciated.

hi i hav an 11 yr old who as soiled throughout his childhood,and like u i felt like pulling my hair out j was seen by consultants at the hosp who kept saying he was constipated and the soiling was a over flow.he was treated for yrs with different medication but nothing solved the problem obviously as j became older it became more of a problem,he was 10 yrs old and wud soil whilst at school sumtimes up to 10 times a day and he just didnt care it was like he didnt even realise what was happening ,to cut a long story short after ys of being treated for constipation we were seen by a constipation clinic who were brill they told me what i already knew j wasnt constipated it was all phsycological,because he had the problem for so many yrs j didnt reconise the sensation of needing the loo he also cudnt smell himself either even those them around could.The clinic were brill they came and gave us some ideas we had a reward chart that when he had say 10 stars on he recieved a treat,we had to get him 2 sit on the toilet for 10 mins at a time use a timer so they no how long theyve been there,hot drinking choclate given 1st to encourage his bowels to move,didnt matter if he didnt go just keep trying and stick to the routine.J still as some problems but no where near as bad he will tell me if were out and he needs to go but still refuses to use any toilet but his own unless were on holiday.I still have to clean j up as he finds it impossible he does try sumtimes but ends with toilet being full of tissue and him still in a mess,but i can cope with this after yrs of cleaning him up so many times in a day it didnt happen overnite but within a few weeks things were better,if hed been diagnosed correctly yrs ago things would of been so much better .j as just been diagnosed with asd so maybe thats y it took us so long to get him clean as i do understand that some children do hav this problem.

hi im new to this group and i just hate that everyday with j is a battle from going to school to going to bed,j is 11 yrs old always new he was different but j was j he never slept from the day he was born at 18 months was given melatonin wich gave him really bad night frights only took them for a few days,i can cope with j being j but hate that every day is a battle he hates so much from bathing and hygeine to school .he only does limited hrs just started secondary and they r brill with him but i know every morning will b the same his anxiety is off the scale sum days i manage to get him there others theres no chance on top oif the asd he as severe psoriasis and arthritis life seems to get harder more than easier just came down to hav a smoke i hav to stay in j room every night till hes asleep because of his nightmares breaks my heart but what can i do